Can you fall in love with someone you've never had sex with?

[Anonymous]

Fist off, my ex has had sex with a few girls in the past but says he's never been in love. We were together for 1 year and 8 months and we didn't have sex (my decision, I'm still a virgin). Now he wants to get back together with me because he says he's still in love, and sometimes he even says that he wants to marry me. My question is: I don't get how a guy can have sex with a girl and not fall in love? Or maybe I am wrong. Also, can he really be in love with me if we never had sex? And does he really want to be with me seriously or just for the sex? I'm confused why he loves me if we never did it! Oh and we've been broken up since the end of 2009, but he was the one who called first after the break up, he's the one who says he misses me, and still loves me, and he can't get over me and all that sweet stuff.

[Ivurie_the_Sweetie]

Yes, he can really be in love with you without having sex. My ex && I loved each other && we both are virgins. Now sex && love making are two different things: it is possible to have sexual intercourse with someone && not have feelings for them if they were strictly having sex for pleasure. But only if he had more than just physical attraction && deeper feelings for the girls is when he wld actually fall in love with them, which wld be love-making. That goes for anyone, guy or girl. As for whether he just wants you for sex or not, I think he may honestly wanna be with u. You haven't really listed anything to make me think he just wants you for sex.

[makesumwake]

sex has little to do with love. sex is a biological urge. its most common to have sex and not be in love. few people are in love, tons of people have sex.

just because people in love do have sex, doesn't mean that having sex makes you fall in love. you got that backwards.

its more common to be in love with somone you havnt had sex with.

because often we fall in love with someone we can never have, and thus don't get the opportunity to have sex.

the second problem is that you are listening to what a guy is saying. guys lie, especially ones trying to get in your pants.

[Asker]

exactly. I think like that actually, like sex doesn't mean love. But when we were together he wouldn't listen to me, he wanted us to have sex. But now after we broke up I actually can see that he thinks differently and even agrees with me. So I don't know if I made him change. But I just want to make sure that he is NOT in it for the sex, but because he really does love me!

[dimples123]

Well if he knows you well that you wouldn't have sex with him. He knows what he is getting into. Test waters and go out on dates. If you still love him of course. I have been wondering this too. Thanks for asking

[asdg12]

I don't see what you're asking. Are you asking can you love someone even if you don't have sex with them? Ofcourse you can, a real serious relationship shouldn't be bases solely on sex. It's just an added bonus that comes with being in a relationship. You don't need to have sex to be in love, it may be something to do once in love or even before, but you don't have to have it. So to answer your question simply, yes you can fall in love without having sex with your partner. Hope this helped

[Asker]

Yes it helps. Its nice to know that there are guys like you who think that sex is really not NEEDED for there to be a relationship. Thanks!

[dimples123]

@asdg12 i agree. But what if the girl the guy loves was the first love of his life and they didn't have sex. And he continues other relationships lqter in life and has sex. Is it possible fornhim To love the first love of his life kore than the other women even if they didn't have sex?

[WAFjordan]

Sex is simply human nature. Guys rele want it because it is appealing, fun, exciting, etc. Right. So of course guys want it. Doesn't mean they are, want, or will fall in love. If you like him. Take him back. If he pushes for sex drop em. If he does love you srx won't be his first thought. He would let you decide wen your ready. Sex has no real connection to actual love. Hope I could help

[Asker]

Yes, you helped. And I will do that, if he keeps pushing me to have sex and we'll have to break up for good. Thanks!

[monkepro]

I'm in love with my girl friend for 2 years and we've never had sex, we want to wait for marriage, also I'm a virgin, and just decided that sleeping around wasn't for me. so like a few other people said sex does not mean love,