Female masturbation and orgasm

[Anonymous]

I asked a question a while back on sex toys for girls. I found the advice helpful and although I got quite close, it wasn't amazing. I'm a single girl and I'm quite happy like it. but I'm getting really quite sexually frustrated! I don't want any casual relationships with sex, I want to stay single but I'm struggling to pleasure myself. Girls, have you got any tips at all? I'm getting desperate here! It's so frustrating I can give guys the time of their lives but can do like zero for myself grrrrr! Please help!

[Anonymous]

Sometimes we just get frustrated with the idea of masterbation. You may be there. It might not be the toy as much as it is your mind. I know how hard it can be for women to reach orgasm if thier mind is not in the right spot. You may have the perfect toys to be accomplishing what you need to right where you want to go, but what is going on in your head when you are doing it?

I know that I spent a part of my life where my masterabation had hit a all time high.but every time I did it, I would get angrier at the fact that I was having to masterbate, and not having actual sex. Before I knew it.I was stroking myself forever, but not able to get myself off.and trust me.that is really strange for a guy. I can only imagine how difficult it can be for a woman.

My suggestion is to lose yourself to your fantasy. If you are just masterbating out of habit, you proabably are thinking about the wrong stuff.and your mind is stopping you from getting to that high point. Get lost in your head. Really go crazy with your imagination and let the fantasy take over your mind. If you quit thinking about everything else.including whether you will climax or not.you mind end up having the best orgasm ever.

good luck.

[Aditya]

Intresting question, the moment I read it completely I remembered "Betty's Tongue" (saw it in Graham Norton show on youtube)

Seriously seems like we share a similar situation, I can get a gal to come and times just in the foreplay itself.by the time we try the real thing, she is too spent and that does leave me wanting.shucks but then those are cons of selecting a life of remaining "single"

U know ur anatomy best including the sensual points.other than the one between ur legs.have you tried pulling those to the extremes, those are the pressure points varied amounts of concentration on them other than ur clitoris or g-spot, can make the over all experience more pleasurable.enough to make you reach the pinnacle

[beachtexasgirl89]

well the clitoris is the most senstive part of the female body. I suggest you get comfortable with yourself before you touch it. Breathe heavily, and I have to tell you, watch porn! preferably girl-on-girl (yes, I know, weird) or anything that focuses on the girl. That way you can relate to the material, even if you're not a lesbian. (Seriously, can you relate to a guy getting a blowjob?) Anyway, do that, and start touching your nipples, and then eventually make your way downstairs. Focus on the clitoris. The actual vagina is not sensitive at al!

And any guys reading this.do not message me, thinking I'm a sexual freak. I'm not. We all masturbate.

[Anonymous]

id have to know what you've tried that hasn't worked for you in the past, but your fingers work quite nicely if you're good at hand eye coordination

[iKanu1]

Sweet girl,

this is gonna suck to hear, but it works...go solo, nada for at least two weeks,

if you can help it, a month.

There is going to be such a "varrey" < made that word up, to your body and especailly your mind, where it's going to go through such a wild ride, and the best idea is going to come to mind when you least expect it.

The most likey is when you're asleep.

And it's going to be the best sensation ever, after you've awaken.

i am being true to you!

try to trust me on this one1

[adat1408]

Buy a massager from any girly store, and use it down below. That way, you don't have to be embarrassed to buy a toy.

[TweetiByrd]

My ex loved the clothes washer on the spin cycle with an unbalanced load.

[canadianguy58]

go for the g spot and the clit and some simulator

check out the sex 102 channel on youtube

[Geno44]

Sometimes a vibrator can be a girl's best friend and right on the clit should help you have a good orgasm. The guy that mentioned about where your mind is I think hit the nail right on the head. If I'm not thinking about sex and what I'm feeling while I am masturbating I loose it too.

[Anonymous]

I agree with volleyballgirl87 she has its right on the bat!

lesbian porn is the best even if you don't like girls, its hot