or you could always lie and sya you have had sex before.
Please don't feel like that. I know I'm not as old as you but I'm nearly 18 and all my friends have also lost their virginity. I constantly feel like there must be a reason why ie I'm undesiarable but the more I think about it the more I realize the only person standing in my way is me. Unlike my friends I care about loosing my virginity, I want to remember it for the rest of my life. I met this guy who I care so much about and I'm considering loosing it to him but I was devestated when I found out
sex is amazing but only with the right person. main reason the people who sleep around regret it its nothign how they imagined it would be. because you got no connection to the person so of course not. you have to love them first
Hed slept with 6 other girls :( I wanted to loose it at the same time as him but over the years I've realized that these days by 16 most people have lost it. Basically what I'm saying is you will find a girl who wants to sleep with you and believe me shed respect and love you so much more knowing you waited, and then to know your choosing her will make her feel so special. Please don't go to a prostitute, id give anything to find a guy like you!
exactly why waiting for a virgin is just setting yourself up for heartbreak. I mean sure its a great quality to want in someone but we live in a sex craved world its almost impossible to find a virgin other than jailbait. so if you can find someone with few people as possible talk about it when meeting a person before you get to involved you will find yourself happier knowing you can pick an choice the perfect nonvirgin for you.
Exactly :/ I learnt that the hard way. In my mind I waa going to loose it to a virgin but apparently these days 17 is old to be a virgin. I finally gave up on that idea when I found this new guy and it wasn't till then I realized how stupid I was being. What's important is finding someone you trust and genuinly have feelings for, them being a virgin shouldn't matter. Itbonly slightly bothers. Me now and only because I know the sex won't mean as much to him as it will to me
oh not true. I think if a guy has had sex as least once it will show him how much better it can be with love rather than just a horny teenage boy getting his fix. and then all them fixes (even if ex gf's) mean nothign to him cause your the one. it was that way with me and my man and he regrets ever doign it with them cause I'm the best he has had.
"waiting for a virgin is just setting yourself up for heartbreak." Yeah my friends said something similar too when they told me most girls will not be a virgin till my age, I guess keeping mine is not valued.And what the two of you has said is very much inline with what my friends have said. Which is why I have begun to accept it with a heavy heart and give up on waiting for someone special because they won't value it, so I'm considering going to a prostitute and getting it over with.
dude trust me if your goign with a heavy heart you will regret it more with a prostitute. if you seriously want to just get it over with you should just find some girl who doesn't have sex for a living it will be more enjoyable for you. cause you will infact notice how she treats it like a job no love, no emotions. when a normal girl even if drunk with show some emotion making it WAY better for you. emotions make up sex
Question asker it must be nice to be able to do that but I have never had a date because I am undesirable, so telling me to find a drunk girl wanting just sex is even more unlikely. I would rather go to legalized prostitute who's required to have weekly STD checks then hookup with a drunk girl with whom I have a 4/7 chance of catching an STD from and could have me arrested for rape afterward on the grounds that she was drunk and thus unable to consent.As for emotion it won't occur with either
alright well its up to you but I think you will end up regretting it
which one? the drunken hook up with someone that I don't know and don't feel anything for which you recommend or the prostitute whom I also don't know and won't feel anything for?Both options are horrible, with the hookup sounding a lot worse. But if I have to decide on one of two horrible choices I'd pick the lesser horrible one.
23 isn't that old. I promise it's worth waiting. I'm 22 and finally found a guy I'm completely in love with. He's never had sex before and it means so much to me because I know when we get married and make love it will be something special that will only be shared between us. Your virginity really is valuable, I think it's a terrible thing to waste on a prostitute. Plus, when you do fall in love she's going to want to know about your past. Are you going to want to explain you lost it to a whore?
Trust me, there are so many girls who want to be virgins when they are married, and many of them would prefer the guy to also be a virgin. When a guy has slept around with a bunch of girls, then sex doesn't seem that special. Don't just go have sex because you think it would make you more desirable or something.
lossing your virginity is a great thing. I mean if you want to keep it fine kool w/e. but I lost mine and I feel GREAT about it I value myself more it gave me a confidence boost it made me a better person SEX IS GREAT!
well it can happen that way I had se with my man 2 months after we were together and now he is the man I am goign to married.
I know that people can have sex and still end up together. However, a lot of relationships fail (regardless of sex) and I want to make sure that the man I lose my virginity to is also the man I marry.And I am very glad that it worked out for you! :)
yeah things do happen but life is full of taking chances and exploring can't let anythign hold you back even your values or you be stuck in the corner of life at a stand still
I wouldn't describe abstaining from premarital sex as not taking chances. Just because I'm not going around having sex doesn't mean I won't be able to experience life and explore the world. My life isn't revolved around sex, so even if I don't have it I won't be "stuck in the corner of life at a stand still."
true. and you feel when its the right person.
Yep... has to be the right person!
exactly not someone you will leave in a few months. mine was with my fiance
That's good to hear :)
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yeah some how you saying sex is beautiful and calling your future hisband a bastard don't add up. like if you think that less of him why you with him why have sex with him bastard. an yes its a gifte to give and I gave it and I'm not ashamed I gave it and its not dirty to give it because now that man is my fiance. and I'm best he has and ever will have.
Lol, I apologize, but I'm going to assume that English is not your native language? "Lucky bastard" is a figure of speech, to be taken humorously not literally. You need to read in context next time, now your ruined the effect of my post.
Thats awesome! do you also want your husband to be a virgin or not and why
Ideally I would want him to be a virgin. It would bother me a little bit if he wasn't but I'm pretty understanding so I wouldn't hold it against him..just as long as he didn't sleep around with more than 5 women, and that number is pushing it. What matters to me the most is that he's clean and committed and he will value my body just as I do myself. Trust me I have turned down so many guys, but I'm dead on about saving it for my one guy :).
well if you do reconsider or not its up to you. but yeah sex is amazing! and once you have it you will enjoy it and see why people want so much of it. just most go about it the wrong way and do multiple partners
Believe me, I want sex BAD and I would go crazy horny on my wife so it isn't because I wouldn't find sex amazing. But I don't want to go sleeping around and I would not feel like it was special to have sex with a girl who been with multiple people and I wouldn't feel special giving her mine
way I see it is when your in a relationship with someone its not concidered sleeping around. cause you get to know them, everythign about them then you do it
That's not true! There are some of us who really value a guy who hasn't had sex. I'm waiting until marriage and have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months now. I knew he had different girlfriends in the past, but I was too afraid to ask him if he had sex before because I didn't want to feel differently about him. I finally decided to ask him and he hadn't. You can't imagine how happy I was! It is something that's special and sharing it with your wife will be amazing. Hold on, it's worth it :)
bubble, I'm not so sure about that. I have heard it many times that they prefer someone to "know what they are doing" so at least one off them knows what to do and they view guys who have had experience as ones who would know how to least hurt her... I personally know enough, I don't see the logic in that I mean its not advanced to learn. I am glad you are willing to wait but I don't think the majority do :(. you are rarer
its your natural instinct as a male to know how to f*** a female. but yes its true men who have has sex more are better in bed cause they have had practive with more than just their hand. so mean when you get that girl you have to meet up to them or your goign to dissapoint the girl. cause naturally girls as stupid as we are tend to think men who everythgin we want and just will do it. so yeah she will want you to know everythign about what your doign
I would prefer a guy who hasn't had sex. There is less of a chance of diseases or other problems. I also find the idea of giving a guy oral when you aren't really sure about where his penis has been absolutely disgusting.I also would rather have sex with a guy who had never had sex because it would make it feel more special. Because it would be something he had done only with me.
thanks coffee, I am actually planning to keep mine for marriage because I only want sex with one person in my life and that will be my wife, hopefully my wife is the same. I am glad there are girls like you who also value it :)
I value you. If you value yourself other people will begin to see the value in you. :)
yeah it has to be with someone you love and is right for you. not like some one night stand. that's for losers. and that's worse than being a virgin
yeah most girl probly think like that. but you also have to consider reality a guy hits puberty and wants to bang everythign he can. so closest you can get to a virgin is less partners. my man has sex with 3 girls before me and I'm the best out of all so I'm kind of glad he had had sex so he would see how great I am. its a true blessing
already done that
why you don't set out for a virgin. most of todays virgins are jailbait so its worth it going with someone who lost it already
How are you a loser? You were sexually abused, it wasn't your fault.
Still I should have stopped it somehow!
It is not about the physical power, it is the emotional. Abuse is something that can happen to anyone. it is a vicious cycle that create self-hatred in the victim...but you are the victim. For me, in the instance of sexual abuse, the virginity is symbolic of sex with consent, and you can be a virgin until that happens for you.
yes you have to love them them, then f*** them BEFORE the marriage cause everyone needs alittle test run before you make the purchase.
well and guys used to think tightness ment a virgin. but fact is were tight reguardless of if were a virgin or not
You must be on crack. Just 6 months ago I was with a woman who was anything but tight. Like a hot dog down a hallway. Women get looser with age, especially after childbirth. Many women have surgery after giving birth to have their vaginas made smaller.
then you obviously haven't been reading the topic lots of us women have tight pussies after sex.
"Lots" of you may well have tight ones after sex (though a couple of my exes specifically told me that the longer we waited in between times having sex, the more they could feel me stretching them out). Anyway, I said childbirth. It's a well known fact that stretches them out. Derp.
well maybe after a few kids and age yes. but doesn't mean oh once you have sex you get loose.
I never said it does mean that. All I said was that I don't trust girls who say they're virgins anymore.
lol I got a vote down. really...? lmao
people down vote for the stupidest reasons (I got you +1)
Awww thanks societysbomb. :-)