I answered a similar question before, but I'll write it up again, because...damnit, 90% of women have no clue how to give a good blowjob. I feel obligated to do my part in educating the world.
1) Use your hands!
2) Use your hands correctly!
Do not just grab the base. I hate it when a girl grabs the base and shifts the skin up and down. You have to let the penis slide through your hand, getting the correct friction. Be very attentive to whether or not you are tugging and letting skin shift up and down rather than sliding. Work on the downward motion first, because it is the easiest. Upward is more difficult. When coming back up you have to squeeze just right. Concentrate on the head, its where all the sensitivity is.
3) Things to do with your hands
Let the penis slide through your hand and into your mouth.
Hold the penis sideways against your lips with your hand, palming it and rubbing it with your hand while you go back and forth with your lips and tongue.
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4) Switch it up
Occasionally, palm the penis against your cheek, neck, or breasts. Get a lick in where you can while you do it. Smile while you do this.
5) Smile
All the p*rn stars have one thing in common. They smile! A guy loves to think your are liking sucking his d***. We don't get off as easy when we think you are doing a chore. Practice thise seductive, confident smiles in the mirror. IT can make the difference between a 15 minute bj and 1.5hours.
6) Keep it wet!
Dry hands and lips feel much worse than wet ones. Keep a glass of water near the bed or nearby. Make sure you have plenty of saliva. It is the lubricant here. Some guys even like it when you drool on their penis, but you'll have to experiment with this. Just don't hok up a nugey or anything. Unless your with a real pervy guy.
7) DO NOT BOB
The standard blow job is too just bob up and down letting your lips slide up and down. BORING!
You can bob, but always alternate moves. Do the palming thing I talked about. Try to rub the penis on the inside of your cheek. Or suck it into your mouth and hold it there while you swish like you would with mouthwash. Keep changing it up.
8) Try different positions
Some guy may be more into it if you are on your knees and he is standing. Some guys just must lay down. Some guys love seeing your vagina with some 69 action while you do it. Personally I come faster when I am standing, or playing with the p**** at the same time. Test it out with your guy and see which makes him come faster.
9) Hot and Cold
If you really want to try something new get a hot drink and an icey drink. Sip some in and then go at it. Alternate between hot and cold. This releives some numbness and hightens sensitivity.
Experiment!
10) Do not rush to the finish!
You don't have to bob up and down at 300mph. I hate that. Go slow and passionate, let him feel every crease and bumb of your lips and tongue. Some guys may like it faster than others. experiment. I personally really enjoy a super slow gentle blowjob.
Wow, I gotta say it feels weird trying to teach someone how to give a Blowjob.
Hmm... Well, a few pointers
1. Don't go trying to swallow him whole right off the bat. I love it when my girlfriend teases me endlessly in anticipation
2. Don't ignore the balls. they can be just as much a source of arousal, but be VERY GENTLE with them. they are incredibly sensitive, but if approached right, can do wonders for his arousal level. I'd say when done right, it triples my arousal
3. Don't just suck on him. kiss him, lick him, run your fingers along his shaft. trust me, you'll send shivers up his spine
4. pay attention to the frenulum. link
possibly the most sensitive part. if he's circumcised, he may not have it, but if he does, just running your tongue or finger along it will do wonders
5. Don't suck too hard. No guy wants to feel like their penis is in a vacuum hose. And it can get painful.
Do NOT watch p*rn for pointers. NOT THE WAY TO DO IT. If you copy p*rn, you're more likely to hurt your guy than get him aroused
And be honest with your guy. If the thing needs a cleaning, let him know. don't be straight up "eww that's nasty" but let him know. If he's a good guy, he'll appreciate you telling him
Anyway, best of luck. Message if you've got questions.
haha I was gonna say the whole teasing thing .. I believe its what girls enjoy the most... the teasing i must say this does feel weird xD
Well, I can't speak for others, but I love it ;) And one thing I forgot. If you're enjoying it, for whatever reason, let him know. It's an enormous turn on. Even just a grin at him while you're in the process will make him feel that much better. Don't fake it tho. If you don't like it, don't pretend to.
1. Start off by teasing the f*** out of him. Lick, kiss, and suck on the tip, then down the shaft, and pay attention to the underside of the tip (the frenulum). Eye contact is important in this part.
2. Don't just move your mouth up and down on him. Make sure you suck on his d***...you should be sucking to the point that you have your cheeks hollowed out (but not to the point where you seem like a vacuum!). Don't worry about making awkward sucking noises, it's just part of the deal.
3. Make sure that you use your hands on whatever you can't get into your mouth. Don't squeeze too hard, but some pressure is good.
4. When it comes to giving head, the sloppier the better. Make sure it's really, really wet, or he will experience uncomfortable friction.
5. DON'T TRY TO DEEP-THROAT IF YOU DON'T KNOW HOW TO! Of course, most guys think deep-throating is pretty hot, but, if you go into it naively and overzealously, you might gag, which is not hot. If you want to try a little deep-throating, my advice is to relax your throat, and lengthen your tongue so it's sticking out of your mouth (it sounds silly when described in text, but it really works).
6. My man REALLY likes it when I make moaning noises when I go down on him. Not only is it hot to listen to, the vibrations from the sound apparently feel pretty good. Also, tell him how turned on you are, how wet he gets you, etc.
7. Don't ignore his balls. But, PLEASE don't grab them like a pair of tennis balls. You can gently touch them. And, my man likes it when I suck on them while jacking him off. Just make sure to keep your teeth FAR AWAY.
8. The underside of his penis is more sensitive. So pay attention to it by licking it while massaging the tip and frenulum with your hand.
9. Decide whether or not you are comfortable with swallowing his come. Personally, I find it erotic and a turn-on to swallow, but I know some girls who find it disgusting. The taste will differ depending on what he's eaten (tell him to eat a lot of citrus for good tasting come), but it's really not that much come to swallow. If you're not comfortable swallowing, ask him to tell you when he's coming (plus, he will tense up when he's about to come), then you can remove your mouth from him and jack him off until he finishes. If you are comfortable swallowing, make sure you don't gag on his come. Or, you could finish him off with your hand and then lick it off (my boyfriend likes that). He can also come on your boobs, stomach, etc.
10. I doubt you'll have this problem, as most don't, but don't be embarrassed if it takes some time to get him to finish. My boyfriend takes 30+ minutes to ejaculate, despite the fact that I am supposedly good at head (I've been told so by more than one source). If your jaw gets tired, use your hand. If your hand gets tired, there's nothing wrong with asking him to "work on himself." It's your first blow-job, and practice makes perfect.
All these tips are great but really, every guy is different. My boyfriend for example does NOT like the head teased or sucked or any of that, just the shaft is fine. If I suck too hard it hurts, if I tease the frenulum it's too funky. He likes it gentle at first then really fast towards the end.
One of my exes liked it furious from the start, others liked sucking, others didn't. Some like more head, no shaft, it really depends on the guy.
The most important thing is to PAY ATTENTION to what he's doing. Moaning and hard breathing good... quiet scrunchy faces... might be painful...might be good... You can always asks if he likes it. You can ask him to direct you, help you out. He knows his body, he knows how he likes it, trust me.
Like everything else in life and relationships, communication is KEY to everything! He might go p*rno on you, which means, he'll grab your head (or hair) and teach you how to do it...whether or not he's subconscious about it. Take the hint. If you don't care that he does this, fine, just go with it. If you DO care, say something the next time. Ie. please don't do that... especially if you have learned how to do it.
Me personally, I don't like being 'directed' that way but if it's the first few times If I have to learn his rhythm I'll let him do it, but then make a comment so he stops doing it. Some girls don't care and some LIKE being directed like that.
So it depends on the both of you. This is an intimate experience for both of you. By the way, some guys like eye contact, some don't. Some get creeped out by you looking at them while doing this and some get turned on like rockets.
Talk to your guy, maybe during or after, and figure it out from there. :)
btw, I HATE the taste of cum, so have something to drink (doesn't have to be alcohol) nearby and then go drink it afterward to get most of it down. If that doesn't work, get some pineapple or something tasty to eat to get the sh down. If you time it right, he'll come near the back of your throat so most of it will go down on it's own. The problem is when you don't time it right and it's in your mouth...then it's stuck for days in there. Yuck. OTOH some girls either don't care about the taste or love it.
I'm giving you the option in case you decide to swallow (you can also opt to spit it out or let him do it elsewhere) and you find out you don't like the taste. For me, spitting it out makes life worse because then it gets all over my mouth and I'm tasting it forever. It's gross.
Why do I do BJ's even though I hate it? BC the boyfriend likes it. Left to my own devices? No thanks. Oh and you do have that option too, if you hate it, don't do it. Some guys are OK with you not doing it. I don't hate the actual bj, I hate the come so for me, it's sometimes a precursor to sex. But since you aren't there yet, I don't recommend that route for you.
Maybe this could help you:
First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.
It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.
Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.
Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.
A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.
When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.
Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.
Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.
Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link
I am now in a better mood. Thanx.
@cindys ever suck a black one?
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-Enthusiasm: This is a nice one; Remember this is probably one of the more intimate ways you're going to get to know him, and despite you doing most of the work, he may be a little nervous that you might not like his member. It's great in a BJ if the girl gets into it and seems to enjoy doing it too, it heightens the pleasure. Imagine it reversed, and he's eating you out; Wouldn't it be better if he seemed totally hot for your juices, rather than just kind of doing it like it was something he had to do, but didn't want to? You don't need to go crazy on it, just show him that you like it, and you enjoy doing it, it'll only help, I think.
-Variety: The penis becomes more desensitized to pleasure if the same stroke is used repeatedly, so try and vary what you do. Full, half, a little, a lot, kisses, just soft light hands, just tongue, ice cream cone, lollipop, tongue twister. Variety can even extend to things like looking up at him while you do it, or talking dirty to him.
If things go well, even suggest you both do it, give and receive: Case in point, 69.
Well, I was never really into it that much, my ex appreciated the fact that I didn't want to do it all the time (I think).
The only tips I could give is just to me soft and gentle at first. I am uncircumcised, so psychotic blowjobs are painful.
Could always watch some p*rn as well.
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