Why don't black girls have sex with white guys?

[Meaniehead]

I mean since black guys are always trying to get with white girls and seem to pass up black girls for whites why don't black girls go for the white girls? Why don't you see that many black girls that are into alternative rock or dressing rock style and hanging out with white guys? White guys seem to treat women very good!

[LilyBee]

Most african american women are not out pursuing relationships with white american men, and vice versa. It's pretty simple. The reason has a lot to do with racial tension, constructed views on beauty, family upbringing, being narrow minded, the fact that social segregation still exists, etc. You'll find this all over the place, but some groups in some societies tend to date interracially much less, which generally rules out sex.

If you want to get technical, I think at a certain point in history, the reconstructing of the black man's "masculinity" at the expense of black women has a lot to do with the way race relations are. Black men had been made to feel less than human, and on top of that there was a time in our history when white men were having sex with whatever black women they wanted to in slavery. Slaves were coerced into having sex with their masters and often raped and there wasn't much for the black man to do. Even aside from slavery, there was placage for mixed women mostly, but also black women. Long story short, the black man wanted to regain sense of value, masculinity, etc. and you saw this uprising of a a stereotypically aggressive attitude, blacks killing white police officers in movies, etc. There's a lot of history behind this kind of animosity, too much to get into here. My point is it's not something that can be boiled down to a single explanation.

And yes, there definitely is a perception on penis size. I wouldn't know, but I hear black and white women who have been with black guys say they are big downstairs. Whether or not it's true is irrelevant. If you know anything about myths and prejudice, you know that the truth usually only amounts to so much. I think there's a lack of attraction on each side. Although there are black women attracted to white men and vice versa, there are a lot who are not attracted to them, whether that be physically or culturally. There are many who are attracted, but wouldn't pursue serious relationships involving family ties with white guys, if even act on it at all. There are many who are attracted, but still "prefer" black men, and end up having sex with and dating black men.

Your best bet will be the black girls who grow up in the suburban areas or simply in predominantly white areas, have lots of white friends, listen to "other" music, speak a certain way that seems to be most comfortable for the average white american, etc. I've known and seen plenty of girls like this and more than half of them won't go for black guys, they like "other" guys, and usually white guys in my experience.

Finally, who gives a sh*t? I honestly don't care about some pointless stereotype. No offense, but being labelled as ghetto, less educated, worthless, etc. is a bit more serious than you having a small d***. Get over it. Go find a white chick because, honestly, you seem to have way too many issues to even be thinking about going with a black girl. I feel bad for whoever gets stuck in that wreck.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Well mainly they just don't appeal to me. there really is nothing a white guy can do for me that I couldn't find in a black man so the motivation just isn't there. I'm not really attracted to them overall, but I have seen a few cute ones in my life. I did date a white guy in high school briefly so I'm not saying they're all gross but overall they don't do it for me

The thing about it is, you see more white girls going for black guys idk. like you see a lot of white girls that will try to act hood and go to black clubs looking for men but you don't see it the other way around. Probably because the way I was raised, and I think a lot of other AA girls feel the same way, it's just not cute to be chasing a guy like that.

Also I doubt the sincerity of most white guys who show interest in me and black women as a whole. I think a lot of you would love to f*** with a sista and maybe even date her, but as far as taking her seriously I don't think so. if a man is genuinely interested in you, he'll make the first move. that's why I doubt the sincerity of most white guys because why are yall acting like black women need to pursue YOU? You're men, don't act like you're so scared to approach a woman. if you were really into her outside of just a sexual fantasy "i wanna see what its like to be with a black girl" then you'd be able to do that no problem.

You never hear white guys acting like Asian, Latina, middle eastern, etc. races of women should just come to them. no because white guys seem to have no problem approaching every other race of women, but when it comes to black women the roles switch and its like some of you act like black women should chase you. What for?

[babyboy83]

Well it hard to get at any woman race don't matter but where my first girlfriend was white doesn't mean I won't date a black girl and I have my first son is white and my other son and daughter are half black I love my kids the same I just don't see color so ill ask a Mexican girl out to and have to

[Neckbones13]

Amen@pr3ttybrown

[sunshowers]

this is funny. I'm very, very attracted to white guys but I've always felt like if I did try to approach one they wouldn't have any interest in me so I just shy away from it.

[G-Daz]

you should give it a go, you will be surprised on the amount of white guts that are attracted to black girls :D

[Delicious1]

I feel the same way lol

[studmuffin-perfect10]

REALLY! then maybe I have changes with you lol

[PeterCobra]

this is a very common feeling with black girls and there have actaully been studies to prove it. the funny thing is, the same research showed the same anxiety in white guys toward approaching a black girl they like. turns out they are both afraid the other isn't into their kind and they both are attracted to each other for the most part. its like they are on opposite sides of the middle school dance floor looking at each other and no one will make a move. lol. just relax and do it.

[Honeybaby]

PeterCobra I don't understand what the fear is to approach the other person. What is it that causes the fear?

[sunshowers]

fear of not being that person's type. even though we live in the 21st century and lots of things have changed since past generations, I still don't think interracial couples are that common. well at least not where I'm from. so there's also fear of not being accepted and ultimately fear of rejection.

[Anonymous]

on a side note with all the penis talk: if a guy has a d*ck that is above the national average, then you can't keep telling him he is small. its time to start facing the fact that maybe there are a lot of girls out there that have a huge p*ssy. but nobody ever talks about that problem. through the increasing obsession and availability of p*rn, everybody has become obsessed with 13" monster c*cks that are as round as a coke can. and their may by 10-75 men in this world of 6 billion that are like that. and they are all working in p*rn. so get off that hype and get real. and if a 7" c*ock that is decent thickness isn't good enough for you...then you need to do some kegal excercises and tighten that thing up ladies. that's real talk.

and as far as race and penis size: my best friend is a urologist and his partner has practiced 28 years in 4 countries from nigeria to united states. and they both concur that from their pesonal experinces and decades of controled studies...THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE IN PENIS SIZE AMONG RACES. there are HUGE and TINY extreemes in every race group. in fact, the largest penis he has ever seen was on a short, skinny, balding, 50 something french white guy. so go figure.

find somebody that you really connect with and are crazy about and can be your best friend and forget what race they are. enough is enough with wives tales and stereotypes. it is 2011 people.

[hockeydirect27]

I'm a black 20 year old who has dated two girls so far and they've both been white. For me it's not a matter of passing up black girls for a white girl. It's more about how much I have in common with the girl I like. Some of my interest include being kinda geekish/favorite band is coldplay/playing in the orchestra etc. I probably don't sound like the typical black guy..whatever that stereotype may be. My point is that just by looking at my interests, you'd probably assume I'd be better matched with a white girl over black, right? It's honestly confusing to me lol. I find some black girls attractive as I fine some girls of any race attractive. If I don't have anything in common with whoever she is race aside, I just won't date her. I know I didn't really answer your question (sorry lol) but I just thought my answer may help give you a point of view form my perspective.

[Honeybaby]

What you like and what you listen too is more to do with your social background and not your skin colour. The sooner people start realising that the less stereotypes other groups of people will have!

[Meaniehead]

I agree but you have to admit that most black guys are very agressive towards white men! I think it is wrong for white girls to date black guys who are dissrespectful and racist! I have heard many white girls say they hate white men. Imagine how a white child of one of these white hating women feel. I have no problem with dating outside your race but if a black is racist towards whites a white girl should not date him. That is disgusting!

[Texan83]

Haha, I know a white friend that dates only black girls and he recently married a black girl and they are happy together. You are just not looking in the right places. If you are a white guy that likes rap and to act gangster you go to places where they play rap and people act gangster to meet a black girl.

If you like fashion or rock music. Go to stores in the mall or places where white people go. If you see a black girl there she is most definitely into white culture so your chances are high.

[ThatActorGirl]

rock music actually started with african americans, so that's not "white culture"...just saying...you can google it.

[Meaniehead]

Rock music is a broad term. Your thinking of rock and roll. I'm talking about alternative rock and metal and psychadelic rock. you have no idea what your talking about. So why would you even make a dumbass comment like that?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Started doesn't mean it's currently embraced by such currently, amusingly enough. After all, most rock music seems to be white guys. Wonder why that came about hmm.

[xxsassygirl]

Yes the do! I know this because I know a lot of black girls who only date white men.

[ThatActorGirl]

you don't know what black girls are doing at night...hah

[Deeplove55]

Whats that mean?

[Meaniehead]

I think she means that black girls are getting with white guys but don't want people to know; I'm assuming because of black and white racism

[ThatActorGirl]

ummm no... woah, way to take something out of context...i just meant, you don't know what someone is doing in the privacy of their own home, or in their private life for that matter. It has nothing to do with race or racism? It has to do with *you* making assumptions about something that is quite frankly none of your business. And it was suppose to be funny, ya know..like haha?

[Meaniehead]

What the f*** are y talking about?

[ThatActorGirl]

do you not have any reading comprehension...i used pretty simple words...

[Meaniehead]

I didn' t say I couldn't comprehend! I simply using a euphemism as a nice way of saying your comment is nonesense. For example your saying that the comments that you posted on my question are not my business. Lol and you didn't consider that If it was none of my business why are you typing it to me as a response to my question? At the least, very ironic!

[ThatActorGirl]

"euphemism"...wow, you really broke out the big guns, didn't you? what'd you do, look that one up? Your response just proved to me you have NO reading comprehension...i didn't say my comments were none of your business...i was saying that what black girls are doing *privately* is none of your business, so how do you know if they are sleeping with white guys or not...EXACTLY..YOU DON'T! and you know why you don't know, because IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!is that simple enough for you to understand

[Deeplove55]

Its about dating, Thatactor. he is not talking about what we do in the privacy of our bedroom. The question is why aren't black women and white men mostly out IN THE OPEN with it like other races like blk men and white women, white men and chinese women, etc. usually blk women and white men keep it behind doors like they ashamed to be seen together and it don't seem like we want to date each other for some reason and he is wondering why.

[ThatActorGirl]

deeplove, his question title says "why don't black girls have sex with white guys"...thats so blunt and the reason why I said what I said was because, how would he know if a couple is doing the horizontal bop because that's something private. I don't know where he lives, but I know so many black women who are married to white men...and some more who are just dating. I see it all of the time. Maybe he just needs to get out more...or open his eyes.

[Meaniehead]

If it's so difficult to undestand the validity of my question, how come deeplove55 is explaining it in perfect detail. I don't think I need to actualy watch someone have sex to know that if they are not dating they probably aren't having sex.

[kissntell16]

That's actually pretty funny because I've been to Avenged Sevenfold and Three Days Grace concerts and was probably the only black person there let alone the only black girl and the shocked expressions on some of the guy's faces are pretty hilarious. I'm definitely into white guys. They're just so laid back, their sense of humor is totally different from black guys and they take you as you are which puts me at ease because I don't feel like I have to try hard to be something I'm not. Black guys always make fun of me because of the music I listen to, they think I should automatically be into hip hop but I'm just not. They think I'm a nerd because I obsess over the Spartacus series on Starz and Naruto but I hate 106 & Park. White guys don't make me feel that way and it's refreshing. The problem is it's often really hard to tell whether a white guy would have any interest in dating a black girl and I don't want to get rejected =/

[phenixblack]

Naruto yes 106 & park sucks they never show the whole video I get to listen to half a song I'm in my front room doing the sprinkler(kidding kinda =)) and then nothing

[QuizzicalMinded]

Eeeewwww 106 & park *pukes*

[dailyday]

Honestly I don't think its that black girls don't want to date white guys, because me personally would love to date a white guy...I think they are hot as well, and all guys are the same to me so I think its dumb when people say black guys are better or vise versa...The issue I have is approaching a white guy...Black guys are more aggressive when it comes to getting a girl in my experiences...whereas white guys(and maybe this is just towards black girls, I dunno) would probably wait for us to make the first move, which many of us are not used to...this is my view on it

[Meaniehead]

I can't speak for other guys but I try to be respectfull and not make a move until I really know the girl is OK with it.

[peace-love-couture]

I'm part black(not full) and I like white guys,but I don't pursue only one race.

[vivian1234]

I just can't see my self with a white dude I don't know I can be best freinds but relationship I don't think so

[AnonymousDude]

race question.. yet again

I'm sure all people who are black have the same brain... no

people, stop asking these.

[Deeplove55]

These is a free site to ask whatever they want so if you don't like the question, don't respond.

[Meaniehead]

I'm obviously generalizing! you know what that means? Then where does it say that all black people anything? Grow up!

[AnonymousDude]

What are you talking about? This race questions annoy me as it'a always "does X like Y?" because I'm sure anyone can speak for an entire race on what they like.

[Meaniehead]

Buy a dictionarry and look up generalizing! OK then shut up and quit saying your opinion as if it were fact! Get an education before you put others down for their free speach please!

[AnonymousDude]

... but you just put down mine so chill dude, this questions just annoy me is all, I'm not attacking you.

[AnonymousDude]

these questions*

[Deeplove55]

lol Answerer is getting mad over a question. Get over it already

[AnonymousDude]

I'm not mad, just annoyed, even more so I'm not the one who yelled. and I was over, but people keep posting on my awnser...

[Meaniehead]

post

[AnonymousDude]

You're evil like that

[foreverlondon]

I am not sure if I am really in the right to answer this question only because I supposedly "look" black but I am not, I am hispanic, but people just assume the first. I date white guys all the time, in fact I have never even dated a black guy. I think it is important that I mention all my mothers side of the family is white and that is who I grew up around. I think a lot of who we date is who we feel comfortable around, like I grew up with white people so I don't think twice about being with a white guy. I don't think it all has to do with racism or preference though I mean if a black guy were to approach me and he was a good guy then I would give it a shot.

I know a lot of black girls that listen to rock and into that scene just as I am as well.

i Think it is unfair to make generalizations about either race because I know not all white men treat women well, and not all black men have large d***'s.

I feel like when its the right person color doesn't matter.

[Meaniehead]

I always thought people define someone as black to easily like someone who is 1/4 black... they are much more white but called black! wtf? I feel 4 you sweetheart

[Misssixty83]

Interration dating isn't an issue at all in the UK. You like and get on with someone, just go for it, no one even gives it a second glance :o) x

[Delicious1]

i need to move there lol

[phenixblack]

I second that delicious1

[Honeybaby]

That's not true not everyone in the UK date interracially.

[Octagon]

The UK has the highest ratio of interracial relationships anywhere in the World.

[pepper01]

honestly white men don't do it for me sexually. yes some are attractive but I couldn't date or have sex with a white man. I'm black and if I had to choice an ethnicity outside my own race it would be hispanic. its funny because I ONLY get hit on by white men but I always turn them down lol

[italy751]

im a black girl- WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU. if youve never tried it, how can you say that?

[pepper01]

people like what the like and I don't like white men. glad you tried them but its not for me

[Meaniehead]

If a white girl would say she would never f*** a black guy everyone would call her racist. I think some people just like to hurt me cos I'm a white guy. Do you think I'm evil or something? I have a lot of love in me!

[pepper01]

no I wouldn't think a white girl is racist if she said she never would sleep with a black man.. actually my roommate said this and I told her everyone has a preference which is true. do I think your a bad person or evil? NO you seem like a great guy! for me white men can be attractive but I'm not sexually attracted to white men. all I'm saying is people like what they like.

[MrNameless]

There are many black girls out there that do like white guys.

You know what a good indicator it is on a person, to see how open they would date outside their races, in my opinion? Look at the friends/family they hang out with. If a girl has mixed friends of races/ethnicity, she is probably more than likely to be less ethnocentric and be more open to date outside her race, than people who only hang out with their race/ethnicity.

[MrNameless]

I'd like to say that people of mixed races would be more open to dating outside their ethnicities (since they are made up of 2 or more).. But that's not always the case. I think it has more to do with nurture than nature.Like with how they grew up and the people they surrounded themselves with.

[snowboarder720]

ive dated more black chicks than white girls. I was never attracted to a black girl until I went on a trip to North Carolina, and DAYUM. Ever since I came back, I've been noticing them a lot more. A lot of them do have some fine bodies, I won't lie lol

[TyGirl]

Dude I'm black and dress rockish. I love rock like greenday, three days grace, and disturbed. I've always been attracted to white guys. But it's hard to approach then when you don't know if they like you back. It doesn't seem that white guys like black girls. :(

[phenixblack]

untrue approach us we may suprise you

[PeterCobra]

this is a very common feeling with black girls and there have actaully been studies to prove it. the funny thing is, the same research showed the same anxiety in white guys toward approaching a black girl they like. turns out they are both afraid the other isn't into their kind and they both are attracted to each other for the most part. its like they are on opposite sides of the middle school dance floor looking at each other and no one will make a move. lol. just relax and do it.

[TyGirl]

i know. but I'm kinda old fashioned. id rather have a guy approach me. but I will approach him if there's no other alternatives.

[anonymous17]

There are some really racist people on here... what does obama have to do with this question anyway. But anyway I always thought the same thing. I would have no problem dating a white guy if they treat me right I really wouldn't care. But I probably had one white guy ever approach me to say I was pretty so I think black guys are more attracted to me. But either way I don't care what race a guy is

[Meaniehead]

White guys are told all our lives that black people are better than us stronger, have bigger penises, better with girls, can dance better, have better rythm and that we are to blame for the problems in their lives. Maybe we just don't know how to deal with black girls even if we like you we feel like you think we are the devil. It's been beaten into our heads all our lives.

[anonymous17]

Black guys have just as much problems. There is a time when we have to think of people as individuals maybe some people think you are the white devil but most black people dont. But that is like me sayin all white people are racist when really the majority is not racist.

[MtnDewMan]

its one of my deepest fantasies to being with a black women, I never approach them because I'm afraid they will call me cracker or some racist thing. I really wana be with one though

[cheer4life9393]

It all depends where you live. In my area and at my school every black person I know both male and female enjoy listening to rock, wearing Abocorombie clothing, and hanging with the other white kids. And yes we do have a lot of interracial dating between the white men and black women. I myself have dated white guys. But to me its all based on the culture one grows up around.

[Meaniehead]

I wish I knew more black girls that were into alternative rock and stuff like that. There are a lot of white girls here that are into rap but not many black girls that are into rock! It sucks!

[rcazy]

im black! and I'm into rock :D! lol well I'm into all kinds not just r&b, rap, and hip hop, I like country, rock acoustic. its good to be diverse you know lol

[ManaX]

Helllooo!?! Black rocker vintage girl into alternative rock, metal, and indie over here! And yeah, I hang with white dudes. Welcome to the UK :).

[Meaniehead]

Damn. Why you gotta tease us poor americans with hopes of sexy rocker black grrls? Grrrrrrrrr!

[ManaX]

Haha! :D

[phenixblack]

omg I was thinking the same thing I was like ya OK ok NOOOOOOOO

[Mcash83]

For what it's worth, my life long friend who is white, wound up marrying an attractive black women.

[Honeybaby]

Hi meaniehead, I asked a question on my page "Do white men have sex with black women to prove a point". I asked that question because I'm not if the interest of white guys for the women of colour are often genuine and can sometimes put a sister off from even considering dating a white guy. Yet I personally wouldn't consider that type of issue with a Asian or Latino guy.

[phenixblack]

lol to prove a point what is the point =) I'm sorry for all the white guys that treated all these black women like sh*t They are ruining it for the rest of us

[Honeybaby]

The POINT is I can have what you got or being with a brown skinned woman is supposed to be cool, but this doesn't mean that a white guy would consider having a serious relationship with a brown skinned woman (nice to try but not buy).

[PeterCobra]

wow. you sound pretty sure of yourself. I just graduated from a black university and I am white. I saw many of those girls in serious relationships with white guys and even hooked some of them up. 2 are engaged and 1 is married. there are people that will never break this race barrier and will keep stereotypes close to their heart. but its not out of confidence. its out of fear and low self-esteem.