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Don't black ladies know that white guys find them hot?

Okay, I have to get this off my chest... I am 38, white and happily married (but not dead). I've noticed something recently that has really begun to bother me... Like I said, I've been married for almost 13 years, but I've always enjoyed flirting. I don't mean that I stare like a creep, but sure, I look, and sometimes I'll even offer some respectful compliments to a lady that I find attractive. Now, me, I find black women just as a attractive as any other women - certain ones even more so, I think. I mean, I just love a nice, solidly built black lady with curvy ass, straight hair, full lips, and that big beautiful smile. The deep dark eyes are to die for, too... But lately, whenever I attempt to flirt with an ebony cutie, I either get completely ignored, or, sometimes even "weird" looks (especially from the younger ones), like "are you really looking at me?" (yes, you're hot!) Am I crazy? Do black women simply not find white men attractive anymore? Is it because I am married? I am not intimidating looking at all... I mean, white women respond to me, when I flirt. What's the deal?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Of course black women find white men attractive. Most of my recent celebrity crushes, I call them my celeb hubby's are white. The like last 3 guys I dated were white. My current boyfriend is white. I can remember his first ever flirty comments towards me was saying he thought I had beautiful brown eyes( I don't like my eyes, his are way prettier there blueish). I think my reaction to any man regardless of color depends upon how exactly your flirting with me. Cause guys can be so rude and can't take a hint sometimes. What you think is innocent she may find disrespectful. I mean if your "cat calling" me from across the street. Or referring to me as baby or sexy. Or staring really long and hard at me I'm obviously gonna ignore you and keep it moving. The only person who gets to refer to me by those pet names is my boyfriend.

    The fact that your married and regularly flirt kinda bothers me.But what if your flirting with a girl and she really thinks your hot and wants to date you?. Then you tell her your married. Omg I would think that's super creepy. Like this dude is flirting with me and married wowza!. I would give you such a funny look. Since it seems that your wife isn't bothered by your flirting I would say just keep it RESPECTFUL. I hope this helps.

  • I'm sure you're very handsome - but shame on you for being married and trying to flirt:) Seriously, I think black women are taken aback if they are not used to white men flirting with them. A lot of black women grow up in all black neighborhoods and attend all black events. So if there is not a lot of opportunities to meet white men, then if they do meet them and a white guy approaches them, it will seem shocking to them or unsettling to them.

    I on the other hand am used to white men flirting with me and asking me out but that's because I've always been around white guys since grade school all the way through college.

    • Why shame on me? I am just flirting; not hitting on these women. I do wear my wedding ring... and I can't help it if I run into a foxy lady during the day.

  • ever since I started working customer service I have noticed I get hit on by white guys frequently. not to sound cocky or anything but I'm pretty so its not like I'm surprised that a white man would flirt with me it just makes me uncomfortable because I live in a racist area so it feels like he's looking at me like I'm a piece of meat and violating me in his head. I'm sure not all of them think like that but that is kind of the "stereotype". also do you flirt with younger white girls also? because the age thing is probably another reason why you get those responses

    • I do flirt with younge "white" girls, and I do not get this response. I've even talked to my wife about it. You are not sounding cocky at all... if you are getting hit on, it's because of your natural beauty. May I ask, why does it make you feel uncomfortable. I was born and raised in Virginia, the Greatest State in the Union... When I see a beautiful women, I don't think of "stereotypes", I just think she's HOT.

    • well that's good you just see the woman for who she is and don't stereotype. I feel uncomfortable because I have always been told that all white guys wanna do is have sex with you and don't see you for anything more than that. I realize that that's also a Stereotype lol but its hard to get out of your head after you've heard that a lot of your life. but once I get to know a guy then I see whether he's like that or not, but that is my first thought especially if he's older

Most Helpful Guys

  • keepin it real here... how come we see black guys with other women A LOT more than black girls with other guys. I know its not like that for all black women but its the majority.

    • thank you..i ask the same questions too...

    • I'm sorry, I don't get this question. Are you speaking in terms of relationships? Like Lesbian mates vs. heterosexual relationships?

    • @tangible its the general idea that black women don't usually find white guys attractive. yet black males will usually date anyone.

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  • Heard black women really love their pussy eat and tongue fuck their tight ass

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  • Nope we really don't expect it so when it happens it catches off guard.

    • Is there a respectful way I can flirt, so as not to catch you off guard? I mean, just the other day, I went to return something at the store, and the CSR was this tall, sexy ebony lady. I flirted by smiling and saying "You look radiant today", and very casually checked her out. When she looked up at me, it was with this "WTF" look, and she avoided eye contact... I just don't get it.

  • yes we know. lol the media may try to make it seem as though we aren't as appealing as other races but I know what's up. white men stare and try to talk to me every day.

    • You are so right. Trust me, many black ladies are very appealing...

  • actually I had sex with a 27 year old white men who was divorced and I'm only 19. he worked out was very hot we still talk I wanna do him again lol

  • yea black women got nice shapes I'm a black women we got the big booty the lips the breast I'm not surprised I love white men too

    • Exactly. I just love those delicious curves...

    • i agree, just because a guy is married doesn't mean you are blind to other womens beauty, I'm sure your wife is mature and understands that

    • Thanks for saying that, because that's pretty much the case. I mean, it's not like I am going anywhere... that horse is already run. LOL

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  • They think your taking the p*ss or something maybe?

    I personally think Ll Cool J and 50 cent are hot

    • What do you mean? They think I am taking what?

    • They think your just lying to get in their panties or thong

  • I do find white men very attractive, but I never knew that white men thought us black women as attractive. The media doesn't necessarily portray us as beautiful, or we are not the face of beauty. The college I attended, I was hoping that I would get to know a cute white guy, but walking around campus they don't even look in my direction. Because of that I thought that black women werent attractive to white men.

  • Some black women don't.. but I find white guys attractive.. would actually like to date one.. but we just aren't use to white guys approaching us so the weird look just might be out of a little surprise ... but I think a good amount do like white guys.. I do at least

    • That's too bad... (about the weird look, and the not used to getting approached)... I know for myself (I have to be hands off, I am married), but still. I like to notice a beautiful girl... I don't hide my attraction. I mean, why should I? I mean, if I was single, I would approach. That's for sure.

    • more guys should be like u!

  • well, I'm white and I don't find black girls hot. so this tittle is wrong.

    • there are beautiful women in every race

  • Just letting you know, no black girl is born with straight hair that sh*t's fake. If it isn't real it will it fall out so those girls are fake.

  • Im crazy about white men <3

    • I just don't get it, then... because from the ladies your age, I usually get the "weirdest" looks...like the (WTF?) look I got today at lunch. Picture this: I am sitting in Food Court of the Mall, and this super-sexy, big tall glass of Chocolate Milk walks right by me in her tight jeans, so I smiled at her, and gave her a gentle "up and down" look, smiled again, and went for eye contact - only to have her purposefully look away...? Too bad, too, she easily had a 40 inch butt...Mmmmm

    • it just be your age

    • lol it probably is your age

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  • I'm a black female. I wouldn't pay you any attention if you were to flirt with me because you're too old for my liking. I find it creepy when older men try to flirt with me or hit on me, regardless of what they look like.

  • No flirting while married. . but yes being an African American woman i find white men to be attractive, and also get complements from white men... were human beings, and if you find each other attractive.. why not

  • I get attention from white guys frequently. I'm not really attracted to most of them and I know that most white guys probably are not trying to take a black woman home to mom anytime soon. Like for example, You're married and creeping on black girls young enough to be your daughter and think that's supposed to be a compliment? Chile please. Most African American women are culturally direct. We're not gonna respond to flirting if we're suspicious that the man doesn't have good intentions or if we don't like where it comes from. That's why younger black women give you weird looks most of the time because we already know what's up.

    • I am not "creeping" on black girls, just looking. And if I found you attractive, I would certainly "take you home to Mom"; I am WAY byeond that...

  • When did black women ever find them attractive for it to be a anymore?rapes during slavery don't count..and maybe caz your old and look older than you really are it creeps them out everyone know y'all start looking to young ones so u'll be the sugar daddy..plus we know its their fantasy but like most women we want a relationship not just meangless sex! Go home to your wife there's a reason you couldn't marry another

    • "...rapes during slavery"... Mlle., I am Russian; my family is only 2nd generation American. I was the first person born in the USA in my Father's line... where did this come from?

    • idk I was talking about Americans that have been here so long they don't know theyre ancestry...Merry Christmas..sorry for the rant I don't really care about race anymore its none of my business what their motives are,its not my life!

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