I want to marry a SLUT!

[Anonymous]

Ok, so I know the headline is alittle crazy...BUT, it got your attention! :D ...So seriously my question is this...outside of main stream mania that serves to program us from the day we are born. I have been searching for my true love...she is a swinger, sexpot, slut, whore...one crazy erotic Dominatrix BITCH (meant in the nicest of terms)...BUT...and here in lies the difference ladies and gentleman...as promiscuous as she may be (swinger slut)...in love and devoted to me...as I would be her!...really, is it to much, or to little to offer a women the best of BOTH worlds? Now almost 40, :( and I will NOT settle for less then this woman...been searching for over 20 years...probably die alone...but at least I was true to what I want!

[l-hedoniste]

This'll be easy, IF you pull it off right.

First, drop that word "slut" from your vocabulary. Chances are, she's heard that word way too much down the line, and not in a nice way. If it falls from your lips within earshot, you're done.

Worse, it portrays an attitude--a precise rejection of your girl's chosen lifestyle. She will not--and should not--deal with a man who'll think of her that way. You can have this girl, you can have the word "slut", but you cannot have both. Lose one, right now.

Also, be patient. Despite popular myth, these girls don't stay single long--we snap them up fast. Most of the promiscuous women I know are in (swinging or open) marriages, and I've never even *heard* of one being single. If you need her as a primary partner, you're going to have to catch her in that rare moment where she's between primary relationships.

In the meantime, read up. Maybe it's the girls I hang around, but the promiscuous girls I know are all very, VERY smart--book-smart, sex-smart, life-smart--an all-around brainy lot. Have an impressive command of something, be willing to learn from someone smarter than you (she very likely is), and whatever you do: NEVER try to bullsh*t her--she can smell it at a half-mile.

Finallly, be clear on what you want. If "devotion" to you means "monogamy", then it would be pointless to date the open relationship/swinger type. They would bring to the relationship precisely what you don't want. For the same reason, if you want a domme, don't date subs, don't date vanilla. This should be obvious, be we both know people dumb enough to believe they're having a phase--a twenty-year-long phase. Don't be one of those fools.

Be patient, keep your eyes open, put on your best smile. You'll get her.

[Asker]

Xper--- Thank you for your advice...and I've already begun the journey. I particularly liked this statement... In the meantime, read up. Maybe it's the girls I hang around, but the promiscuous girls I know are all very, VERY smart--book-smart, sex-smart, life-smart--an all-around brainy lot. Thank you for the mature straight forward answer...

[Ephedrine555]

Wow what a very well considered response lacking criticism judgment or condescension and while a man and as such often eliminated from consideration Within debates in a closed group as women tend to be I can tell you this while never imagining it a good idea to lead with such I have found the most contentment in relationships with women who were openly promiscuous and willing to share their interest in it and desire to be polyamorous and the reason why was once eliminated as a potential issue they needed to be just honest about that was frankly nothing more of great significance died we wound up getting into arguments over and her interest for willingness to be a vixen at least in the most memorable case was like a dream come true for her as she in fact did want the intimacy security and comfort of knowing that we were legitimately committed couple at the same time knowing I would encouraging enjoy her being polyamorous resulted in a deeper Trust then obviously and apparently any of the other relationships I might have had where my partner did creep so I don't know what are the downside is necessarily but primarily just wanted to comment on your professionalism in making the response and addressing it with the manner and level of respect you people are entitled to

[38rakia38]

Sounds like you gotta case of the "Madonna-Whore complex".

Go google that if you're confused.

All men have this complex.

They wanna f*** the whore, and marry the Madonna (who in essence is like their own mother, creepy huh?).

Sounds like you got the complex a little backwards...

Unless your mom was a swinger or something who was dominating, in which case, that totally makes sense.

[l-hedoniste]

Most guys with the Madonna-Whore complex won't marry the whore. That's a bit of a reversal.

[38rakia38]

I know it's usually marry the madonna, I kinda sorta mentioned that when Madonna-whore complex came up.

[Anonymous]

I'm trying to wrap my brain around this & learn what you mean. Will you help me out?

What does "devoted" mean to you? What does the "best of both worlds" look like? Do you want her to have sex with a bunch of other men/women?

[saphirasilverwings]

If that's the choice you want to make, go for it. But will you really be happier if you stay single forever than you will be if you decide to compromise?

[anonymous1422]

Eek hun that's messed up. Shoot more conservative if you want to find love

[l-hedoniste]

What he wants, he wants. Let him have it and be happy.

[anonymous1422]

I am happy for him to go after sluts as he calls them. Just want to make sure he knows that women like that don't exist in many places

[diamond3]

babe that is y you are almost 40 and single! lol but hey good luck

[Anonymous]

I would love to marry a whore p*rnstar, slut type of women,

[Anonymous]

You can't turn a hoe into a housewife. You might want to adjust your standards a bit.