So who's fault is it really by nature, the guys or the girls - Guys, especially players and manwhores?

[R3dVixen]

why don't you think every girl that you have sex with won't want you to commit at won't point? okay, so lets say you had sex with this girl(and I'm sure u've all had ONE(while playing the field) when she start acting all"wanting to be your wife/crazy"(if you know what I mean) usually these are the"good-girls". Okay I don't understand, why you get upset when they get all"i want you to commit"? if you played her,(knowing she was a good-girl) y do you bust out the whole"ptff, she's the one that gave it up,its not my fault" when IN EVERY GIRL THAT IS OUR MAIN GOAL is to have a MATE. and I know guys I'm SORRY that THEIR IS SOME LAZYASS-DUMB BITCHES OUT THERE that want to gold dig you or mooch of your of paycheck OR try to trap you by getting pregnant(which I've learn some girls will do that INTENTIONALLY and play the whole it wasn't intentional BS) Because these bitches can't focus on a carreer first and make their own dam money and not have to rely on anyone. THE CONSEQUESES AND ACTIONS FROM SEXUAL INTERCOURSE ARE MOSTLY GIRLS RESPONSIBILITY! Because it mostly impacts us the MOST physically and mentally. and yet guys blame us that were bitches and whores and what not. In all off nature its always been the same The male WORKS and passes on his genetic code and the female nurtures/cares for the offsprings and etc. birds do it,reptiles do it, all mammals do it. The only difference is that in humans two things f***s us all up, and that's MONEY and EMOTIONS. in the animal kingdom its less complicated, the male f***s u, he leaves or stays(or gets eaten by the famale"knowing he'll get eaten") you have the babies, you feed the babies, they grow, and then you DO IT again or you die(or the female gets eaten by the babies) AND NOBODY COMPLAINS! AND THEY ALL EXEPT THEIR FATE! but with humans their so much Bullsh*t because in order to survive in our society you must be a pair and theirs that whole"i don't wanna die alone"crap which scientifically YOU DIE ALONE ANYWAYS LOL the point is I'm trying to get a guys point of view"preferably a players/manwhores" before this weekend(a cuzin of mine lost her virginity to manwhore/player she met I don't know where, but aperantly he sweet talked her"u know promised her the moon and the stars and all that" wich I WARNED her that GUYS WILL SAY/DO ANYTHING TO GET BETWEEN YOUR LEGS that is their whole purpose of existance"most of them don't want to commit" but you know she though HE WAS THE ONE and well...she ain't a virgin no more and she's going all crazy like stalking the guy and what not and she basically is just having a bad experience with men, when I'm telling her that its not guys' fault(cuz you guys are more simple minded your views r"it is what it is" LOL) but yeah SO WHO'S FAULT IS IT REALLY BY NATURE, THE GUYS OR THE GIRLS?

[l-hedoniste]

I don't do blame; it's a generally wasteful human activity. If my actions lead to bad consequences, then I made bad choices. I need to own that and learn my lesson, and not go looking for people to blame. It's called "taking responsibility".

Speaking of taking responsibility, if I say "I have no interest in a relationship", and a woman *chooses* not to hear this, then she's making a bad choice, one that will have bad consequences. When she gets her heart broken, she needs to own that bad choice, learn her lesson, and not go looking for someone to blame. She needs to take responsibility.

Do I blame her for getting crazy/clingy? No, but I know a bad choice when I see one, and I have neither the duty nor the desire to encourage it. So, I'm going to remove myself from a bad situation, forcefully if need be. It's the right choice for me to make.

P.S.: Friends don't let friends bake and post. Just sayin'. ;)

[R3dVixen]

i was doing some art work ALONE by myself, so yeah my friends werent near by AND YES! I AGREE WITH U! it all falls into personal RESPONSIBILITY =)

[hALLDAY]

- Because there is no such thing as a "good/bad" girl or a "jerk/nice" guy, there is a combination of both, some leaning more one way than the other.

-Why would anyone have to commit to something they don't want to? Sex takes two. I'm tired of people saying...oh he/she used me. No, you conformed and also used him for your pleasure, its a two way street.

-blah blah I can't read that part about gold diggers or the rest its to chuncky and no paragraphs. Not all men and women are retarded and have the comprehension of a infant, sure love blinds people but most make rational decisions about who they will be in a relationship with.

To answer your question its both their faults

[R3dVixen]

and I agree, I think it just really hurt my cuzin ESPECIALLY because it was her virginity but I'm sure all of us have felt that way when you first gave it away to someone you thought you were going to be together forever with, I told her f*** it just move on, but then again she's still young and has plenty to learn LOL ptff Kids LOL I actually don't give a sh*t one way or the other, I'm considered the SLUT in the family because I've had sex but not gotten married?! DAM MEXICANS and their uneducated views LOL

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Girls need to smarten up and look out for their own best interest. They need to realize that MOST guys they will come across in their life are looking for a good time and not looking out for your best interest. So stop depending on a guy to treat you right and do right by you, most of them are looking out for #1. Women need to take a page from mens book and start thinking of themselves, maybe they wouldn't get played so much

[virgininla]

It is the fault of the guy and the girls. They both share some responisbility.

Look, I'm not a player, I'm terrible with women, but I do know that most of them go for the player type, and avoid guys that treat them well. Not all girls are this way, but a lot of girls are. They have a divining rod for guys that will sleep with them and then dump them.

There are so many nice guys, who would love to have a wonderful girl to share their life with, tons of them. And they spend every Saturday night alone, they never get any dates. The girls go on one date with them or a couple dates with them and then decide to be their friends. In more times than not, they decide to hookup with some jerk. When nice guys have a girlfriend, they usually don't sleep together, she is sleeping with some other guy, most likely a player, behind the nice guy's back.

So is it any surprise that more and more of these nice guys are taking lessons in "how to be the ass**** that women love."

[lv4lv]

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...Both. The fault is both. You cannot place it on either sex, gender, or even person(unless they're a psychopath). Both sexes/genders do these things.

[R3dVixen]

true! and sorry I was baked as f*** when I was writing this last night, and started type-ranting LMAO I don't know if you smoke happy grass, but if you do, you know what I'm talking about LOL

[selfishstars]

I couldn't make it through the question, but I'm going to say that this is by far the best answer.

[Hartmut]

Dammit, I wanted to up-arrow this response, but hit the down-arrow by mistake. ARGH.