Would you date a girl who couldn't give blow jobs?

I've given a blow job once but I think I failed... I could not get him to come and he ended up masturbating to finish. This went on for about 20 mins- half an hour and my jaw got sore after a while, and I kept gagging even though he was only small. I also have braces now, so don't want to hurt anyone with them. Am I ever going to get a boyfriend if I can't give blow jobs? I want to be able to please my future boyfriend (if I meet a guy I like) what can I do?
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  • you can learn to do it perfect. Check out this short guide:

    1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

    2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

    3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

    4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

    5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

    6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

    7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

    8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

    9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone. If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ---->
    10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

    Good luck

    • I don't think I could do any of that I'm way too shy, I'm not good at doing things with my mouth because of my braces. Plus I would be lying if I said I was enjoying it.

    • if you like the guys you will enjoy it, maybe not intrinsiclly for itself but you will enjoy knowing your making your man happy

    • that's not true, I love my boyfriend to pieces and I try to do anything to please him, but I'm the same as her. I really don't like giving blowjobs and the fact that he's enjoying it does very little to help me.

  • I'd even marry a girl who doesn't give BJ's. Sex would be much more satisfying than oral anyways. It's cool that you tried though.

    Don't get too hung up on the oral, plenty of other maneuvers available in the repertoire ;)

    • Thanks, glad to hear at least 1 guy can do without it :)

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  • ive never given head but I know that if you're not into it, he won't be into it. some guys also have bad days where they just can't come to save there lives...

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  • There is more to a girl than her skills or willingness to give blowjobs. If you are not interested in doing it then don't and any guy who expects it or will not date you because of that is not worth your time anyway. I think the fact that you are willing to do it and have tried is all that you can really do. It is also up to the guy to tell you and show you what he would like you to do and if you are willing then this is how you learn to please him. There is no right or wrong way to give oral sex and not everyone likes it or thinks it is all that important anyway. I much prefer to give oral sex to girls than receive it from them. This is just my own preference and so your issues with giving blowjobs would make no difference to me in the slightest. I think what people are like together out of the bedroom is more important in a relationship and communication and understanding can help to make the relationship strong and happy.

  • no way...ive def had girls suck at it...well actaully only one, it was the weirdest thing ever...but if I wanted to date you I'd prefer you to know little to none or know a lot lol...it would just make it so I can teach you how to do it to my liking...

  • First of all I remember asking am I ever gonna have a girlfriend who gives me a blowjob when I was a teenager lol? Don't worry you can find a boyfriend without giving a single blowjob don't feel like you have to or that there's a rush. But it sounds like you like to please a man as long as he is deserving and have a healthy sexual desire for the opposite sex which makes you cooler than 75 percent of the women on here. If you put his penis in your mouth then you gave a blowjob. Honeslty most of the time it is a warm up to sex, a way for a girl to get a guy hard. Most women I've been with understandably don't like finishing me off that way because they would rather get on to sex which is mutually pleasurable, I do beg for her to spend a little extra time going down 20 minutes is more than I usually get lol. And most of us guys take a while to recover. I like the stand alone blowjob but it is a very occasional treat amongst older folks. Of course you may not want to be having intercourse yet. One thing that can help keep your jaw from getting tired is lick it like a lollipop the bottom of the "mushroom" head of the penis is super sensitive so you can lick around it and flick with your tongue. The best blowjob is not actually one where a girl just bops up and down on it the whole time, you can lick his balls and play with them with your hand So just give him a blowjob handjob combo switch back and forth so your jaw doesn't get tired and then when your getting tired of it just jerk him with your hand really hard and he will probably cum(it feels amazing to get a handjob when your d*** is wet with a girls spit) while your jerking him gently squeeze his balls with one hand. I find this helps make me cum. another thing that's hot rub your boobs against his penis believe me a guy doesn't have to come from it to enjoy having his penis in your mouth. Some guys can't ever come from a blowjob As for the braces I've been sucked by a girl with braces she just made sure her lips were over her teeth and it was fine.

    • I completely agree

  • I don't know if that was your fault. I've had times when I masturbated & I came in less than a minute, and this happened when my ex gave me a blowjob. BUT, I've had times when I wanted & needed to in the worst way & tried to masturbate, but I just either couldn't come or it took forever! If I had been getting a blowjob on those occasions rather than mastutbating, NO girl could have gotten me to come wihout doing it as long as you did, and any girl would have been sore & gagging after that long! If a guy's physically able to come in a timely fashion, there's really no way to do the blowjob wrong. It's just that some girls who have done it a lot learn tricks to enhance it, so it's only a question of how good, not good or bad. Anyway, to answer your question, if a girl I loved or even really liked just couldn't bring herself to do it for whatever reason, I wouldn't sweat it. Ther are other sexual activities. In fact, I don't know if I could bring myself to ask a girl for one, because it does seem gross from her point of view. Any deent guy who cares about you will be fine with it & respect your feelings too. Hope this made you feel better about it...

  • Do not get down on yourself for this. Is it possible he had a bit too much to drink and couldn't get off because of that. Its a two way street in that he needs to tell you what is providing him with the right sensation to come.

    By way of personal knowledge, the majority of sensation is in the head. If you were to spend 75 % of the time just focusing on the head and the tip and 25% sliding down his shaft, it should be a blow-out success.-Just make sure he is concerned about giving you head as you are about him.

  • 1. It is actually not uncommon for a guy to have problems popping if he's young, especially inexperienced.

    2. Relax, take your time, and realize that although having a boyfriend is nice, most people you date will come and go.

    3. Learn how to fake confidence. Real confidence will follow. Think of it like playing a character on TV. Just do it.

    4. GOOD FOR YOU for sticking with it for 20 minutes. Feel free to incorporate your hands, especially if you already know how to give hand jobs. You weren't born knowing how to do this; it will take practice.

    5. If it isn't fun, don't do it.

  • Yes. Dating one now atm-she has the whole gaging problem too and can only fit the tip in sadly XD it kind of sucks (yes a bit, for some perspective) because it really is a treat that guys enjoy a lot. I went a year without a non-failing blowjob (gotta give her credit she tried) but its just a piece of the pie. If they guy respects you and likes you for the right reasons, he's not gonna care. He'll probably hint at you to try though at some point though lol.

  • Not every guy can climax from a blowjob, so that's his issue, not necessarily yours.

    After 20 minutes your jaw got sore? I'm not surprised! 20 minutes is a long time. Look at some p*rn movies. Professional p*rn stars don't give head for that long. (And for the same reasons. It would be very sore on the jaw.)

    Suppression of the gag reflex comes with practice, but you don't have to deep throat a guy to gag on his shaft. Again, look at some videos for guidelines. You'll see the girls can do all sorts of different things, to avoid the gagging. They can nibble the sides, like it was corn on the cob. They can lick it from top to bottom, or suck on his balls. They don't have to try and get the whole thing inside, and wind up almost puking on him.

    A lot of these alternate ways of providing oral sex, can be done safely even with braces on.

    • well it made me quite upset that I couldn't satisfy him, and made me feel like I did an awful job (which I probably did). I even asked him what to do and did what he said and still failed. Plus it was uncomfortable for me and I don't see how girls can like doing it? Maybe I'll give it a go once I have my braces off (if I have a boyfriend and haven't been dumped by then)

  • Yes not all guys enjoy blow jobs also you can use your hand on the shaft to prevent yourself from gagging just a little advice also let you spit stay on his **** and use it to help lube it.

  • Would you date a girl who couldn't give blow jobs?

    Yes.

  • no I wouldn't you gotta be able to give the top

  • Yes. A blowjob from a girl is a treat, a very generous one. Any guy who thinks that it's a given is an ass clown and he should try his hand at it first.

    If you don't like it that's completely cool. When you're with a guy how let's you know that, you'll know you've scored an actual good man. Someone who's pleased just to be with you.

  • Braces don't have to be an issue. They are up on your teeth. It is the tips of your upper teeth that can be a problem.

    Your technique is probably not god. A few pointers.

    Scratching by your teeth may not really hurt but it takes us out of the groove. Pull your kiss down by pulling back on your lower jaw to keep your upper teeth out of the way.

    Do not suck too hard. It will will cause the slot in his penis to engorge with blood and prolapse, which feels like you are pushing a fingernail in. Suck no harder than through a drink straw.

    You need only take in 3" of his penis. The cap has most of the sensitivity...especially the collar...and the purpose of going in a ways is sustained movement at the cap.

    Taking him too deep is unnecessary and will cause you to gag or even vomit.

    Head bobbing takes a lot of effort. Instead, nurse and lick at the cap, accompanied by shallow head strokes and jack him quickly and lightly with your hand.

    Slow everything down while he comes. The ejaculation phase is automatic and is impeded by vigorous play.

    I would expect a girl to want to give and receive oral sex and would feel the relationship flawed if she would not once the relationship was "official" which, to me, means it is 3 or 4 months old. I would view her refusal as an indication she would ration herself in the relationship in sex and other ways.

    • I don't get what you mean when you say pull back on your lower jaw? I can't keep my teeth out of the way, I have braces and can't stretch my lips over the tips of my teeth. I have an overbite, meaning my lower jaw is too small and I'm having surgery on it in 9 months to correct it. All this stuff I'm suposed to do for oral sex, I CANT do. So that is why I refuse, not because I don't want to please the guy. I don't expect oral sex in a relationship either, I've never even received it before.