How to give a blowjob?

I would really like to give my boyfriend head but I'm extremely worried that I'm going to do it wrong. I personally don't mind the taste of come and I'm confident that I will be able to swallow. However, I have no idea how to get him to that point at all. I have so many questions and I hope you guys can answer them for me :) 1. How long would it usually take? Considering that we're both young and I'm his first. 2. Am I supposed to speed up? How fast? 3. How do I know when he's about to come? 4. HOW?! What do I do? Thanks again!
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  • You think too much. Just follow these steps and you will blow his mind:

    1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

    2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

    3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

    4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

    5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

    6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

    7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

    8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

    9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone. If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ---->
    10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

    Good luck

  • Pretend it's a popsicle in your mouth and suck it like you want it to melt.

    1. There is no set time but on average it takes a guy about 7 minutes to orgasm. It could only take two minutes or it might take 20 or not happen at all. Some guys can't orgasm from oral so don't have any expectation or think you're good or bad based on his orgasm (or lack of). If he stays hard he is enjoying it. If it's his first time he could be nervous and go soft though so don't judge yourself based on the guy just assume if he lets you touch his penis he is attracted to you.

    2. Yes speed up. If you ever watch a guy masturbate when he doesn't know you're watching I bet you would be surprised at how fast he goes. Usually we start out kinda fast and get faster and faster the closer we get to orgasm so that should tell you there is no speed limit lol. I really mean there is NO speed limit. If you're sore afterward that means you almost went as fast as a guy's hand does when he pleasures himself.

    3. His whole body will tense up, he might start moving around a little right before it, his breathing will go from heavy to almost stopping because when his body gets really tense he'll stop breathing for a minute.

    4. Just do it with passion, that is the biggest turn on.

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  • I love giving head, and I'm pretty good at it: this is the best advice that I can offer you based on your questions. :)

    1. How long would it usually take? Considering that we're both young and I'm his first.

    It all depends on the guy, and how sensitive he is.

    2. Am I supposed to speed up? How fast?

    Don't go too fast, and don't go too slow, Remember you have to try to keep your jaw open so you aren't grating his d*ck like cheese. But changes of pace are good for your neck/jaw, and him. ;)

    3. How do I know when he's about to come?

    You will know by his body language, he might tell you that he is coming, but if he doesn't, what I find is that you can feel their d*ck get harder, and there is a spot, like a vein or something, that you feel pulsing, you feel whatever is moving through it moving.

    4. HOW?! What do I do?

    First off, do NOT be afraid to get your hands in there too. If you can't fit it all in your mouth, suck and lick at the top while you work the bottom of the shaft with your hand, it sounds complicated but you'll get the hang of it. And if you can handle it, take it all in your throat occasionally, keep it to your comfort level though.

    Also after you've begun, you could remove his penis from your mouth and hold it in your hand, and lick it from bottom to top and take it again.

    If he is okay with it play with his balls a little bit, experiment with how you move your head, the angle you are giving head at, how hard you suck, moving your tongue while you are sucking. Just have fun with it. :) If you have any other questions on this,.. Just ask :)

    • It always hurts my cheeks from sucking in and stuff. Is that suppose to happen? Because it ends up hurting so bad that I have to stop and take a break. How do you fix that?

    • THat does happen. I think you may be sucking too hard.If you are stopping to take a break use your hand, kiss him (if he's okay with it), talk dirty to him, ask him where he wants to come. Also you don't have to suck all the time. When you find the right way to wrap your lips around his member, there is a natural suction created already, all you have to do is move, and flick your tongue a bit.

    • Well put. Oh, and most guys have a sensitive part on the underside of the shaft near the head. The skin is slightly rougher. Tickle it with your tongue. Repeat.

  • Honestly, watch p*rn. If you find that weird, Ohwell. No one will know except for you.

    Before my first time giving a bj , that's what I did. It helped skitter. But after you've watched some p*rn on it, ull have the jist of it. just go with your instinct! Have fun!

    But to answer your questions :

    It doesn't take long usually. Your mouth might get kinda sore from doing it after so long, but Ohwell, it's not a big deal.

    Yes, right when he says he's gonna c*m , go a little quicker than before.

    My boyfriend tells me when he's about to, just so I know. He sometimes holds my head so I don't come up. Your boyfriend might too, idk.

    Watch p*rn . But basically just get it all wet using spit. Then just use your hand, and go up and down with your mouth, sometimes go deeper in your mouth, (deep throating) and use your tongue.

    Just go with it. It's human instinct to know what to do. Ull be fine(:

  • eh I learned by going on intuition and feed back from my bf...people can tell you all day how to make an amazing BJ but really it comes down to..is you doing it..so My advice is quit thinking so hard on it and just use your gut...you're guy should be able to tell you what he likes you doing and what he doesn't after a few times...my boyfriend did and I used the combination of that,general knowledge of it and my intuition...I have yet to receive a complaint...FWI his head is the most sensitive part...also NO TEETH! I'd do it the first time after he showers...better when their clean...def not after s*x tastes like sweat...just relax you'll do great :)

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  • to get a guy to come with a BJ...it is about consistant speed. Stroke his shaft with your hand and a bit of squezing pressure, while playing with the head in your mouth with a gental up and down motion with a little sucking action. Speeding up slightly the more he moans..but not to fast.

    Key thing is to not pull the skin of the penis to much up and down. So many girls do this...it can hurt. Make sure you keep the shaft wet and slippery. so your hand slides easily. Use a little flavor lube if you want. You can use KY...it is water based and safe to eat but might not taste all that great. Taking the d*ck out of your warm mouth and exposing it to cool air will calm him down a bit...this OK if you need to take a break or you don't want him to come yet.

    couple of other pointers...deep thoating if you can feel amazing just don't over do it. Playing and licking the balls is also good. Just make sure hands are warm. Also if you take your thumb and point finger and press on the pelvic muscle directly around the base of the shaft while ever so slightinly pulling the skin back down his shaft feels amazing. Just not to much pressure and mover your fingers back and forth like you are rubbing them together...

    also ask him what feels good...fun is bed is all about communication..it is OK to ask. Don't feel ashammed...he will thank you for it.

  • I'll be happy to teach you :-)

    Seriously, best blow jobs are about communication, mostly non-verbal (for obvious reasons on your side of it, my dear :-). You watch the guy's reaction and adjust.

    Also don't neglect a 69 which keeps you both busy or a 71 as it may be (a 69 plus his 2 fingers up your butt).

    If you go too fast you'll tire or it'll look labored and tedious. You are a human being and using your head as simply an orifice should not aim to keep up with the pace and vigor of humping that your pussy, and perhaps eventually ass, would receive. That's not the point. A head is a head, so use your head as more than an orifice. Make eye contact. Sometimes use hands, other times just the lips only; other times just stick your tongue out and give his whole nether region a tongue bath. This isn't about just the head and shaft; there are testicles and the spaces between the testicles and thies, and the space behind the testicles (how far behind probably goes beyond the scope of a first blow job - the guy should be happy as a clam as-is!)

    I have not a clue how girls know I am about to come when they blow me, but somehow they usually know. You may get better tips from girls here.

    Good luck! Or I should say good lick :-)

    • Yeah, it's definitely about communication. Some guys like different speeds. I personally like a constant speed the whole time but some guys love slowing down/speeding up. It's all down to what he needs and believe me, he will enjoy just the feeling of being in your mouth. The rest will figure itself out and what doesn't, he'll tell you. If you're unsure, ask. He won't mind.

  • 3 words for you: PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

    You may want to try incorporating it into whatever you're doing already (foreplay, etc.)

    Take your time, have fun, and feel free to play with yourself during. 69 is a big plus, but some girls find it distracting (remember, practice makes perfect). Emphasize how turned on you are

    As far as when he pops, bear in mind that you may not mind the taste, but may be surprised at the texture. However, I haven't found a gal yet who didn't at least get used to it.

  • Im gonna keep it simple: go deep as you feel comfortable (deeper=better), moderate speed, moderately tight grip (only on the shaft, squeezing the balls hard hurts), sucking>licking, don't neglect the balls, no teeth or slapping (unless theyre into that kind of thing haha)

  • It could take a only a little bit of time or forever (that's what happens tome when I got it my first time). You'll when he's about to come when it starts pulsing or he just tell you. It doesn't really matter the speed. There are two ways to do it, first being deepthroat being take as far down as you can maybe gag then slowly go back and forth in and out, the second being tipping, put your mouth on the tip go about a third down and move your tongue around the tip. Another thing would be touch his balls with hands rub em or something. There's also a song about it by NWA call just don't bite it. Oh and make sure your teetharent on his Wang

  • 1 Depends.. could be within a week.

    2. Slower is nicer... Speedup at the end...

    3 Ask him to give notice ... Or just swallow.

    4. Just suck / nibble / lick his cock... You'll catch up.

  • i just swallow it whole

  • just kiss

  • 1. 5 minutes or less if you are confident with it.

    2. Start with a slow suck and massage. Speed up when you hear deep breathing. Slow way down when he ejaculates and jeep moderate vacuum on him until he stops.

    3. He may stop breathing. His legs may straighten. He may cross his ankles. One or two seconds before ejaculation starts, he will put out a big blob of precum accompanied by a brief spasm.

    4. "Numming" like a baby at the breast and alternately licking around at the cap of his penis. Stroke the full length of his shaft with a light grip. At least 2 fingers should be on the "vein" beneath and your thumb up top. Compress the vein no more than half way.

  • My advice is only watching videos where the girl manages to finish the guy off without his help

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  • the BEST way to learn is to watch p*rn. I understand that a lot of p*rn is fake and whatnot. also different guys like different things, but it's pretty much indispensable for learning the basics. The best way to learn is by watching and the best way to watch BJs is p*rn. there's plenty of free BJ's online. Do your homework, and you'll be great.