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Threesome with boyfriend... Is he gay?

Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and have a son together. Recently he brought up having a threesome with me and another male which I'm confused about as I thought he'd want another female :/ I also found out that behind my back he was discussing with one of the Lads about letting him suck (my bfs) cock. Now I'm wondering if he's at least bi if not gay I've asked him kind of and he says it makes him feel sick and it disgusting. how do I find out?
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We've had 3somes was good but now that I seen what he was texting the other lad behind my back it's put me off having anymore and he keeps bringing it up now :S
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Right I get it my bfis most likely gay/bi
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Finally sat and talked about it properly boyfriend isn't gay/bi he said he just got caught up in the texts and no way he could have really gone through with it
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  • I'd prefer a threesome with another man, a bit of double p works wonders for arousal... filthy ;) ha ha and I'm glad to see your up 4 it too, more girls need to adopt your way of thinking. As 4 wanting a gobble off a bloke... really must I say it?

    Him saying it makes him feel sick and disgusted sounds like you've hit a nerve, trying to cover his tracks by making you think he despises it. Over emphasising your disgust of a thing usually means your lieing about your true feelings towards it. Poor attempt at reverse phsycology!

    • That's what I think but it's really not working. I asked him again this weekend ended up in an argument him saying how sick it is so don't think he'll ever tell the truth

    • He never will tell the truth so don't try and force it out of him! The more you question the more defensive he'll become, he'll happily dig himself deeper and deeper in lies than admit the truth! Is it extreme shame, extreme guilt... who knows? :) ? Sorry for the smiles after my comments but the reason for them is because I'm thinking of a similar situation myself, rather than her admit she was lieing to me she'd continue to lie AND INSULT ME WITH THEM! I spotted the similarity immediately...

    • ... and thought I'd inform you of 'the silly lier's mind' (even though it's obvious you always need a second opinion don't ya?.. why do you think I became a member of this website lol :) ) When they blatantly lie they may aswell be pointing at you, laughing saying 'i love the that 'mug' tattoo you've got on your forehead, really suits you'... the lies become offensive to you and you become more annoyed. Have you started getting pissed off yet? Or are you more understanding than me? :) ?

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  • sounds like he might be a bit but if he doesn't want to be that's his issue

    the idea of the threesome though doesn't make him gay...he may just like the idea of you being ahem extra pleased...

    only way to know for sure would be to go along with the threesome...I think you'd be able to tell if he was gay by how he acted, and if you brought a straight guy in for the threesome, he'd definitely be able to tell

    • by the way, the other anon's advice is really bad if not purely sarcastic!

Most Helpful Girls

  • I always believed guys give the best blow jobs to other guys because they know male anatomy and the right spots so well. Just like women know what other women like in oral sex... I think he is bisexual with more inclination towards you.. But the blowgun from a guy was probably amazing. That's why he wants more of it.

    If I was you,I would join them and learn what he likes the most

    • He never had bj of a man he was just talking about it. And I know how to suck cock

  • Go for it ,i did it with three guys at ounce its great I f***ed and sucked all three. and have had sevreal ffm and mmf I love group sex.

    • some nurse loaded with stds I bet.

  • Well does he want to do anything with the other guy? Some guys just like watching their girlfriend with another guy.

    • I've enjoyed watching my gf's w/others -- believe me, I ask why myself ... but it is really hot...

    • more guys like it than will admit to it openly. it can be hot...

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  • Do the threesome. If he starts knobgobbling, you'll have your answer.

  • little competition with another guy huh? better make him want you more than some nasty man ewwww that's so repulsive

  • Would it bother you to watch him with another man? If not, tell him that you don't mind him doing that, but only if you are present.

    • Yeah it would I don't want see me boyfriend with another lass never mind another man!

    • Maybe it is something he thinks about but wouldn't do... that's what fantasies are for, right? If you like, maybe you could "play" at it... buy a dildo that looks like a penis, for instance, or a strap-on.

    • I have load dildos like that and he never touches them when I'm around, but he's so anti gay it's unreal makes me think he trying put on an act

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  • He's talking about double penetration, if I was you I'd go for it, Double the fun double the d***s and double the pleasure lol

  • Nope, sounds hot :)

  • when I thought of doing a MFM... I never thought anything of the guy doing nething but pleasing the girl -- might as well be a good toy.

  • gay?nahh.very gay?yes

    • So you think it's bit weird aswell? I totally get like small boy ass toys and that but not a real c**k that's jet pushing it abit

    • definately

    • How the he'll am I suppose to ask him with out saying so are you gay and want it up the ass

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  • 2 year ago I had the same adventure after a wild party, but I'm not gay...

    • Wot you let a lad suck you off?

  • He is very immature. You two have a child, and before you address your urges, you should consider the Kid's needs and how your actions now will affect him. Face it, if he is talking to another guy behind your back, he is cheating. You two should decide now if you want to stay together. It is cool if he is gay/bi. If you are cool with it, let him know there are other things you can do in substitution of a threesome. If you bring another person into a relationship, it may complicate things; and by the way you describe your relationship, that is the last thing you need. THINK ABOUT YOUR SON!

    • My child is my number 1 priority! I didn't ask for 3sum my boyfriend did that's why I was getting doubts over sexuality

  • He is really by

    • You spelt bi wrong

  • So let me get this straight, when you two had the threesome with the other lad, your boyfriend was pleased more by the other lad than you? Did he actually take penetration from the other lad and did he put his lips on the other lads penis?

    • Yeah, I'm trying to figure out what part of it bothers her...

    • Omg actual penetration would bother me too if it was my boyfriend and other guy. That's gay.

  • i suck it very hard

  • He's gay or bi. Case closed. No straight man would do that.

    • My man is straight but when we spice up our relationship by bringing in a 3rd person he has no problem with another man and he, because I have no problem with another female and me! All is fair. That's what you need to do...insist on next time it with another woman instead of a man, and you pick the woman!

    • Absolutely no way I'd let another woman anywhere near my boyfriend (sexually)

    • I don't know.. The whole thing just doesn't appeal to me.

  • Is he into Double Penetration? I too have always wanted a threesome with a girl and guy more than a 3some with 2 girls...

    • Yeah and I'm well up for anything like that, but he was texting one of the 3some lads about meeting up to suck his oak maybe more...

    • Cock *

  • actually many straight men have regular sex with other males, actually its found that married men or men with girlfriends that engage in homosexual acts are less likely to have stds and a list of other sexual issues, also only a guy really knows what another guy wants, and it helps just get our sexual energy out and not get out of control because having a date with your hand gets boring very quickly

    • I have a higher sex drive than my boyfriend so he never has to have a date with his hand! And I don't understand why he says it's sick or disgusting. I p**sed of that he went behind my back and was texting the 3some lad like that...

    • he has probably already been with him sexually lol, its some guys fantasy to be with another guy, I have my boyfriend tho he is awesome!

    • straight men having regular sex with other males ... hmm what kinda drug have you been taking?

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