Help! My stepbrother kissed me!

[Anonymous]

Basically, My mum and dad divorced four years ago. My dad met this woman, started dating and they have now moved in with each other. Every third weekend I stay with my dad and his girlfriend along with my real brother, aged 11 and my dad's girlfriends son, aged 14. I am 16. The first time I met my dad's girlfriends son, lets call him alex, he didn't talk to me at first but then after a few months we got on really well, we are really good friends. He texts me and when ever we are with each other at weekends we go to the cinema and hang out together till like 4 in the morning. Any way, he's a bit strange towards me, he hits me with pillows, sits on my, lies on me, sings songs to me such as always by blink 182, bonnie tyler - total eclipse of the heart and your song by elton john, just to name a few. He insults me sometimes implying that I'm fat or a lesbian but I know he is just joking. He constantly asks me if I have a boyfriend and anytime I mention other boys being attractive he say "Ew they are horrible looking" or something along those lines. The other day he started talking to me about his girlfriend but the next day he told me he had dumped her because he had gone back to liking someone else, mentioning no names. Anyway last Saturday we are both sitting at opposite ends of the couch and he comes on top of me and hugs me for ages and I can hear and feel his heart pounding in his chest then he kisses me on the cheek then on the lips 4 times then kisses me full on for about 10 minutes.During the kiss he feels my boobs but then puts his hands back on my back. He then stops and begins to leave to go to his bed, turns around and asks "is this just a one time thing, right?" to which I said yes. He comes back down half an hour later and it happens three more times. This time while he does it, he feels my boobs again then moves onto putting my hair behind my ear and putting his hands back on my back then my arm. He tried to go further down my back but I moved his hand away and he says sorry then goes to bed. And the next morning he acts as if nothing has happened. So I text him two days later saying "are we going to talk about this" and he said "no, don't think we should as it was a one off" and he is seeing this girl again. From what I can gather he hasn't had much kissing experience. I guess what I want to know is what on earth is he thinking? Does he like me or did he use me just to get some experience? There has to be someone out there who can help me please, he is all I have thought about for 8 months and I think I'm beginning to love him and I really don't want to. Could someone please tell me what he is thinking because I really don't want you be used and I would love to move on from this. Thank you for taking the time to read this and if you do answer it, I cannot thank you enough, it means so much to me x

[Sam33r]

Well, I think he likes you (all teasing and telling you abt his love life shows that)but he is not sure if this would work, after all his mom is dating your dad so he is kinda afraid to mess it up!



Secondly that night he finally acted on what he has been fantacising abt, if it means something, well you are both too young to enter a lasting relation, even if he has no intention to using u, still there is a rare chance that it would work, so be very careful with the steps you gonna take!

if you can I suggest you to move on , if he is really into you , he would talk to you abt it otherwise if you insist on talking or a relation, he would see you as desperate girl and would use you as easy meat!

Sorry but that the bitter truth!

[Asker]

Thank you so much for answering this, I completely get what your saying :)

[Sam33r]

Glad I could help :-)

[TigerRoseBear]

By keeping on doing this with him, you could mess up your dad's relationship. And also, yeah, it is a little creepy since he's your stepbrother and you're two years older than him. Try not to text him as much and try focusing more on other guys your age around you. Maybe somehow try to make yourself have a crush on a different boy. Just try to take away your feelings towards your stepbrother, whether it's by interacting with him less, or by taking an interest in other guys (I recommend doing both). Good luck, and remember, don't be ashamed of anything, just try to move on :). It's tough being a teen :P

[Asker]

thank you so much, you have helped me a lot :)

[TigerRoseBear]

No problem :) Good to know I was useful haha.

[Anonymous]

I don't think he's thinking... period. His hormones are raging and he's basically a kid... which is a terrible combination, if you ask me. But, c'est la vie!

[Asker]

thank you for answering my question :).

[Asker]

thank you for answering my question :) yeah I get what your saying and I agree.

[Konpachi]

When I was his age I forced my cousin's 16yr old girlfriend to kiss me. I would say it's more of a hormonal thing than anything else. Bering in mind that he is your step-brother and not related by blood, I see no problem with him getting a bit frisky with you but it's up to you, you being the older more mature of the two of you, whether or not this is going to go any further. Today it's kisses and a little 2nd base, eventually he will try to take things to the next level. Ask yourself this: Would I have sex with him? You've got to understand, if you were willing to allow a kiss, you will eventually allow more.

The problem is that it will happen again... if you allow it to.

[Asker]

I completely understand what you are saying, thank you so much for answering this :)

[brittanygurl]

wow, we should def talk..

[Asker]

okay :)

[CuriousEddie]

Take it very slow. You don't want him simply using you because you are convenient -- although you say that you text each other a lot at other times, so perhaps there is something more meaningful there.

[Asker]

thank you so much for giving your advice :)

[shacodraco]

tl;dr. paragraphs would be nice in the future.

[studmuffin-perfect10]

This getting good lol

[TigerRoseBear]

She actually has a problem. That's why she's on here. If you're gonna answer, at least answer to the best of your ability rather than just making a bad joke.

[studmuffin-perfect10]

chill! emo boy I'm just trying to get her to smile a little. weezer is garbage by the way,just bad Music.

[TigerRoseBear]

Haha I'm not emo, so I don't know where you got that from. About Weezer, I don't really care what you think of them. I just happen to like their music, and if you don't, that's fine. I wasn't getting mad at you or anything. I was just telling you not to be a douche about someone's problem. GAG isn't for reading people's stories then joking about them. It's for giving and receiving helpful advice. If you read a story but can't think of any helpful advice, don't answer.