My girlfriend says she thought I had a small penis, then says she made a mistake?

[Anonymous]

So I was lying in bed with my girlfriend and she says, for a reason I have no idea why: “Don’t take this the wrong way, but when we went back to your place that time, when we just fooled around a bit, I don’t know, maybe you had a semi but you felt small. But I didn’t even care, and that's how I knew I loved you, because I didn't even care if you were big or small, but then I went down on you and got you very hard and I was mistaken, you are big” I was like “What the hell?” (thinking to myself, I didn't even have a semi, I was fully erect, and her bringing this up kind of taints the memories so far that she was even thinking this the whole time) Then she says: “Oh no, you’ve taken it he wrong way. I was trying to judge how big you were but how it felt against my leg through the clothes, etc etc. But it’s fine, you are good in bed and you use it well. What my point was, is I love you so much that it didn't even bother me if you WERE small” This cut deep, what do you think? Look I am not concerned about the size of my penis, its your average 6 and a bit inch penis – I’ve learnt to accept it. I just don't get why she has to even bring it up, especially after she climaxes so often. Was she trying to be hurtful? I do feel like she is trying to cover up for saying a hurtful thing so now it;s bothering me to the point where I don’t feel like engaging in any sexual activity with her. And when I AM inside her, I am wondering, was she lying to cover up and she is faking RIGHT NOW?

[avenavio]

I think she's both complimenting you, and also wanting to share her (happy) surprise that you were bigger than she thought when she realized what your size actually was - that happened to me once before where somehow I thought a guy wasn't that big (eyes are deceiving), we had sex and it was amazing, and then the next time when I went down on him it definitely wasn't small so it was a cool discovery for me. My original impression hadn't made me like the guy any less, same as how your girlfriend reacted. Sometimes when you are pleasantly surprised you want to tell the person about it because you were thinking "wow, that's cool" and you think maybe they'll think that too, but I guess it came out a little difficult when she said it. Don't hold it against her

[JHAYES317]

@avenavio see it would be a turn off to me that she would care that much about dick size though…

[middleofglitter]

awkward! Obviously it was a foot in mouth moment. Girls are always trying to gage size. Its like Christmas presents sitting under a tree before christmas. You want to know what's inside, but you know you will like the gift anyways since it is a gift. Size doesn't matter if you care enough about the person, like it doesn't even come as a factor because you are so head over heals for someone. Don't think anything of it. She was trying to express that very thought.

[JHAYES317]

@middleofglitter if size truly doesn’t matter then she shouldn’t have said anything

[LittleWing]

Wow.. That's bitchy.. She probably didn't mean to say it.. And probably worded it wrong. But I would NEVER say anything in that context. I'm a very.. complimentary person to the people I love, but I have a very blunt side as well..

This girl probably regrets everything she said.. I think she meant to say, "I love you for YOU & not your appearance."

[GuyAskingGirls]

Well judging by what you say I think she was trying to tell you how much she cares about you. She did say that she doesn't think it's small. What she was saying was that even if you were small she would still be with you because she likes you that much and you are good in bed.

But she said you're not small and also said you were big. She also implied that she cares about you a lot. I would take what she said as a compliment.



She said you're good in bed, have a big d***, and she cares about you a lot. In a world where all a lot of girls care about is d*** size, this girl said even if you were small she would want to be with you. Nothing bad about that

[dtaylor31906]

she was tryna compliment you...maybe it should have came out more like this

"even if out sex wasn't so amazing I would still love you sex is just an added bonus...because you know some women have to put up with small penises and quick pumpers"

[Rosebud24]

She wasn't trying to be mean. She was actually trying to pay you a compliment. Yes, it was a very odd way to say it, but I don't think that she meant to hurt your feelings. Obviously you aren't small so don't focus on that.

[JHAYES317]

@rosebud24 but what if he was small and the opposite happened?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she was just babbling and put her foot in her mouth. She's happy with your sex life and was trying to compliment you, but it came out kinda stupid-like.