Generally, guys will ALWAYS want sex, but any sexual encounters (kissing/making out/foreplay) are absolutely signs that the guy wants sex. He may accept that he isn't going to get it, at least, not right away, but he will still want it, and he's going to expect the other activities to progress to sex eventually.
So... don't start what you aren't prepared to finish. That's called "leading someone on" or 'teasing", and it isn't nice. I'm not saying that you can't kiss or make out without having sex, but you need to make your limits crystal clear up-front, and you shouldn't go beyond making out if you aren't ready for sex, or willing to have sex with that person.
Imagine a man who hasn't eaten in 2 weeks and is starving. He wants to eat. He will enjoy some small bites of your appetizer (kissing/making out), but he really wants the whole meal (sex), and teasing him with little bites over a long period of time when you aren't going to give him the meal is cruel and wrong.
I agree. I would not do anything other than what I talked about.. I was asking more what it means when other people do it to me. what I should do so I do not give the wrong 'idea'... if perhaps they had a different idea than what I thought they had inferred from what I said. is it really leading on if you do not think they want sex? If a guy says he does not want sex, do I still have to be responsible for not giving the wrong idea? Its SO much easier when people SAY exactly what they want.
You should assume that all guys want sex, even if they say otherwise, because MOST of the time, they are just trying to tell you what they think you want to hear. Yes, there are certainly exceptions to that rule, but they are much rarer than those who just lie. And, you ALWAYS have to be responsible for not giving someone the wrong idea when you are having intimate contact with them, and they are responsible to you. Intimacy means shared responsibility, among other things.
"assume guys want sex... MOST of the time.. what they think you want to hear. " 1. Want and EXPECT are different. No one has a right to EXPECT sex. 2. if they think I WANT to hear that they do not want sex tan why would they EXPECT me to want sex from them? 3." you ALWAYS have to be responsible for not giving someone the wrong idea when you are having intimate contact with them," HOW if they lie? "they are responsible to you"- HOW if they lie? 5, If they lie- why would they think I'm not?
if the guy is doing it then definitely. But as MrOracle says even if we are not kissing we mostly will want sex, 100% if the guy is younger like through 20's.
If the girl does it I would not take it as her wanting intercourse but I would definitely expect that she is willing to give either a blow job or at least a hand job. both of which you will never receive any argument against doing.
If you don't want to do anything but kiss either tell the guy straight out that you love to touch but you don't want to do anything but make out. otherwise just kiss or maybe you can feel his ass which guys love to do but I don't know if women like to do that to guys.
either way it helps if you are willing to let him fondle your breasts even if it is outside your clothes and not letting him sneak up under your shirt and getting them free of your bra so the nipples are accessible
thank you for the detail by the way :) Why does this 'help' wouldn't it make him want sex more ? >"either way it helps if you ..fondle your breasts even if it is outside your clothes and not letting him sneak up under your shirt and getting them free of your bra so the nipples are accessible" Yea I assume most people in 20s want sex :) I meant was it his way of saying he wants sex NOW? If I ask a guy to kiss him & he ends up doing more, I should pull back so he doesn't think I want sex? (if I dont)
well if you aren't opposed to him feeling you up then he feels like he got something when, at least it seems to me, it probably isn't that big a deal to you. We love breasts, big or small, he might not get inside you but he goes away feeling real good. If you don't want to do more he is more then capable of taking care of himself. No, him fondling you isn't a way to saying he wants sex now...he is Hoping it leads to it. if you pull away he should get the message to be happy with what he has
ok lol ll I guess everyone has different view of what to do etc I just figure if a guy gets that heated from only kissing then touching anything anywhere else would be too overwhelming, tho you are right he CAN take care of it himself, on the other hand if I wanted to continue kissing him, I would be aware of not wanting to turn him on too much or mote specifically make him feel like I was leading him on. its easy enough to just let w/e hapen knowingf you can stop & the guy will respect that- which
To me yes... As soon as you go to the crotch area ya opening a can of worms lol That is the area you go to, to stimulate body parts to incite sex, so yes I would think that if he was doing such a thing, if I was doing it, its not meaning sex, but to "Play" lol If you don't want to give the impression you stated above maybe. Maybe hold his/her face, hold hands. Tickle back, stroke hair, basically stay above the chest area LMAO.
Good luck. x
aww but the chest is my fav part :) but I'm good stopping there.. well stomachs nice too. I guess its hard not to illicit arousal when you are that close to the sexual organs. but most cases hell be turned on anyways its just a matter of giving off an impression I want sex or no, so as not to create confusion. I mean hell be really ready togo regardless of where my hands are I believe. thank you for the input :)
Any time :-) and yes you may be right, all depends on the guy and what he's thinking hehe, some of them don't have a clue that you want to go further hehe, its all about good communication :-)
thank:) and yea, I think more often they just assume you do- why WOULDN'T you.. Oo:)
being so close with some romantic moves makes the guys think you really want to have sex with them and you really like them if you don't want to make it so long you can just stay away from kissing 'cause kissing nw or later will lead you to have sex ..
not if you don't want sex its not an automatic equation. I've kissed without sex plenty of times,
just being so close that means you feel that you want to have sex for guys .. they want sex 24 times when a girl feels that she wants it once ..
u mean being that close makes guys think you want sex? are means they want sex?
yes of course , but it 's all up to you at the end , but you won't just touch his body and kiss him and make him feel intimacy then when he makes a reaction you tell him " Omg ! what do you think you 're doing?!" if you know what I mean
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yea I do I'm just wondering what it means when other people do it. )
You shouldn't do it you don't expect him to start pulling up your skirt or trying to take your pants down.
i was just wondering what it means if other people do it.
In a man's case yes! But he doesn't necassarily begin with the intention of sex, kissing could make him horny, the rigorous touching and stroking is reflex, it's just happens :)
does it really? there's no thought its just automatic. I mean thad make sense because it feels like a switch.
What do you think!?!? :) !?!?! ''Lad starts kissing a girl he likes, lad gets horny, lad puts his hands in his pockets''... does this happen? :) ? It's like when you kiss someone (and unless you're drunk (and in the mood for a slice of anything ;) hahaha) you wouldn't be kissing them unless you found them attractive) you instantly want to get closer to her, touch more of her, (whether it be with your hands or mouth, kissing the neck, shoulders)... you want her!
Most likely. Inside, outside, it's all much the same thing.
really? so what can you do during kissing that will not imply sex?
Not really sure... generally kissing leads to sex anyway, especially if it's deep and passionate, unless of course the two of you have better self-control.
what if you are not dating?
Yes I think
Short answer? Communicate with your partner. There are different types of attraction– sexual, romantic, sensual, aesthetic, etc. Different people want different things, sometimes having different limits with some partners than others, or at different points in their lives, even during the same relationship. It varies, and the only way to know s to ask, really. You don’t have to ask while you’re making out, it can be before your next takeout session. It can feel awkward but once you know what they want, and they know what you want, the next time will leave a lot less room for doubt and then you can act more freely. Always obtain consent, and only engage in activities you are enthusiastically consenting to. Both partners need to consent to sex. If one person doesn’t want that, that’s perfectly ok. Anyone who pressures you or makes you feel unsafe is not someone you should be with. Talking helps. There are also many people who don’t want sex at all— some asexual, some aromantic, some alloromantic, some allosexual. Men, women, nonbinary people, doesn’t matter. All perfectly normal. Only do what you’re comfortable with and talk with your partner :)
I am nonbinary but will mark as a “guy opinion” even though I am neither binary option here. It’ll even out the numbers.
sure, but itt doesn't mean it's going to happen
yea I'm just concerned about not doing anything to make him think it will. a guy could touch me wherever and I'm not going to expect or necessarily hope for/ want sex. it doesn't seem to work that way for guys. I don't want to inadvertently be leading anyone on. I was asking about expectations from actions-not about actions from expectations. does anyone on here read updates or even the question- or just the title?
If you are touching and kissing, he will be hoping it leads to sex. He probably won't jump the gun if you don't initiate sex.
if HE is touching you- is that his way if saying he wants / hopes to have sex then at that time?
possibly, I mean the truth is, all guys who are touching your body is ready and willing for sex. I mean depends on where he is touching you. I think you can just tell by his body language.
I can't because again I don't have any problem touching anywhere without wanting sex.I can't imagine what's it like to touch certain places for sex. I would just wan to touch someone all over if I liked them.. but not because I wanted sex. i mean they can think of what they are doing tho right. if they want sex its a deliberate touch towards that and if not then its a different touch? it doesn't just happen automatically? You think its more important WHERE or HOW they touch as far as indicating sex?
grabbing his crotch is the most obvious sign that you want sex.
but people feel each other up all the rime without it leading to sex. and I wouldn't do that but I was wondering if a guy not grabs- just glides his hands ver everything not just crotch but legs and all.. is that for sex or just touching..
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