Are you keeping your virginity, why or why not?

[Anonymous]

if virginity a big deal to you or just something that you can just get rid of

[Anonymous]

I always dreamed that my first time to be emotional and romantic, with someone who is also a virgin, someone who hasn't slept around and feels that I am that special person. I guess it was a stupid dream.

Realistically as I'm getting older the more I realize that it's not gonna happen for someone like me. People now days want casual sex not intimate emotional sex, making someone like me who hates hookups highly undesirable. By my age I realize that if a girls found me attractive or interesting I would have gotten at least one date but since I'm now 23 and have never even gotten a date it goes to show that I'm not desirable.

All my friends have had sex, few of them are getting married soon and most of them say I should just go to a prostitute and get it over with because most girls now days don't care and won't be a virgin till my age. So I'm looking lose it to a legalized prostitute either be this year or next year for my birthday present to myself depending if I manage to save up the money for it.

It's not how I dreamed my first time would be but it's what's most likely going to happen I'm having a hard time coming to grips that I am such an undesirable person that the only way that I can lose my virginity a prostitute if I paid them.

[Asker]

or you could always lie and sya you have had sex before.

[Hunnybunch]

Please don't feel like that. I know I'm not as old as you but I'm nearly 18 and all my friends have also lost their virginity. I constantly feel like there must be a reason why ie I'm undesiarable but the more I think about it the more I realize the only person standing in my way is me. Unlike my friends I care about loosing my virginity, I want to remember it for the rest of my life. I met this guy who I care so much about and I'm considering loosing it to him but I was devestated when I found out

[Asker]

sex is amazing but only with the right person. main reason the people who sleep around regret it its nothign how they imagined it would be. because you got no connection to the person so of course not. you have to love them first

[Hunnybunch]

Hed slept with 6 other girls :( I wanted to loose it at the same time as him but over the years I've realized that these days by 16 most people have lost it. Basically what I'm saying is you will find a girl who wants to sleep with you and believe me shed respect and love you so much more knowing you waited, and then to know your choosing her will make her feel so special. Please don't go to a prostitute, id give anything to find a guy like you!

[Asker]

exactly why waiting for a virgin is just setting yourself up for heartbreak. I mean sure its a great quality to want in someone but we live in a sex craved world its almost impossible to find a virgin other than jailbait. so if you can find someone with few people as possible talk about it when meeting a person before you get to involved you will find yourself happier knowing you can pick an choice the perfect nonvirgin for you.

[Hunnybunch]

Exactly :/ I learnt that the hard way. In my mind I waa going to loose it to a virgin but apparently these days 17 is old to be a virgin. I finally gave up on that idea when I found this new guy and it wasn't till then I realized how stupid I was being. What's important is finding someone you trust and genuinly have feelings for, them being a virgin shouldn't matter. Itbonly slightly bothers. Me now and only because I know the sex won't mean as much to him as it will to me

[Asker]

oh not true. I think if a guy has had sex as least once it will show him how much better it can be with love rather than just a horny teenage boy getting his fix. and then all them fixes (even if ex gf's) mean nothign to him cause your the one. it was that way with me and my man and he regrets ever doign it with them cause I'm the best he has had.

[Opinion Owner]

"waiting for a virgin is just setting yourself up for heartbreak." Yeah my friends said something similar too when they told me most girls will not be a virgin till my age, I guess keeping mine is not valued.And what the two of you has said is very much inline with what my friends have said. Which is why I have begun to accept it with a heavy heart and give up on waiting for someone special because they won't value it, so I'm considering going to a prostitute and getting it over with.

[Asker]

dude trust me if your goign with a heavy heart you will regret it more with a prostitute. if you seriously want to just get it over with you should just find some girl who doesn't have sex for a living it will be more enjoyable for you. cause you will infact notice how she treats it like a job no love, no emotions. when a normal girl even if drunk with show some emotion making it WAY better for you. emotions make up sex

[Opinion Owner]

Question asker it must be nice to be able to do that but I have never had a date because I am undesirable, so telling me to find a drunk girl wanting just sex is even more unlikely. I would rather go to legalized prostitute who's required to have weekly STD checks then hookup with a drunk girl with whom I have a 4/7 chance of catching an STD from and could have me arrested for rape afterward on the grounds that she was drunk and thus unable to consent. As for emotion it won't occur with either

[Asker]

alright well its up to you but I think you will end up regretting it

[Opinion Owner]

which one? the drunken hook up with someone that I don't know and don't feel anything for which you recommend or the prostitute whom I also don't know and won't feel anything for? Both options are horrible, with the hookup sounding a lot worse. But if I have to decide on one of two horrible choices I'd pick the lesser horrible one.

[bubble_bobble]

23 isn't that old. I promise it's worth waiting. I'm 22 and finally found a guy I'm completely in love with. He's never had sex before and it means so much to me because I know when we get married and make love it will be something special that will only be shared between us. Your virginity really is valuable, I think it's a terrible thing to waste on a prostitute. Plus, when you do fall in love she's going to want to know about your past. Are you going to want to explain you lost it to a whore?

[coffeeeadddict]

Trust me, there are so many girls who want to be virgins when they are married, and many of them would prefer the guy to also be a virgin. When a guy has slept around with a bunch of girls, then sex doesn't seem that special. Don't just go have sex because you think it would make you more desirable or something.

[Thiezz]

It's not something I value at all and would happily lose.

[Anonymous]

IM STILL A VIRGIN, and I don't do it because I think I want it to be magical like some comments say in here.

i do it for self respect and love for myself.

i don't know about all of these peole, but I have had sexual education!

and its completely stupid how people later compplain when they get pregnant or get STD!

ITS LIKE COMPLAINING BECAUSE YOUR DORITOS ARE HOT, WHEN IN THE PACKAGE SAYS THEY HAVE HOT IN THEM!

loosing your virginity is not cool, it only shows the world how little moral you have and how little you love yourself!

so for the confused virgin teenager out there that are being pressured into this:

LET THEM EXPRESS THEIR LACK OF EDUCATION AND COMMON SENSE! they will envy you ten years from now! BELIEVE ME!

[Asker]

lossing your virginity is a great thing. I mean if you want to keep it fine kool w/e. but I lost mine and I feel GREAT about it I value myself more it gave me a confidence boost it made me a better person SEX IS GREAT!

[coffeeeadddict]

I am going to keep my virginity until I am married. The reason is because I feel like if I had a bunch of sexual relationships, it would cheapen the one that I will have with my husband. What would be special about that relationship if it was just like every other one?

When I see people going through several different sex partners and having close relationships with them, it makes me sad. What would make their marriage any different than those relationships that failed?

I am sure many of the girls who have sex with these guys assume they will end up together. However, most of them don't. I want to know that I will end up with the guy I have sex with, so I am going to wait until I have ended up with him.

[Asker]

well it can happen that way I had se with my man 2 months after we were together and now he is the man I am goign to married.

[coffeeeadddict]

I know that people can have sex and still end up together. However, a lot of relationships fail (regardless of sex) and I want to make sure that the man I lose my virginity to is also the man I marry. And I am very glad that it worked out for you! :)

[Asker]

yeah things do happen but life is full of taking chances and exploring can't let anythign hold you back even your values or you be stuck in the corner of life at a stand still

[coffeeeadddict]

I wouldn't describe abstaining from premarital sex as not taking chances. Just because I'm not going around having sex doesn't mean I won't be able to experience life and explore the world. My life isn't revolved around sex, so even if I don't have it I won't be "stuck in the corner of life at a stand still."

[Book-Tard]

Heck yes it's a big deal to me!

It's something that can never be replaced, so I value it dearly.

It's an act involving total intimacy... I want to be able to cherish that moment of release, and not regret it later.

You can't go buy it in a store later, so you might as well savor it while you can...

[Asker]

true. and you feel when its the right person.

[Book-Tard]

Yep... has to be the right person!

[Asker]

exactly not someone you will leave in a few months. mine was with my fiance

[Book-Tard]

That's good to hear :)

[Asker]

:)

[joost1983]

To me my virginity wasn't a big deal for me for losing it, but I think everybody has to determine for them selves if it is. If you don't want to lose you're virginity to some guy in a fling, don't do it. The only thing I can say, don't overrate the first time, it's not that it's going to be the best night in your life and that it's going to be magical and stuff

[Quadrophonic84]

So many girls think they can be "born again" virgins or that anal sex doesn't really count as sex so that I really don't even trust a girl when she says she's a virgin now anyway.

[Asker]

well and guys used to think tightness ment a virgin. but fact is were tight reguardless of if were a virgin or not

[Quadrophonic84]

You must be on crack. Just 6 months ago I was with a woman who was anything but tight. Like a hot dog down a hallway. Women get looser with age, especially after childbirth. Many women have surgery after giving birth to have their vaginas made smaller.

[Asker]

then you obviously haven't been reading the topic lots of us women have tight pussies after sex.

[Quadrophonic84]

"Lots" of you may well have tight ones after sex (though a couple of my exes specifically told me that the longer we waited in between times having sex, the more they could feel me stretching them out). Anyway, I said childbirth. It's a well known fact that stretches them out. Derp.

[Asker]

well maybe after a few kids and age yes. but doesn't mean oh once you have sex you get loose.

[Quadrophonic84]

I never said it does mean that. All I said was that I don't trust girls who say they're virgins anymore.

[selfishstars]

I'm not a virgin and I saw no reason to "keep" my virginity. Life is all about experiences, and sexual experiences are part of that.

[toulouse]

I will have sex with someone I am in love with who is in love with me.

[layla223]

im not a virgin and I wouldn't change it. I didn't just throw away my virginity though, it was with a guy that meant something to me at the time, no regrets. now I'm with someone else and we have a great relationship, neither of us virgins going into the relationship but we can see it lasting a long time and it just wasn't something that mattered to either of us :)

[Asker]

yeah it has to be with someone you love and is right for you. not like some one night stand. that's for losers. and that's worse than being a virgin

[Ikonajj]

Well if I had a choice I would have waited until getting married. However I was sexually abused at about eight years old and 13-16 years old. Yes it does happen to boys too! I know I am a loser, but it is the truth!

[coffeeeadddict]

How are you a loser? You were sexually abused, it wasn't your fault.

[Ikonajj]

Still I should have stopped it somehow!

[Rubies_7]

It is not about the physical power, it is the emotional. Abuse is something that can happen to anyone. it is a vicious cycle that create self-hatred in the victim...but you are the victim. For me, in the instance of sexual abuse, the virginity is symbolic of sex with consent, and you can be a virgin until that happens for you.

[CatholicVirginia]

Big deal. I don't want to risk having babies before I can support them. I want to give it to the man I know I love and I know loves me. It's the biggest gift I have to offer. Ideally, I'll be losing my virginity on my wedding night to the love of my life and my best friend.

[smokahontas]

i lost mine at 12 years old while on my period and it hurt like a mother f***er.

[FenFrann]

i can't just give it away to " someone ". your first time should be with someone you like , but what people forget is that the most important thing is to do it with someone you are sure cares about you. in my opinion it is very important .

[sweetNsaltyseals]

I gave it up to a guy I was dating on and off for about a year. We broke up soon after, permanently that time. I don't regret having sex, but I do wish I would've waited until it was with someone I was at least in a secure relationship with for my first time. Nothing wrong with one night stands, but for your first time I think it's important that you be with someone you love.

[pinklipglossxx]

Save it for someone you feel is worthy. Don't just give it to anyone obviously, that would just be demeaning of yourself to do that...But definitely wait until you're with a guy who you love, and who loves you back

[Asker]

already done that

[g1rl5a5k5uy5]

sex ain't a big deal, get rid of it if you feel like you need or want to, don't thinks its going to be magical and spiritual the fist few times.

sex ain't a big deal, don't rush it if you don't want sex, there will be opportunities and plenty of time

[Kattrain]

I'm keeping my virginity because my religion calls for it, also, because I'm not at a point in my life that is stable enough to raise a child (I'm still in school, not financially backed for a kid).

My virginity means nothing to me.

[IdontWantToBeMe]

I'm keeping mine until I'm married, it's defiantly not something I would just get rid of.

But there's more to a person than just their virginity though so I don't think it's that big of a deal if someone else is or not

[DonMichelle]

I was keeping it locked away in my pants but 1 night many moons ago I was drunk, wasn't paying attention and it escaped with the virginity of another young girl who was also drunk... we haven't seen them since... but me and the girl have seen each other so it's alright :)

[TheCoolioGirl]

I am one and I'd love to find one! The realistic/ pessimistic side of me is just hoping for a guy without a arms length list of past partners or STD -_- I know when I do get married that I want to give him everything I humanly can and my virginity is def one that I want him to have.

[Asker]

yeah most girl probly think like that. but you also have to consider reality a guy hits puberty and wants to bang everythign he can. so closest you can get to a virgin is less partners. my man has sex with 3 girls before me and I'm the best out of all so I'm kind of glad he had had sex so he would see how great I am. its a true blessing

[justanotherguy555]

nope. can't please a girl if you don't know what your doing. that's what I belive whether its true or not.

[WtfIdiot]

Pffft.

Sure, the fairytale of falling in love and losing my virginity to another virgin sounds great.

But very few people are lucky enough to have that happen.

I do not see my virginity as something that is very valuable. I would be quite content, actually extremely happy to lose it any time soon. Sooner, rather than later.

[Asker]

why you don't set out for a virgin. most of todays virgins are jailbait so its worth it going with someone who lost it already

[DanHendo]

Waiting for another virgin.

[DanHendo]

lol I got a vote down. really...? lmao

[SocietysBomb]

people down vote for the stupidest reasons (I got you +1)

[DanHendo]

Awww thanks societysbomb. :-)

[ladybug12793]

im keeping it until I get married :)