What does it mean when a guy doesn't finish more than once?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing this guy for 2months now. We have slept together 3 times throughout the two months. Every time we end up sleeping together he never finishes.He says all that matters is if I get mine and he loves to please me however I feel the same way. Either I get tired and can't anymore or he gets "leg cramps" and has to stop. I'm 5'2" and he is 6'4" plus he is really big down there and my body can't handle it. He does run track so maybe the cramps are for real. I'm just not sure if it's me. Am I really that bad? Granted I have only slept with 5 people my whole life but still this has never happened to me before. I have really strong feelings for him and I want a relationship but he doesn't. He says "If it is meant to be, it will be". Please help

[John-Bee]

He is probably masturbating too much. If he has not had a girlfriend for a while what else can he do?

NOW the problem is that he has become a bit desensitized & is too use to the rhythm & pressure of his own hand. If he would stop for a while he should be ok. There is nothing wrong with masturbating. He has a girl who wants to please him &makes herself available to/for him.

On the days when he is not going to see you & the mood strikes well then have at it but otherwise save up for you. I can only say that it feels soooo much better to finish inside a girl than the other. He is missing out on his pleasure & now is making you concerned.

NO you are not bad at it, because of the above mentioned reasons.

I'm a lot troubled with the statement "if it is meant to be." Sure we don't want to just jump into saying I love you BUT he has to know if he likes you a lot & thinks there may be a future or if he just likes "IT" and sees no future

[Asker]

He said the last time he had sex was 8months ago with his x fiance. He said that he doesn't masturbate. He says that his last girlfriend was his best friend for 4years before they started going out. He says that's better to be friends first that way he can see different situations that come up and see how she acts in those situations. I have been telling him what I want and he says he can't give me that right now. He said I need to stop rushing and let things happen.

[John-Bee]

I can tell you one thing. If I guy isn't having regular sex ( and even if he is) there is NO WAY he is going 8 months without masturbating. You can ask on this site if it is possible for a guy not to masturbate for 8 months. IF he wants to be friends FIRST then why are you having sex with him & he with you? It's just my opinion & I'll you that most of it is B.S. I wish more guys answer this question for you. Try posting it again later copy & paste your comments about him not masturbating.....

[ilovelegs]

Well first you've slept with enough guys to know that isn't normal. You haven't gone with him very long yet and it sounds to me like you and him aren't that sexually compatible. It's unusual for a man to not finish. You say you have strong feelings for him but does he have the same for you too? If he says he doesn't want a relationship then why are you two together trying to have one? A good relationship doesn't happen just because it's meant to be or not. The people involved have got to want one and then try to make it happen. That's how it is with everything else and that's how it is with a relationship too. If you both don't try to make it happen it won't!

[enrgizerbbunny00]

ask him if he wants to stretch before sex LOL!

sounds like a hard situation :/

[BottomOfTheOcean]

have sex when he isn't doin track an see if he gets cramps.

[wannabe]

when he's out just pin him down to his back, I know this will be hard nd give him BJ, he'll let you nd maybe he only likes to finish this way as you said that he's very big, guy can get too fast nd out of control when they finishing, so he might not want to hurt you at that moment, try to finish him with ur hands nd mouth, if ur lucky he might let you and he'll realize that you understand him