Late/missed period after losing virginity?

[Anonymous]

Hello, So my girlfriend and I lost our virginities to eachother almost 3 weeks ago. We used extra thick condoms and pull out method at the same time. We have had sex 4 times so far. Currently her period is about 16 days late meanwhile she never has been late before. So to be sure, last week she took two home pregnancy tests and both were negative. Currently we are clueless and scared that she still might be pregnant. We live in a country where this kind of thing is taboo, so she's afraid to see a doctor. She did have some spotting on day 10. My question is, is this normal or does she need to see a doctor as soon as possible? Do you have experience with late period after losing virginity?

[drsexthingy]

My girlfriend says it's normal for teens, to have a few months out of a year like that. She says and i quote, " When i was a teen, even into my mid 20s, my period came fine, and in the next month I had more spotting and a single day of light flow for the five days I was on... .. And then the next month, i'd missed my period by 17 days and I had bleeding on the 18th day... 2 weeks early for my next period to be due (32 day cycle) but 2 weeks, 3 days late of my period... Is really normal, the first 10 years after puberty it to be a little erratic every few months at that age. Your body is just trying to recaloberat it own clock."

Well she was typing that, i looked up some possible symptoms of pregnancy, mood swings noticeable, enlarged breasts, slight breast aches, fatigue, heartburn, tiredness, slight nausea, and pushy feeling in belly.

✨Hope you the best of luck ✨

[Asker]

Thank you for your indepth answer, to your girlfriend as well! We are indeed in our teens. Her last period was 2 weeks too early, but now it's 17-18 days late. The problem is though, she's having symptoms she's never had: never been late, sudden spotting, slight local breast tenderness and since today uterial cramps. I am not sure "when" it's too late to start experiencing a whole different menstruation. I was thinking the sexual activity threw her cycle way off. Half of the pregnancy symptoms describe her even when she was a virgin lol. She's afraid to go to the doctor alone, which I understand. I can't be there for her. I am expecting pregnancy (somehow), the two home tests disagreed with me. So it's a bit of a anxiety rollercoaster.

[slinky_the_dog]

It can happen, I've had a scare like that after a one-night-stand. Turns out her period was just late. But I would still see a doctor if possible.

Also, not sure about condoms plus pulling out. Isn't there a risk you'll pull off the condom in the process?

[Asker]

The previous period of my girlfriend was even 2 weeks early, now it's 2 weeks late. Never been late. Can happen indeed, but luckily didn't, I made sure to not let it go. Will be more careful

[slinky_the_dog]

Okay :) Well, periods aren't like clockwork. They're a biological process, so...

[Asker]

True, it's very odd though

[slinky_the_dog]

Yeah. Again, I would see a doctor, if possible.