Do white men only use black women for sex to prove a point?

[Honeybaby]

Most black women say that they won't date a white guy because they just want to see what it's like to have sex with a black woman and that white men do not want to commit to a black woman as they would to a white women. I just want to know if this is true. I try to avoid white guys for this reason as I'm not sure if there interest in black women are genuine, although I had dated one before. Question is open to all but it would be nice to hear what white guys have to say on this matter? Black guys your opinion is welcome too.

[missnicole]

So strange...from my experience, I woudlnt consider this the norm. And frony my expeience meaning, I have lived in the US on the west coast, east coast and up north, as well as over seas in Asia, and spent some time in Europe.

Ever since my very first crush, I've had a thing for blondes...to say its my weakness would be an understatement! Now I have dated guys from many different races, I don't discriminate, but for sure mostly white guys, mostly blondes...and this whole issue isn't something I've come across on a grand or even minor scale. As a matter of fact, I do find it interesting that the guys I've dated were just as drawn to and attracted to black and/or latino women. I've yet to be the first black girl a guy I was involved with, was in a relationship with (excpet my first boyfriend, but then we were each others firsts...hah!)

Now it has happened while getting to know a guy or there's a budding interest, he happens to mention he's never been with a black woman before...I don't find that in and of itself odd, I do find it that he says that to me odd, and especially with the way guys tend to say that, it does come off like its just a creepy fantasy/fetish thing. Not interested and I lost interest immediately, do not pass go...but moments like that are so far and few between...cant even remember the last time that's happened to me.

Soooo as a black woman who has caught the interest of, once was married to, lived with and in serious relationships with white guys who either previously were or went on to marry/be in a serious relationship with a black woman, I can say...thats just a stereotype. I've also heard this about Jewish men in particular, which I think is funny since I've dated so many Jewish men, that I joke that I'm Jew-ish, plus my ex's family "adopted" me, and his mom has been teaching me Yiddish so I can properly tell my future husband off...

Sterotypes...people are people, being of a certain race, ethnicity, etc etc bloah blah blah doesn't predestin anyone to act or feel a certain way. Neither does environment or upbringing, we're individuals and should be treated as such and not judged as a whole people.

[Honeybaby]

Interesting! Thanks.

[missnicole]

No prob!

[Anonymous]

This is what I was raised hearing growing up. And I have met some guys like this now that I'm dating. I know people that this has happened to. There are white men who can generally love a black woman and be committed to her, but for the most part white guys are going to ultimately end up with white women, and black women ultimately end up with black men. All races do this. The problem is when one person is mislead or deluded to fall in love and ends up getting hurt. But then again there are a lot of black men who aren't genuine to black women too so you can't say that no white guy will commit to you, you just don't know. So it does depend on the guy, but the odds are that you'll meet more white guys wanting to have sex with you than you will meet ones open to commitment.

[Honeybaby]

The problem is I'm hearing this far too often or known it to actually happen. Very worrying.

[Anonymous]

some do.. but then some would mary a black women if the right one came along. to be honest I have wanted to sleep with a white man just to see how it was.. so us black women do think the same way sometimes...

[Honeybaby]

See it would be nice to know that you sleep with someone because you have feelings for that person and not because of their skin colour. A man is a man and a woman is a woman. But I do suppose that some people are curious.

[G-Daz]

Can you specify this to what country your talking about please because that's not how it is in England (well based on my own personal experience and all the cities I have visited anyway). I pretty much see black women with white men almost every day, almost every time I see black women in a realtionship with a white man. I see them pushing a pram together with a biracial baby so its not fair to say its this way everywhere. I personally would not use black women for sex, because for one I don't use people for sex and two I am actually attracted to black women

[Honeybaby]

I can only speak about the experiences from England and to be honest I've only seen a handful of white men with black women as couples. Not that much, it's mainly black men with white girls

[G-Daz]

You live in England and see this really :O what part off England is that? Interracial relationships between either is deffinitly not rare were I live. I see black women with white men pretty much every time I see a black women

[Honeybaby]

I don't see that much probably 1 in 40. Now with black men it's like 1 in 3.

[l-hedoniste]

Every taboo can be sexualized. In a country like the US, that has deep, deep fissures marking the race issue, you can bet the issue unleashes a lot of sexual energy. The forbidden always becomes the desired, because it's forbidden.

So, a LOT of interracial sport f*cking goes on, which is fine as long as everybody gets to come out of role from time to time to relate as people. That's what you need to look for: a person willing to occasionally (or typically) treat you as a person as well as a sex object.

[Reggie1]

I hope not. Having sex to prove a point is always pointless anyway, and using someone in any way is reprehensible.

Personally, I have been attracted to a few black girls, because they were warm, funny, and (I'll admit it) cute. It's better to go out with someone for their merits rather than the box they tick in the census.

[Honeybaby]

Reggie1 thanks for your comment.

[palek]

I'm a white guy, and I only date black women, and I do so because I find them more attractive than any other in every way. I'm presently engaged to a black woman, and I was engaged to a blacck woman prior to this but it didn't work out as she was bipolar.

[Honeybaby]

Thanks for your contribution.

[palek]

My pleasure.

[tolerantturtle]

I avoid them for the same reason and if I did I would probably make them wait a lot longer because of that reason.

[Honeybaby]

I can understand where your coming from.

[scar1]

first of all your statement is a stereotype so of course its not true and its not even generally true as far as I know. there are people that want to "try out" a different race, ethnicity, Ethnic grouping, etc. in every race, ethnicity, ethnic grouping, etc. I personally I am not like that although I am not looking anything serious with any girl. although if I were to date a girl it would almost definitely be a black, Asian or actual mixed raced girl (someone who isn't white, black or Asian) mixed gened doesn't do anything for me either way, only because I am far less attracted to white girl and even when I am its usually only sexual

[Honeybaby]

Thanks for your comment and this not a criticism so don't bark, this is not a statement but is a question I am asking because the women of colour that I have known and men have often said this, so rather than me generalising a people I thought It would be better to ask.

[scar1]

you were asking if a stereotype is true I said of course it isn't true its a stereotype since there is no such thing as a true stereotype

[Honeybaby]

Okay maybe there is some slight truth in the made based on a minority, because the women that I know had female relatives or friends that were in that situation. Therefore, I was often warned not to cross those barriers.

[scar1]

It may be the majority I'm not the best reverence on Caucasians (non-Hispanic white people) I only live in the suburbs for 3 years (at this point I'm assuming you mean Caucasians) I'm just saying you shouldn't even have to ask question like that. if you had asked how it is generally that would have been productive and logical. if my assumption was wrong feel free to correct me.

[Honeybaby]

Unfortunately sometimes you have to ask questions the same way it has been put to you in order to get a honest response, if I had changed the wording of the question then there would be no point in asking about something that has been bothering me. Anyway thanks for your own opinion.

[scar1]

thats true but it doesn't apply to this question if anything it hurts the question

[callmejas]

this is probably true of some but definately not all. it's natural to be curious about people who are different than yourself.

[RedThread78]

I've liked a couple black women genuinely. To be honost there aren't that many where I live so I don't normally come in contact with them. Honostly if I like a girl I don't care if she is white, brown, black, orange, or green. Race is a social construct anyway. I'm sure there are men that do have a fetish for a certain type of women which isn't very healthy behavior.

We are slowly heading towards a post racial society but it doesn't seem like it's happening quite fast enough does it?

Oh yeah I'm a white guy.

[Honeybaby]

It seems a bit reassuring to hear that! Thanks

[toulouse]

:) like this answer,

[Prof_Don]

I'm not a black woman, so maybe I don't get it...

...but as a male, this ? seems to be a HUGE generalization. I've heard about this phenomenon before.

[Honeybaby]

Pro Don, it is a huge generalisation and no different from the phenomenon of the reason why white women want to be with black men. So think about it from that perspective and tell me what you now think.

[TheBattMan]

Yes, this is not true at all. Gross generalization.

[Honeybaby]

But is it really a gross generalisation?

[TheBattMan]

Yes. That's why I called it a gross generalization.

[MikeK]

That's bullsh*t. Not true. I'm actually beginning to despise white women...

[Honeybaby]

Why?

[MikeK]

That was a little harsh of me. I just mean I'm getting tired of all the airs white women put on and their impenetrable "wall of defense" in approaching them...

[CandyCoated123]

:)

[simples3]

I think your right in saying that white men want to see what its like, but I doubt that in every case this is their sole purpose of dating a black women. I also feel testing the waters isn't necessarily a bad thing. By this I mean, that there are plenty of foods/sports/activities/sexual positions you may have not tried yet, but just because you haven't, does it make it wrong to try, if it brings you an inch closer to making you potentially happy?

[Honeybaby]

I can understand your point of view, but we are talking about human beings - people with emotions. So yes you could be closer to potential happiness whilst the person that you thought you'd try out goes into potential ruin.

[Lexknowsall]

I would have to say it probably is more an issue over commitment than committing to women of a certain race...I'm white and attracted to black women.

[mayurr]

It depends on girl's choice also.
First they go with him who is already using other girls & then say all men are same when that man leave them.

I'll spend my whole life with a dark skinned woman if I get one but never found till now or they are far away from me😑

[Achref1]

It's not true only the black guys use black women's for just having sex and go too married white women for the white guy it's different what's the black girl give too white guy on the bad and maked him haved fun every single time make him continued with her and that's the white girls can't give too white man if it's depending to me i will Marry black girl with pawg ass and continue with her for rest of my life but the problem is the black women only want the black man

[cole5873]

i am sure that there are black women that just want 2 have sex with a white guy just 2 kno what its like.. there are sum white guys that experiment with a black girl..there is good an bad in all.. not just a white an black thing.. there are black guys that have never had sex with a black girl but will just 2 c how it is.. don't judge a race by 1 or 2 ppl.. judge the person 4 who they r..

[Honeybaby]

Interesting about the black guy black girl statement you made. Anyhow what I would like to know is why wouldn't you treat every woman the same, what's up with the experiment? Where all human beings! Are we species?

[cole5873]

experiment is just 2 c how it is.. not sleepin with a person because you like them you just want 2 c how it is.. we are all the same.. but we don't kno till you find out.. you find out by experimenting..

[Irishal]

Hi. I'm a white Irish guy and next month I am getting married to a black girl and I love her very much. It has never been just about sex with her. Since we have been together I have noticed a lot of white guy, black girl couples and all of them in committed relationships. I can't say what it is like in America but here black girls tend to go for white guys more when they are looking for a serious relationship. I'm sure you will come across some idiots who will try to have sex with a black girl for the sake of having sex with a black girl and visa versa. I think it's high time that white people and black people alike stop looking at race and using colour as an excuse. After all it is the 21st century. I'm sure there are plenty of white guys out there who will be interested in you for who you are and not what you are

[Honeybaby]

Cheers!

[Anonymous]

I'm sure some of them do, but it would be wrong to say all or most of the do that. I certainly don't. Regardless of his ethnicity or yours, some guys are going to pursue you for the sole purpose of getting laid, and others are going to be genuinely interested.