My crush recently turned Bi, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Well me and this guy have been talking for a while and we have really come to like each other alot. It's pretty much like we are unofficially dating already. We are really close and tell each other everything. He always opens up to me about everything (which he's never done before for anyone else). Well recently he told me that he's bisexual. I didn't know what to say. I'm not really for the whole gay thing (cuz of religion and stuff) but I accept it if it's like one of my friends. Well he's more then a friend to me. I'm deeply inlove with this guy and it kinda creeps me out that he thinks about guys too. I asked one of my friends that is currently dating a bi guy how she deals with it. She said she pretty much forgets and tries not to think about it (she really loves him). She also told me that when they watch TV together if she sees a hot celeb and says it that he will agree with her. See I don't know if I could deal with that. Some of my friends say I should ignore him and move on, I tried that and it failed horribly. I can't bring myself to stay away from him. He's like my perfect match. We understand each other and I love him with everything that's in me. Also some other of my friends said that I should just deal with it,so I tried that and I just couldn't get it out of my mind that he thinks about dudes. God I don't know what to do! I can't stay but I also can't stay away. I'm trapped in the middle. He's so sweet and we have like pet names already but the fact that he's bi is still burning a hole in my brain. Yet my heart yearns for him. What should I do?!?! :(

[ATadTooNice]

Honestly. If it's religion you are worried about, scripture has so many contradictions and hypocrisies. Really, being Bi-sexual isn't a big deal. It's not as if you crush on every single person you see, nor do you automatically get and STD by stepping out of that opressive closet. And look at it this way: He was bi before he started talking to you, and Bi before you started crushing on him, and he sure as hell was Bi when he trusted you enough to open up to you with something this big. He likes dudes and chicks, you like dudes. Seems like he has the better deal. But it honestly it''s not a big deal, you don't have to check out guys together, you don't have to live with the knowledge that he's been with another guy, it seems very very clear to me. Just accept him as he is. Oh, and Hun, when a guy says he's Bi, it's usually not a phase. Girls have an extremely flexible sexuality, so sometimes they can mistake being curious as being Bi-sexual :P His sexuality doesn't change the fact that he is the dude who's fallen in love with you as you've fallen in love with him. Get over your self righteousness, get over the stereotypes, get over yourself. If you can't, you don't deserve such a great guy. Try talk it out with him...

[Asker]

Well as I said he just came out maybe like 2weeks ago so he's never been with a guy before. And I'm trying to except it because I love him but I need to get use to this 1st. It's so new and recent and a HUGE shock to me.

[kezzzz]

i completely agree with this.

[ATadTooNice]

Well that's good you're trying, at least. You two seem to have something great between you. And two weeks? Seems like plenty of time to get used to it. The shock will probably wear off pretty soon :P

[Asker]

Yeah we have a strong connection and we both deeply care about each other. But I need more time to get use to it :P as I said it will take longer because I'm very religious but yet I love him with all my heart. :)

[ATadTooNice]

Religion can be a big factor yeah, but I have friends who are super religious and they are quite bent X3 It's what perspective you take on the whole deal ^_^ But good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks. I guess I'll keep talking to him, because I just can't stay away from him <3 he's such a good guy and I love him dearly :) <3

[Iadoreyou87]

If You really like him and/or love him, you will accept him just how he is. You can always think that in a way we're all bi. If you're watching the tv, and see a hot celebrity, and he aggrees with you you can always take it the same way you gotta agree that a female celebrity is pretty or hot. I would only worry because when it come to faithfulness he got more choices to not be but you said that he has been faithful and respectful on previous relationships so I don't see why would that be a problem. I'm not try to insult you here, but you shouldn't let religion stand in the way, if you really believe in a higher entity or God you will understand that he/she created us equals and he/she accepts every single one of us for what we are, so if he/she can, you should be able too. on my part, the whole guy on guy action turns me on a little bit, but that's just me. Hahaha

[Asker]

Lol wow. But I havnt talked to him in a while. But he misses me idk. I hope we talk again because I still love him. But he was being a doush for a sec so until he apologizes I'm done with him. :P

[selfishstars]

Well, you've said he's an awesome guy. Being bi doesn't change that. Get over it. If you can't accept him for who he is, then you don't deserve to be with him.

[jimmydean72]

You need to decide to embrace it or leave him and move on. If you have any issues about it you need to move on. If you stay with him, bi doesn't mean he can be with other partners male or female if you are exclusively dating. it just means he's attracted to both sexes. So if he can be faithful, it may not be a big deal.

[Asker]

Oh with all of his ex's he was very committed and faithful. He has the highest utmost respect for woman and is really sweet and kind. I'm trying to accept it but I just can't get it out of my mind. and in a way if I stop talking to him it would break his heart (and mine). I think o just need some time to think about this.

[bhall20]

STAY AWAY. God made Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. Besides, you don't want AIDS

[Asker]

Well he just figured out he was bi so he hasn't done anything with any guys yet. So no AIDS lol.

[bhall20]

haha OK. I am just saying. No need to spread it.

[RedThread78]

because no straight people have AIDS.. Also if you're gay you can't force yourself to like the opposite sex... I have a friend who is gay and he went through a lot coming out. His father doesn't even talk to him anymore. You should show some more respect.

[RedThread78]

another thing to ponder.. what if your future son was gay?

[bhall20]

He won't be gay I'll make sure of it.

[Asker]

Well personally I don't think he is. It might just be a phase because I know him pretty well. I couldn't see him pursuing this.

[willytheg]

bail

[Asker]

amen XD

[Rainbow_Dash]

I just don't get it. What's so bad about him being bi?

If you like him so much, it shouldn't even be an issue.

[Asker]

Well it just creeps me out :P

[Rainbow_Dash]

Why? What's so creepy about it?

[Asker]

It creeps me out that we both think about boys

[Barrybaby]

it could create problems. my ex-girlfriend recently broke up with me because I was giving blow jobs to other guys.

[Asker]

Were you doing that during the relationship?

[Barrybaby]

she knew that I had given lots of blow jobs before we started dating and asked me to not do it while we were dating. I gave in to temptation and did it a few times. she found out and was angry.

[Asker]

Oh well that was kinda cheating :P not to judge