What are some good techniques to finger my Girlfriend for the first time?

[Anonymous]

kk so the other day my Girlfriend asked me if I could finger her tomorrow and I said yes... but I have one problem. I have never fingered a girl before and have no the slightest clue about what I should be doing when I am. Does anyone know good techniques that I could use when I am fingering her and by the way she is a virgin. I don't know if that changes anything but some people tell me it makes it more painful. Any help would be greatly appreciated. thanks.

[Anonymous]

Okay, first make sure your hands are clean and your nails are trimmed. No sharp edges, please!

Start off slow. Make out, kiss, rub her body and breasts over her shirt. Make her want you! Then slowly move your hand to the inside of her shirt. Don't get in her pants yet! Caress her and tell her you love her, maybe kiss the hollow of her neck. Rub her lightly on the outside of her jeans, tease her. The whole point is to go slow, tease her, and make her wet (if you just jam your finger in from the start it will be painful and no fun for anyone).

Keep making out, maybe she'll give you a little action too ;) Then put your hand on her stomach and run one or two of your fingers along the rim of her pants, and inside a little. Go back to making out and lightly touch her upper thigh and outside her jeans. Then run your thumb along the inside of her pants. She'll get antsy, which is good, she needs to be wet.

Finally, when you think she's had enough teasing, unbutton and unzip her jeans. Take them off if you want, or just slip your hand in (taking the time to take her jeans all the way off may ruin the mood). Don't go underneath her panties yet. Run your finger along her lips (still outside of panties) and clit. Slip your finger inside her panties to check how wet she is. Keep her panties on though... makes it more exciting in my opinion.

Go underneath her panties now, find her clit and rub in GENTLE circles or tap it GENTLY. Everything you do has to be slow and gentle, it'll build up tension better and has less of a risk of her "losing" her orgasm. If she's wet and begging you, find the opening to her vagina and SLOWLY slip ONE finger in, preferably your middle finger. Make a come hither motion with it. Whatever you do, don't thrust it in and out of her vagina... don't let your finger come out all the way and then immediately go back in. It will hurt her. While your finger is inside, use your thumb to stimulate her clit in the meantime. She may seem like she wants it harder... maybe she does. But in my experience I'm most apt to lose the building tension if the speed increases. So keep it steady and slow, there's no time limit. If she seems to like something, focus on doing it more.

That's... all I can really say.

Just remember, GO SLOW and EASY! Women don't get off in the same way that men do.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R5vnc4rjhE4

[Opinion Owner]

Oh yeah, communication is key. Ask her if she likes it, how you could make it better, or have her show you herself where it feels best. Good luck!

[ak420]

SLUTTTTTTTTTTTT^

[Opinion Owner]

Just because I took the time to answer his question thoroughly, I'm a slut? Nice...

[Opinion Owner]

You know what? I shouldn't have to justify myself for you, but I will because you make me mad. Whether you want to believe it or not, I'm a virgin. And I've only been with one guy intimately. The fact is that he and I were able to communicate effectively so he could bring me pleasure. Maybe you think you're doing a good job, but I bet if you ask the girl there will be something you can change. In my description I also took into account other girls' answers and considerations I've read prior.

[Asker]

Thank you for the answer... I do really appreciate it and I ak420's comment is stupid and pointless... thanks again

[udontknowme]

Ok first of all you need to wash your hands first otherwise she can catch an infection. That includes your nails. Secondly suck her t*ts while you do "that" then finish off by going down on her while you "do that" until she comes! she will love you for EVER

[debsman]

Ask her to show you where her clit is and how she likes it caressed. Be sure and get your finger wet first.

[ak420]

man just act like you know what's up. do everything you do nice and slow at first, then go from there. feel the moment! it comes naturally bro. nothing to it.

[Book-Tard]

For some guys it doesn't come naturally, it takes practice for everyone... just like everything else in life. Heck, some guys don't even know which spots make a girl feel good, so just acting like he knows isn't gonna help anyone. That's why he's asking the question, so he can be the best for his girl.

[Anonymous]

Start with one finger because she'll probably be pretty tight at first and then use two when she loosens up some. Make sure to lick your fingers first or else there will be too much friction and it'll be uncomfortable for her. Be sure to rub her clitoris too, softly in a circular motion, and again wet your fingers before you do it. Hope that helps? :)