How do I tame my abnormally high libido?

[Sugarcoat]

Ever since I was a pre teen I have had an out of control sex drive. I started masturbating early and frequently, being from a very religious family this was always my secret shame. I always had a very difficult time staying abstinent and it caused me severe depression which later developed into anxiety disorder. I managed to keep it in my skirt until I was an adult, but now I can't get enough. My relationships end because I always want sex more than my partner. I've been told I'm like a man or worse than a man, been called a nympho, slut, whore etc. Its hurtful, I don't want to be the man in my relationships, and I don't want to drive partners away. Recently I have entered a relationship with a man online, my usual crazy libido has been curbed by recent severe illness, but I am on the mend and now I'm moving to be with this man. I love him dearly and I don't want to drive him away, what can I do to curb my overly high sex drive?

[Anonymous]

I too suffer deeply from the same issue of an extremely high libido. It is hard to deal with! I ran across this site by Googling what to do. You see what makes us different is the fact that I was self conscious as a teen. I wasn't just sleeping around in the beginning. However, once I started I began to treat sex as my scape goat of being desired by boys & then later on men once I was older. My problem started w me having rough sex I guess til later on down the line, I was accustomed to it and can't get fully satisfied. Unlike most women if they climax.. their done! I am the opposite by it only makes me hornier and I find myself desiring the conversation of men & what they want to do to me. If I am just casual dating then I see no problem w experimenting w other men but if I am in a monogomous relationship then I try my damnest to remain faithful. I have been in a partnership for 6 years now and we are equally freaky & he satisfies me to an extent. However, my drive is still much higher than his. I started looking at p*rn at times thinking that would pacify me when I can't be with him.. tricking myself that if I see it then I won't have to necessary do it. So I'm saying all that to say baby girl I know what you are going through. I want so bad to be with him only, but even I started telling him when I would start having desires or lust for other men. I told him that I don't want to hurt him & return to my old ways of being promiscuous. That even my thoughts scare me!

[helpingjessie]

i have the same problem, tho I'm a virgin still so... I just try to ignore it, I know its nearly impossible but try not to touch anyone and distract yourself while you're horny. treat it like any other addiction. you need to train yourself to not touch yourself as often, no matter how badly you want to. try to refraign from doing that more than once a day, then when youve got the hang of that, every other day, and so on. just work your way there. b^_^d you can do it!

oh and try not to talk about sex too much or anything else that gets you horny.

[EverythingReal]

I am right there with your guys. Except for the majority of my friends are guys and the topic of sex is hard to avoid. Yay to the sisterhood of horny girls, lol.

[helpingjessie]

lol yeah!

[Drake742]

where do you find girls like this, not to just sleep with but start a relationship with?

[helpingjessie]

Haha, try getting to know your chick friends better. I'm the girl that's every guy's "sister" which is why I rarely get any... but its usually the girls you least expect it from cause a lot of the girls I know who do it a lot usually just do it cause of their bfs, they have an almost non-existent libido...

[l-hedoniste]

I'm certain your folks didn't tell you this, so I will: you're okay. There's nothing wrong with you, your libido, your masturbation, your sex drive, none of it. You just got stuck with a hostile upbringing in a hostile society that encourages hostile partners. (Fun place, eh?) But make no mistake: your upbringing, your society, your partners have the problems. You're just fine.

All you need is a man (or two) who can keep up with your libido. Just make it clear to your partners that you tend to have sex until you're satisfied, you just happen to take a LOT of satisfying. If a guy can't deal with that, that's his problem for him to deal with.

[WeaponZero]

I'm not sure what to tell you. I am in the exact opposite situation. Girls always leave me because I'm not ready to "give it up" in a time frame that's suitable for them.

[Raider_Z]

Marry Me!... wait... lol, keep looking. Most women would kill to have your so called problem. Hell I would kill to have a woman that wanted sex more than I did, there's something immoral about denying a woman sex, or at least a good p**** licking. Good hunting you lucky sex kitten!

[Drake742]

Try and broach this as his idea, suggest an open relationship where you guys bring other people into the bedroom, you both win.

[AlbinoBunny]

If it interferes with your life find something to put your passion into or have therapy. If it doesn't negatively affect your life anymore than "other people might think I'm a slut" then just have a lot of (safe) sex and f*** (ignore and maybe f*** too I guess) the haters.

[deanharris]

take long showers and keep toys hidden away for you

[pepsiswasp]

I know exactly how you feel I grew up in a really strict religious household and it would drive me insane like that. To be honest I'm suprised that's driving guys away I would think your high drive would have the opposite effect.

[Anonymous]

hey there baby girl..where do you live and what's your number ;-)