How comfortable are you with talking about about sex with your partner?
In particular, I mean things like:
- talking about safe sex
- giving instruction or suggestions to your partner about how to pleasure you and being receptive to their instructions or suggestions
- expressing to your partner if there's something they do that you don't enjoy and being receptive if they tell you that they don't like something
- expressing what you'd like to do or try (in terms of a specific act, sexual position, etc.)
- sharing your fantasies with each other/asking your partner to try out a fantasy with you
- telling your partner about a fetish you might have, or asking them to engage in your fetish with them
- talking about your sexual history
Feel free to comment about what you're specifically comfortable or uncomfortable talking about and why. :)
- Completely comfortable---we talk about everything.Vote A
- Mostly comfortable---we talk about most things, but there are some things that we are uncomfortable with or choose not to talk about.Vote B
- Somewhat comfortable---we talk about some stuff, but there's a lot that we don't talk about.Vote C
- Uncomfortable---but we do talk about some of these things.Vote D
- Very uncomfortable---we rarely or never actually talk about sex.Vote E
Most Helpful Guy
I'm sort of an unfiltered oversharer when it comes to discussing sex (as if this weren't common knowledge). This accomplishes a few things:
-it scares off the timid, the repressed, and the foolish. Perfect; don't want to deal with them anyway.
-it's leadership by example. If I can be fearless, over and over, so can you.
-it's a teaching tool. I spend a lot of time correcting misperceptions and scooping out nonsense.
-it's connection, a chance to ask "Are you okay with that?", "Are you okay with me?", "Are you okay with you?", "Are you okay?" Useful questions, all.
Finally, it's just common sense. There are no mindreaders, so if I want, I gotta ask. So does she.1