I don't like giving blow jobs?

I think it's unfair that most guys expect blow jobs in a relationship, I don't expect anyone to give me oral sex, no one ever has given me it! But they have always expected me to give them a blow job. I hate it. Seriously guys go suck on a penis and tell me how you liked it! I bet you wouldn't enjoy it. Your jaws and neck ache after about 30 seconds, You Gag, All you can smell are sweaty balls and ass, feel cold hairy/spiky balls against your face, Semen tastes like crap, smells sweaty, salty, and disgusting. It is the consistently of runny snot. It's disgusting, uncomfortable and I hate it. But most guys will dump you if you don't do it. Besides it's bad for your health I don't want a STI in my mouth! oral sex is the main cause of oral cancer. Maybe I'll do it if the guy wore a flavoured condom... But no that's not good enough for them doesn't "feel as good". Selfish assholes.
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why are people still answering this? it's over 2 months old. No one's going to change my mind on blow jobs, ever. It was just a rant because I hate how guys are such animals about sex, it is disgusting.
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  • As a guy I look after myself by keeping fit, eating lots of fruit and vegetables, and keep very clean. I am especially clean when I get the hint that any sexual activity is about to occur. Along with laying down fresh sheets on the bed (just in case), every nook and cranny of my body is washed in the shower. It not only makes me feel good, but the girls seem to notice. In fact one of my girlfriends once said that after dating me for 4 years, she never smelt BO on me. Ever. I'm quite proud of that, considering that I don't have to try THAT hard to maintain myself. Half an hour and I'm all done. That includes the good old SSS (Shit, Shower and Shave)... Haha... :-)

    I also shave myself "down there", to reduce sweating and keep the area cool (because I work in an office hence I sit all day). But importantly I look, smell and taste as good as I can...

    Why is this important? Well, the combination of all the above is geared so that girls like to have sex with me. And maybe they want a little more. It works, and very well too. The fruit and veg is the secret ingredient because makes my come taste sweet. Even my ex-girlfriend who I argue with and had a tempestuous relationship for over a year...still enjoys giving me head.

    I'm not bragging here, just stating the facts. I like a girl who is clean, soft, smell and tastes good when I run my tongue on the inside of her leg...moving slowly down onto her holiest of holies (I like that thought...). I would like to think that girls would enjoy the male equivalent. They will even do more for a guy if she likes him and feels comfortable to explore. I am usually the first to go down on the girl and yes I will keep going until she cums too... ;-) That is, before I mount her and f*** her like crazy now that she's mega-turned on.

    Why all this effort? BECAUSE I LIKE IT WHEN SHE SUCKS MY COCK... even better when she goes all the way. I will do anything for her in return. I will stick with a girl who wants to share oral sex with me on a regular basis. It's all good :-)

    So my point is: perhaps this is the standard that we should aim towards. Then maybe the whole experience might be more enjoyable. I can't help what I am born with. I'm only a man, after all.

    For Anonymous, it seems that you are perhaps not much of a sexual person. This may change with the right person. Or it may not. The fact that you associate so much negativity towards something that is truly wonderful is a shame. Or maybe the guy simply had a sweaty, smelly ass. Get someone else! Best of luck...

    • I don't care how clean the guy is it's still awful! & its rude of them to even ask for one!

    • the fact that there are more girls that like giving head and enjoy it makes you the minority, and plus tell me how are you going to please a guy say you were pregnant , hun

    • I don't think I'm in the minority. Heaps of girls don't like it. I don't understand why anyone would want to do it. And what has pregnancy got to do with it? Don't you know women can have sex while pregnant? It's even used as a method to bring on labour when the baby's due.

  • Y'know despite I've never had the experience I don't think I really want to receive a BJ. It doesn't really appeal to me, I'd prefer intercourse and the only kind of oral sex that really appeals to me is havin' my balls licked a little. But I ain't gonna' pressure a girl into givin' me head or anythin' cos' I don't really want it. If a girl is eager to give me head and she says she's done it before and she actually likes doin' it then fine. But otherwise I ain't fussed.

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  • okay. a lot of guys have responded to this one... I want to comment too.

    I can respect where you are coming from, though I think you are wrong abou the oral cancer part. That is an urban legend.

    I don't think anyone should ever be demanding oral sex, and I think that if anyone is going to expect it, they should be ready to at some point return the favour.

    As for why some people enjoy doing it? For me, it is because I enjoy that he is enjoying it. Getting him aroused turns me on. Maybe that is strange, but that is the best way to explain it.

    Tips to address some of your concerns:

    What he eats, drinks and inhales alters the consistency and taste of cum.

    Try to plan things so that he isn't sweaty when you go down there but straight out of the shower. or better yet, get in the shower with him.

    If you can't handle blowing him for a long time or don't want to start when he is already super aroused so you have less work to do. Or start with a bj and then climb on. Or have him finish on you. Also, maybe try mixing it up a little? If your mouth is really about to fall off, find something do do with your tongue or hands while you take a break.

    Oh and if you really can't swallow but want to... make sure you have a glass of something juice, beer whatever to wash it down with next to you. helps if your mouth dries up too

    ultimately if you don't want to, don't do it. if he feels so strongly about something that you want no part of you two don't really suit each other anyhow.

  • Ok, I guess I agree on the whole 'they expect it' thing when you don't expect the same from them, that's kind of annoying. The first time I did it my ex kinda pressured/shamed/pushed me into it and I resent him for it.

    But I disagree with you on all the other points, you're seeing it from the wrong perspective. If you have no skill, it's rough and not fun at all. Just like if you're bad at any other task - it's also not fun. However, if you were to become good at it, making your partner feel incredible just because of what you could do with your mouth it would feel totally different. And that's how you could to start looking at it.

    I felt totally like you at first and now I feel the opposite. You have to find a guy that lets you do things on your own time instead of pressuring you with expectations, I was lucky to find a guy like that after the guy I mentioned before and he changed the whole game for me. Not to mention, thanks to him I figured out that giving head to a good sized d*** vs. a small one makes alllll the difference in the world.

    If you're not ready for it now, don't do it. And I'm not saying you'll ever like it, some people certainly don't, but just make sure you're saying you hate it because you actually hate it and not because you're embarrassed/pressured/worried you're not doing it right. All those things can be fixed with a good, patient guy and some practice.

  • I feel, if you want me to go down on u, you most please me first. In that regard...I'm the selfish one. I also like to clean the penis first and as one person suggested there are flavored and edible lotions. It helps. But you are right...if you don't want to do it, then don't because its won't be enjoyable. There are other things that can please they both of u. I also agree it is selfish when a guy demands it. I never been in that situation, but a friend of mine often gives her boyfriend a BJ when he demands it, even if she's not in the mood. I was shocked. On one occasion, she was on a period, didn't feel sexually active but he someone convinced her to give him a BJ. He didn't get off and got upset at her and for the rest of the day he was a bitch. He doesn't know how to please her and she's too stupid to figure out that's its him and not her. It pisses me off that she can't get this. That fact that I know what she likes and he doesn't confuses me (no, we do not have a relationship, it just comes up during girl-talk). Why can't she tell him what she likes? She's never been comfortable with sex and has confided in me she only goes through the motions for the guy. It's sad. All she needs is a guy who is experienced and sincere. Why do women put up w losers and then blame themselves for lack of sexual drive?! Ladies, you have as much right to demand great sex as he does!

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  • OMG GIRL I FEEL YOU! I feel the same exact way as you. They get all pissy and weird when you deny them. I mean seriously who wants to go put there face in someones balls, not me. Its like we aren't asking you to anything to us down there so why make me feel forced to do something to you. Lol. This question so made my day

  • LOL. I love this question.

    (By the way, blow job does not give you cancer unless the guy's infected with STDs...but I'm hoping you wouldn't even have coitus with a guy who has STD. lol. Semen have scarce minerals inside your body (ie Zinc, Coppper) , so actually it's healthy)

    Disregarding everything inside the bracket,

    It is quite unfair isn't it?

    But guys are unreasonable. And I'm sure you've figured that one out by yourself.

    However, if you don't want to give blowjobs, don't. A relationship doesn't need any forcing. I personally hate making my girlfriend do something she doesn't want to.

    I'm not saying I'm a good guy, but I'm saying that there are people out there who respects your decisions. You just have to be patient and find one : P

    • yes and like I mentioned before, you can never know what man has HPV because there are NO TESTS FOR MEN! and that's the virus that causes cervical cancer & oral cancer. Shut up with the it's healthy sh!t! all these guys are saying to eat semen because its good for you get they don't eat their own.

  • First, where is your source that "oral sex is the main cause of oral cancer"? I'm not asking for much, ANYTHING really; even a Phillip Morris link would do.

    Second, while I agree in part with my radiology friend down below, cancer is not caused exclusively by radiation. The reason radiation causes cancer is because radiation causes DNA damage. However, many things cause DNA damage, including oxidation, toxins from bacteria, and viruses. Depending on the cancer, part of the DNA that initiates apoptosis may be damages, or part of the DNA that controls cell division may be damages. See link Unfortunately, oral cancer is primarily caused by smoking (runner ups: alcohol, sun exposure). See link

    Third, slightly more than 1,200,000 people are infected with Clamydia in the United States. See link The population in the Unites States is 311,430,000. That means, that your chance of being infected with the MOST COMMON STI is 0.0385%. (1 in 259). What does that mean? You're just as likely to randomly die from being assaulted by a firearm! (1 in 306). You're more likely to die from a random fall! (1 in 171), or poisoning (1 in 130), or committing suicide (1 in 112), or a car crash (1 in 88). See link So, according to your logic, you should definitely sign yourself up to a crazy house to prevent suicide, but don't use a car to get there! See also link ; link

    Lastly, a man's satire on your post:

    "I don't like paying for dates?"

    "I think it's unfair that most girls expect guys to pay for dates in a relationship, I don't expect anyone to pay for me, nor do any girls pay as often as I do! But they always expect me to pay. I hate it! Seriously, girls should work 40+ hours a week, pay for their own sh*t, and then financially sponsor and feed an other human being. See how you like it! It's like you're pissing your dignity and self-respect away, as if the only way she would talk to you or be interested in you is by you paying. Then, she posits that this is out of charity on your part, and you shouldn't expect anything in return, even though the bill has run you up more than a prostitute at this point. But most girls will dump you if you don't do it. Besides, it's financially unhealthy, I don't want to file for bankruptcy! Maybe I'll do it if we go to McDonald's . . . but NO! that's not good enough for them . . . isn't a "nice place" or "romantic" enough. Selfish b*tches."

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      and as for your paying for dates comment. I'm a girl and no man has EVER paid for me out on a date. It's always been that we pay for ourselfs.

    • HealthPop . . . o.O . . . really?

    • so do you believe me or what?

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  • I can understand why you don't like it. I certainly wouldn't do it.

    Having said that, most women that I've been intimate with initiated oral sex without me asking for it or leading them to it in other ways. All 3 of the long term relationships I had were with women who simply loved giving me head, and from what I understand most of their friends felt the same way too. One time a girlfriend was visiting me when we were in a long distance thing and I had just picked her up from the airport. I wanted to just talk on the car ride back but she wanted to blow me. She pouted until I gave in and she did it. There are girls who really, really get off on having that part of a guy in their mouth and giving him that much pleasure. I can understand that since I also love performing oral sex on women.

    You should respect that different people enjoy different things. I would never, NEVER ask someone to do something they don't like doing. And as much as I love going down on a woman that I love/care about, I can also understand why some guys don't like it.

    Even with anal sex, two of my girlfriends reached the point where they were asking ME to do it to them. That might seem mind-boggling to you, but it happened.

  • This is just to answer a question that you'd asked on one of your answers... Blow jobs are a part of intimacy because allowing you to have their "manhood" in such a vulnerable place as your mouth shows trust. It's so vulnerable because, your jaw CAN collapse and you CAN bite. And it, obviously, would hurt.

    Also I love giving head. Personally, I love the taste of a nice hard one in my mouth. Especially the moaning and the pleasured faces he makes and the pulsing just before he climaxes.

    I'm often soaked doing that before he even touches me.

    • yuck your disgusting how can you actually want to do it.

    • I'm not the only one. And it's my opinion. You can't tell me that I am disgusting for enjoying something. If you can tell me that than I can tell you that you are a stuck up, prude of a bitch. I do agree with you on one count though.. Guys never think of it but there are probably a lot of girls who are self conscious of their lady parts. I know I am.

    • She is not disgusting. You are just a frigid bitch.

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  • Blowjobs are great. I love giving them and semen is actuall reay good for your health and your teeth. If a guy showers you won't smell sweaty anything. I only give head to a guy I'm in love with but if you learn how to do it right you could get pleasure out of it too. I do. Mai jaw and neck never get tired or ache because I know how to do it right. You can work on your gag reflex or get rid of it all together which is what I did. Deep throating is even better than just regular old head. If you ask the guy to eat certain fruits like pineapples his semen will be sweet and more fruity than salty. I've never known semen to really have a smell and why are you smelling it anyway? Either spit it or swallow it. If you're smart you won't do anything with a guy that hasn't tested negative for every possible STI so you wouldn't have to worry about it. Oh and oral sex won't give you cancer unless they have HPV which is an STI. Get your facts straight and get over yourself. Just because you don't like any oral pleasure doesn't mean you should be selfish and hate on guys for enjoying it. I know plenty of guys who don't demand it though and sure as hell won't dump a great girl over it. If you've been dumped its probably because of your personality and attitude not your oral preferences.

    • Oh and by the way if you had looked it up you'd have seen that its mostly men that are at higher risk for oral cancer because women can have HPV and not realize it. And a lot of women disregard the tests available for diagnosis... So d***s aren't to blame it's those damn toxic snatches. Just FYI ;)

    • I know HPV is the thing that gives you risk of cancer, but you can never know which guy has HPV. there are no tests avalible for men.

    • Use a freakin condom then. And if he said anything about it remind him that a wee bit less pleasure is better than a disease on both your ends. But from reading your responses you seem like a hopeless case anyway so good luck improving your personal/sex life with that crappy, passive attitude.

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  • My goodness the women answering are such prudes and up their own asses. I would never let a guy go down on me but I would definitely give oral sex, I'm not selfish. Some of you are gonna be alone for a long time

    • come back after you've given a blow job, I'm sure you'll think differently about it.

    • No I won't. I love males an I'd love to please my partner. Not all of us are close minded

    • Evangelina is my hero.

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  • if you don't like it, don't do it. if a guy cares about you he won't want you to be uncomfortable, it may take longer meeting a guy who is not an asshole, because it seems to be in fashion these days. . but they are out thee.

    dont give in. people should never try to change your mind about what you do with your body. they get bjs with theirs / so what that's their body, you do what you feel is right for yours.

    it is retarded that they keep telling you u should get oral. if you don't like it you don't like it. getting something you don't want to give just do ull want to give it is gross.

  • It's not the best feeling, especially if the girl in question takes the word "blow" literally (ouch). If you don't like it, don't do it, but a guy that wants you to give and not receive is missing out anyway.

  • well then just don't do it! Men have the option to not go down on a girl and a lot of them don't do it. SO just find yourself a guy who doesn't NEED a bj to stay with you.

    Believe me, they're out there. :)

  • ROFL you are very close minded. All men are NOT animals, you obviously just attract the wrong type so shame on you...oral sex is not just about feeling good. It makes you feel so close with your partner and is a very unselfish way to please your partner. If you do not want to give head then don't, but to guys, when you talk about it as harsh as you do, it makes you seem uptight and boring...jmo

  • I've never met a guy who didn't enjoy going down. Personally, I'm not much of a fan of it though. I used to really dislike blow jobs for many of the same reasons as you. With the guy who I'm seeing now, however, I LOVE giving them! He doesn't have any weird smells. I'M the one who initiates it... he doesn't even have to ask. And he's WANTS to return the favor. I let him because he enjoys it.

    I'd rather suck a d*** than eat out a vagina. Just sayin'.

    • no way..eating p**** is one of if not the best thing ever. sticking my tounge as far into the hole as I can, flicking that nice little pea size clit then sucking on it while moving my tounge all aroundi it. I just wish my wife would "surprise" me with a bj sometime. just drop to her knees, take it out, and start sucking. a woman on her knees with a c ock in her mouth is an incredible thing to see.

  • I love giving oral I love it I would totally stay down there long enough and enjoy it, I'm sorry it sounds like you have ended up with some lousy guys, I find a guy who doesn't like to give oral to a woman to be kinda lame like a real man would be turned on by that. But I like receiving it too and I do this thing called showering before so my balls and ass usually smell just fine. News alert women can smell bad too. I mean you want your man to think your body is sexy right? No guy wants his girlfriend to think his penis is gross. Your really gonna say "you try sucking a d***" that's just silly you go eat a p**** lets all be gay. I respect gay people but no thanks. As for cancer that sounds like an urban myth, cancer is not an STD. I am all for taking time but If I'm gonna get married or get in a years long type relationship with a women It will not be with a woman who never gives blowjobs. Uh uh I am not a cheater and if I was married I wouldn't be getting divorced I have my principles but I am still a guy I am not sentencing myself to a blowjob free rest of my life, maybe that sounds shallow but its a deal breaker. There are a lot of things I would do for my woman. All this don't do it unless you feel totally comfortable and men are pigs for ever asking a woman to do anything faux feminist crap is irritating because its selfish. You do things for each other because you love each other or you are going to try to love each other and care for each other. Why get in a relationship with someone who does not want to please you and thinks your body is gross

  • Everyone is different. I personally LOVE giving blowjobs while people like you hate them.

    • I don't know how you can stand it!

    • I love giving my boyfriend pleasure. I love knowing I can give him the best or the worst feeling in the world all by using my mouth and tongue.

    • You folks are missing the point that some guys don't like bjs and some guy don't like to go down on females...need to find the ones that you are compatible with...

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  • I am sure you can find someone who does not want a bj.

    However, note that very few girls have your kind of experience with bjs.

  • haha, sorry I found it funny when you said gus should try it...no thanks sounds nasty the way you hav explained it above ...but I agree with you not because your a female, but because it makes girls look low (he doesn;t want to kiss your lips, but he'd rather have your mouth on his d**k)...i don;t balme you for complaining but some girls give blow jobs cos they want to...BUT kissing those girls is like kissin a guy's d**k, eeehh...no no no ...girls should keep away from blow jobs and it is very true that mouth cancer and STI/STDs can be spread through oral sex...you are dating typical idiots like every other girl..but if that's the guys you want then don't complain.

  • Compromise Here, dear. Foreplay is the Key to Your Own... Ecstasy. Blow Joes Included.
    Give him a Quick Lickety Split, you will get Used to it.
    Good Luck. xx

  • i don't really under stand why they are such a big deal either. but also, we can't experience it from their point of view so we don't know how much they like it. they might feel like "it isn't that bad, it makes me happy, if you care about me, you would just do it."

    • But it is THAT BAD! I'm sure there are other ways to make them happy. Surely if they cared about you they would't make you do something so disgusting.

    • they might not see it as something so horrible. I personally don't really mind giving them. there are some girls that really enjoy it. the guy might think that you aren't as attracted to him as he would like you to be, or it might mess with his ego or something. some guys love going down on girls and when the girl doesn't want to reciprocate they probably just don't understand

    • yeah well most guys won't go down on a girl so it's unfair for him to expect you to do it to him. Maybe I would put up with it occasionally if someone went down on me but that has never happened.

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  • You will understand why they want it so bad once you have had a guy go down on you.

    After you get used to the feeling , you will enjoy it too. Give it time .

  • i love blowing cock. the gagging's not that fun but if the guy is classy enough, he will stroke your hair and talk to you real sexy :) and then if he's also classy he will pay you back with a smile :) which is great :)) you probably haven't been with a guy who thinks of blow jobs as an act of love and adoration :D it's great to make him happy and then swallow really sweet. then cuddle and what not :) and it doesn't taste that bad. if sex is for the others' enjoyment to both people, it's awesome :)

    • I have never had a bad smelling man, although I have had an unpleasant experience as it lasted a f***ing hour haha... but since I got better at it I've missed the taste of him, and when I get aroused that's the first thing I wanna do. show him I care :) plus its like when you make out, because your tongue and lips are getting the same kind of pleasure. Its like an experiment to see what will set him off most. and my guy bought strawberry lube and drinks smoothies so it tastes yummy :)

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