Guys, Why does my boyfriend think I'm a sex Addict?

[Anonymous]

THIS IS ME: So I'm an incredibly sexually active female and I enjoy having sex with my boyfriend at least three times a day and I want to either perform or receive oral sex multiple times a day. I love morning sex, sex when he gets home from work, I love giving him blow jobs and handjobs when he's driving, I love quickies, I pretty much love anything to do with me getting off or him getting off. THE PROBLEM: My boyfriend thinks I'm a sex addict and thinks I should go to therapy. He claims to love it but doesn't want me to get out of control with it. I really don't understand what the heck he's talking about because all I want is him, I'm only in love with him, and I just want mind blowing sex from the man that I love. We just graduated from college and we've been together for three years and he claims that ever since he took my virginity a year and a half ago I'm like a freaking nymph. what the freak!?!?! I'm so confused with him. He's as into to the sex and oral sex as much as I am but afterward he claims to worry about me for it. what does that even mean? Okay so maybe I take it bit far with dirty text messages and pictures but geez...I was a virgin for so long, this phase I'm going through will pass right? I'm so frustrated with him and I DON'T want to see a therapist about it. that's embarrassing...help! How do I make him understand this is just me, that I simply love sex...with him.

[Prism]

Damn... what most guys wouldn't give to have a woman like you! LOL. Seriously, there is nothing wrong with you, you don't have a condition and you're certainly not a sex addict or nymphomaniac.

The best way to make him understand is to just talk to him, and make sure he understands it's only him you're like this with, or else he's going to start wondering about you going elsewhere, which I'm sure isn't the case.

It's common knowledge that if a guy can sexually satisfy his girlfriend, then she will be the one hounding him for sex. It's not a nympho or addict thing. It's a, "I love you so much and you do me so well" thing, which is absolutely normal :) Just talk to him, and give him that ego boost that he deserves, but probably doesn't need ;) LOL

[Asker]

Exactly, I thought that was what guys wanted in girls, but apparently some guys like it but think it's a little odd too, I don't know, lol. And yes, he's freaking awesome at what he does and I guess that's why I want it so much...Thanks for the advice and kind words, I really appreciate it!

[Littletad]

That is one lucky boyfriend. Regardless, there is such a thing as too much sex. Is it really that bad? Yes and no. Yes that it might lead you to do other things. Sometimes being a sex addict might make you more inclined to doing new things. This is where couples get in trouble by allowing swapping partners or threesomes or even further scenarios. This is probably why he suggested the therapist issue. No in the fact that you're new to all this. Eventually you'll slow down, if just a bit.

I think your boyfriend should enjoy it while it lasts, however long that is. But do try to see his concerns.

[Anonymous]

You two have different sex drive levels, clearly. Talk to each other about it rather than you seeing a therapist on your own. You aren't a sex addict because it doesn't interfere with your daily life. You just have a high sex drive compared to your boyfriend's.

[Asker]

Thanks girl! for the great words and sound advice, I will definitely take it and talk to my boyfriend about this. I really don't want to see a therapist for a problem I don't think exists. :-)

[Opinion Owner]

You're so welcome! Definitely talk it out with your boyfriend before you do anything. :) Good luck.

[poulette12]

It seems like sex is all you can think about. I don't think it's supposed to be like that ALL the time. Maybe it's just a phase. But he's got a point.

[Asker]

lol. It isn't all I think about. Yes, I want morning sex before he and I go to work and I just happen to get home before him and I want sex when he arrives. I still cook, clean, keep a steady job as a elementary teacher, maintain nice and healthy hobbies/interests, hang with friends and family and more. I just want an orgasm on a regular...if that makes sense

[Anonymous]

A sex addict is someone who's sex interferes with their well-being in life. You are just a reg. girl who enjoys sex (high sex drive.)

[Asker]

Thank you! this definitely does not interfere with my well-being and every day life.

[TheStrugglingEnglish]

You sound perfect! But you can go more times in a day than he can by a lot and he might just be tired/spent more often than you leading to him being frustrated. I am sure he loves having this problem.

[Phoenixamaranth]

Forget him, you're exactly what I'm looking for! ;)

[Asker]

lol ha ha nice.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Holy hot I want a girlfriend like you :P I'd totally be banging someone like you at every opportunity I think. Sure some days I might not be in the mood, but I'd so love to have morning, lunch, afternoon, night, whatever fun :P

[debsman]

I wouldn't go as far as saying addict. It so happens your sex drive is higher than his for the time being. Your drive will eventually slow down in time. For now try to enjoy that drive as much as you can, be it with him or toys.

[Asker]

Toys? Oh wow, I never thought about that. Good idea, thanks!

[debsman]

You're wel-cum.

[destroyer]

Ahaha, a girl with a sex driver higher than the guy. You don't need therapy, just explain how much you love sex, especially with him (boost his ego and stuff). If he can't keep up then you'll probably end up having to cheat on him or find a new boyfriend with a sex drive as high or higher than yours

[Asker]

lol, well I don't think my sex drive is higher than his because he seems to be happy or content whenever I want it. it's afterward that he has something to say about it. when I met him I was extremely innocent and inexperienced, but now that I'm not the little virgin that I once was I don't think he can handle my...not so innocent side. :-/ ..eh whatever, I'll boost his ego and even talkt o him about it, thanks!

[Swampwater]

your boyfriend is gay. or afraid of cooties. :P

[answer-all]

um y may he think your a sex adict? MABY BECAUASE ALL YOU DESCRIBED WAS SEXUAL ACTS THROUGHOUT THE DAY. it seems all you think aabout is sex. you should prallly seek some help

[Asker]

lolol I described morning sex, evening sex, perhaps night sex, quickies here and there and a little something on the way to other places. not much...well now that I read over it, it seems like a lot but really it isn't. Well, I don't think so anyway

[Prism]

You probably only think that because you need a woman like that in your life. There's nothing wrong when a guy wants it 3 times a day, but there is when a girl does? Really? LOL if you could please a girl so that she gets like that you wouldn't be complaining, bud

[answer-all]

bro, I wouldn't want a chick that only thinks about f***ing. that's a bit much

[Asker]

lol okay, wait a minute now, I'm not just some big freak without a life now, that's not all I think about. I'm a college graduate on my way to law school, I maintain a steady job and social life, I'm very active in community service, and I have a splendid life outside of sex, believe me I do. I just happen to be a female that enjoys it...immensely lol. :-) Just to let you and others know. don't want you to think I'm just some insane sex head. Thanks Prism, at least you get me! aahaha

[longdong]

hey you can give me oral sex anytime you want, I love sex

[Anonymous]

When you wait longer in between times you have sex it feels better. He is loosing the appeal to sex because you two have different sexual activity levels. talk to him, you guys can find a balance I know it!