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When will girls realize the male bashing is gonna harm boys' confidence?

All these books and news reports..."women do this better" ...the "Boys are stupid throw rocks at them" t-shirts. "are men necessary?" asks NY Times. columinist I've been given the excuse "Well men have been ahead so its just evneing it out" WRONG! 2 reasons 1) two wrongs don't make a right (duh!) 2) Women are in the better position in a lot of ways (I have several examples if you want to deny this)..which is fine honestly ,you gotta take whatever you can get in this world. I'm hating on girls if they play the game to their advantage. It used to be "well guys can take it"...well guess what? My sister was talking to me the other day about my 5 year old nephew that said he wanted to be a girl..at first she thought maybe he had a gender-indeitity issue (u kno..girl trapped in a boys body)..but when she pressed him on it he said he liked being a boy but "If I'm a boy I can't be smart and have people like me". And I started thinking about all of this...Women imagine themselves getting back at that pig of a boss never gave her the promotions she deserved and patronized her ..or her abusive dad..or (insert male who wronged said woman). but don't realize what they say has consequences fo little boys who just want to find their place in the world too...but who have mothers...female teachers who think they can't read or sit up straight, and need to be conditioned and re-programmed before they turn into a sexist monster. I'm probably gonna get flamed for this no matter what..but maybe what I have to say next might convince someone from doings so: I'm not saying fmeinism is evil...I'm not saying women should "shut up", that women are inferior, that boys need more help than girls (not saying the oppsite either..HUMAN BEINGS in general need help)...I'm just saying maybe you should be more considerate and realize when you bash a whole gender or write off "men" as inferior, or worthless...you're sending a message to impressionable boys who might begin to think that being born with a penis is somekind of grave misfortune or curse.
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PRAISING the idea of mutilating guys...and by the way not all the guys in the movie are rapists..so don't gimme that...secondly, EVERY SINGLE guy in the movie is a creep except her dad who is shown as worthless. Now think about it can you recall JUST ONE movie where: -nearly All women are evil and cause harm to a guy -The guy seeks revenge by mutilating the women sexually -The guy is protrayed as a hero Just one?
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  • It's stupid. It's offensive. Guys should not tolerate that, because guess what? Men are necessary. I love men. Men can make me frustrated and angry, but I LOVE MEN! Straight men, gay men they're all necessary to make this a better world. Just like we are. Men and women are complementary and sexism is offensive in either way. Men are not inferior, just like women aren't.

    Unfortunately, men are no saints either when it comes to sexism. Women were treated as second class human beings for ages, some still are in some poor countries. It goes both ways. Fortunately there are men like you who think critically about these subjects. I think most men and women realize that sexism and gender discrimination is WRONG. Trust me, most women do not think about men in that way. And rest assured that most women like me will call on a stupid girl who makes sexist remarks against men. It really gets on my nerves when a girl goes "Oh we're smarter than men, men are dumb, we don't need them, men are bad, blah blah". "Oh really? Then become a lesbian or celibate. Don't like the idea? Then stop complaining!". I tell the same to men who bash against women, btw.

    I think feminists did their job and made it possible for women to vote, go to college and work. The aim of feminism, true feminism, should be to look for gender equality. The problem is many women misinterpret feminism as men hating. The other problem is many women don't like to assume the responsibilities of equality and prefer to remain as the "fairer" sex.

    I don't consider myself a feminist, though, because feminism nowadays is too radical and irrational on many regards. But that's just me. Anyway, I digress, bottom line is most women do not think it's OK to put men down and most women appreciate men for all their wonderful qualities.

    I repeat, for me at least, men make this world a better place in which to live. Cheers to men! ;)

    • exactlly my point same as men need women in this world.. we all need each other.. regardless..

    • do not confuse womens suffrage with the feminist movement, they are very different things even tho feminists like to lie and say otherwise.

  • I agree with the core sentiment of your post, because I feel that repression, in whatever form, can be harmful to a person's confidence. Gender roles aren't particularly important to me, because I feel that a person should simply strive to be who they are, and the best that they can be, regardless of how they identify themselves, rather than try to fit into little gender molds because that's what society/their family/friends/whoever says they need to be to be liked/successful/attractive/worth something.

    '____ is better than ____, ____ have it worse than ____, etc' arguments never go anywhere or prove anything either, lol. I think people spend too much time yelling their personal beliefs from the rooftops and getting personally offended when people disagree with them. Not that they shouldn't have their opinions, because they're entitled to believe what they want, and I can respect any rational, well-thought out opinion, regardless of whether I agree with it or not. It just seems silly and a little redundant to act as though that opinion is law. I'll quote myself from this question I answered a little bit ago: link .

    "...people like to feel like they're 'right'. And someone not agreeing with their belief suggests to them that this person is saying, 'you're wrong'.

    The whole thing is highly illogical, because the very definition of the word 'belief' suggests OPINION. Opinions are relative to every individual, they're not facts, therefore they cannot be 'right' or 'wrong'. They simple ARE, lol."

    • so are you a philosophy major? lol

    • Lmao, no, not at all. I'm a high school drop-out with a GED and no further formal [college] education. Though I do enjoy philosophy. XD I'm just open-minded, a thinker, and I read a lot, haha.

  • Don't put all of us in the same category please, many of us do realize it's wrong. I dislike male bashing as well, and refuse to participate in it.

    • Good job. Here's a cookie for you. =)

    • Omnomnomnom yummy :)

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  • We need to go back to the day where the wife never argues with her husband, she does every thing for him and sucks his pee pee when he demands, she blows him till she gags on it and at the end she thanks him for the load. I think its time women need to realize their place in society, which is in the kitchen cooking me a hot plate of pancakes in the morning, I only like pancakes with Mrs. Butterworth, that, and a small square piece of butter placed lipsmack in the middle. With the right amount of heat, the butter melts in all four directions, the weight of the stack of pancakes causes the pancakes to bend on all sides, hence, the butter drips north south east and west, the pancakes must have a little crisp all around, that and some eggs, sunny side up but flip the f***er so that the yolk bakes inside so that I can stab it with a fork and watch the yolk ooze out. Some bacon too, a little chewy but crispy at the same time. A cup of coffee with 2 sugar and 2 french vanilla creamers. I'm hungry now, what the hell was your question again?

  • Its true, I can so easily pinpoint my gender dysphoria to my abusive teachers in Primaryschool =[ While I praise my dysfunction and make good use of it, it hurts a lot. A hell of a lot, and if it wasn't for the 'Boys can't do anything right' morality that was hammered into me, I would never have suffered it.

    I'm also ashamed of the answers you've received, QA. I do think a lot of the things you've said to people were uncalled for, but I can tell your in an emotional state over this and your gonna say some harsh words. But the answers from the girls are absolutely shocking. When I was reading this, where you said that people would probably flame you for this, I actually laughed to myself, saying 'Pft, GAGs a little better than that.' It isn't.

    Ugh.

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  • I personally think those t-shirts are stupid, the ones that say throw rocks at men. I mean they started out as a cute little t-shirt. It's something a little kid would say. But as an adult, its hard to watch some adults wear those things and talk the way they do. Putting down one gender does not raise the other to a higher standard. Women do bad things too, everyone is guilty. It's hard to point your finger at one gender to make the other look better, without seeing the flaws of the other. We all just need to accept that there are exceptions to the rule.

    There are great guys out there that actually treat women right, and there are great women out there who treat men right. If we just focused on being good to one another we would eventually find the right kind of person. I know it takes a long time, but harboring on the bad, and getting bitter won't change anything and only hurts in the end.

  • Men are an easy target. They can take it, and they won't complain in the news. Don't take it personally that some women (a small minority at that) hate men or at least jokingly hate and openly attack the gender as a whole. Some men hate women too.

    Just view it as useful. It doesn't make it any worse for us men that there are laughably neurotic women in the world. Do you realize that these are women that you really don't want to date anyway? It just helps filter out the pool. Good women aren't affected by this kind of genderism. Ridiculousness isn't shared by the entire sex of women, so don't start feeling like a victim of womanhood. Find a woman who likes men. Why would you want anything different?

  • 1) two wrongs don't make a right (duh!)

    True but why should women have to discontinue their wrong while men get to?

    People shouldn't bash any gender but I could care less how any guy feels

    2) "well girls have it worse so lets just not care"

    it's not a lets not care it's a let solve the bigger problem first.

    As a doctor do you take care of the bullet wound in the head or the stubbed toe?

    3) Female sluts

    Are men also sluts? They also display "a lack of responsibility and control"

    For the women can get sex easier than men argument

    60% men cheat, 40% women cheat. So even with fewer opportunities men can still cheat more

    PUA is all about seducing women to get sex

    Men can just as easily but not as cheaply or legally bet a prostitute anytime

    • " I could care less how any guy feels " Then why are you agaisnt bashing gender? if you don't care about guys then why not let the feminazis bash away? Neway...isn't it obviously girls are doing fine? In what way are they behind? Women are wildly more sucessful...57% if college grads are women...if your still into the wage gap..thats an exaggerated claim...goole dr warren farrel and see why... btw...ive seen stats that women cheat only a little bit more...and they get away with more often than..

    • guys...but that's irrelevent... so you get called a slut and might* get cheated on more often...but when all your male peers are working at burger king (with virtually no chance of any successful woman wnating to marry or have kids with them) while you have a bachelors degree or higher..are you gonna care? Btw...I'm against anyone putting women down either...I just asked this specific question because people who male-bash don't get called out as often..im honestly kinda shocked you openly said...

    • Unless you have a change of heart...I hope you never marry or have male children for the sake of your potential husband or sons.

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  • Eh, in general I just don't take that kind of thing seriously. And by "that kind of thing" I mean what women say. I mean, I'm a guy. I'm on top of the world. Let them have their goofy t-shirts if that makes them feel strong. I've got real power, you know?

    • o yea...so your a musician...uve got "power"?

    • First, the power refers to being male and getting treated with respect automatically in matters of business, education, and yes, even art. Second, music is my passion. Professionally, I am an engineer and my father and I run our own applications engineering and distribution company together. I derive a sense of personal power however from pursuing music.

    • fair enough

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  • I've never lost confidence in myself because of women bashing my manhood. I've just looked for women from other places who know how to treat a man better. I'd rather buy a sex worker than deal with femi-nazi's. You may think it's downgrading my standards, I say it's avoiding the drama of dealing with women who p*ss me off. Regularly.

    I've been bitching about the man-bashing since it's inception back in the early 1990's. has anyone listened and adapted? Not really.

    • What he's talking about wasn't prevalent during our formative years, archer.

  • The reverse is true of girls who get ridiculed by their fathers, who end up living ashamed of their bodies and sexuality. They either end up extremely repressed or extremely promiscuous, looking for daddy's penis in hundreds of men they sleep with. I didn't experience any of that, and my mother wasn't around to teach me lady-like manners. My dad wasn't ashamed of me at all and teachers have told me he gave me too much freedom. So I grew up unrepressed, though promiscuous. I think nothing wrong with it, I was just listening to my body and exploring.

    • this is a typical answer...whenever girls might have to ponder guys having problems...they just have to one-up the guys instead of amditting their might be a problem...btw...there are ad vtanges to keeping it in your pants...what you call "repressed" I suspect might mean being responsible.

    • **sigh** Is this going to get ugly between us? Do you not understand that I'm agreeing with what you're saying, more rather than less? Your anger is making you more narrow-minded by the moment. I think it's YOU who has a problem with women in general. And what I mean by repressed I don't mean responsible, I mean sexually arrested. Clearly you don't like sexually liberated women (or "dirty sluts" are you feminist call us).

    • Actuallt you never said you agreed...but I'm glad if you do. I'm just asking you what your intention was with posting what you did...to diminsh the problems with boys? I mean how is that relevant? It just seems to me like you were going for "well girls have it worse so lets just not care"

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  • The reality is that it isn't that bad being a guy OK, I am a man you are a man, we are the stronger of the species, so if you see a chick wearing a shirt that says Who needs a man? Then simply get a shirt that says something along the lines of Women who let you out of the kitchen?

  • I see this mainly as feminism seeking to make possitive change. The only way to get the ball rolling is to be extreme and recruit the extremists. The ball lands on the other side rather than in the middle where it belongs. Its the same way for much of what mankind does

  • So quit being a bitch and stand up against feminism. I'm not talking about early or intelligent feminism, but radical feminism that seems to be semi-common nowadays. Rather than let these people not only put you down, but attack your character, do what men have been doing for centuries: Fight back. You WILL lose your place in the world if you let it happen. If you're bashed for sticking up for yourself, then it sounds like it's them who have the fears and insecurities about their place in the world. I'm not out to conquer anyone, I'm here to coexist with everyone. When I start getting walked on, I don't care if the entire world hates me...I'm going to fight back.

    If you don't speak up, then you're going to have other people not sure of how you stand and they'll start making the rules for you. Step in if you'd like to keep your place, otherwise you can watch it float away.

  • it's not necessarily all girls. I wouldn't be caught dead wearing any of that sh*t. why?

    cause it's demeaning. likewise I wouldn't want to see a guy wearing a shirt saying 'i play 'em all to the end' or 'what's the point of marriage' etc.

    it's really because companies and other sources of media hire stupid sociological idiotic people to head their designs and make stupid shirts that say 'oh go throw rocks at guys'

    it's very childish, demeaning and to be honest with you, don't be so affected by it. I have a tough skin so I could care less if someone were to insult me, I'm quite a bitch in return.

    but yeah, those shirts and messages should be burned. there shouldn't be gender hate towards guys, girls etc.

    it's not cool promoting mutilation at all. don't get the wrong idea since rich idiots get to give dumb ideas to make money and dumber people are willing to throw away their money buying those stupid ass shirts.

    • lol I think its funny you admitted your a b*^%#..and yet...u have an adorable puppy as your profile pick and your screen name is gummy bear. but I agree with you...but what would be the big deal about an anti-marriage shirt? that's not sexist really..Infact..most feminists I know don't think much of marriage.

  • I think is really significative what your nephew told your sister... It shows what the REAL message is... a lot of misandry and male bashing all around. Women will say no-no, the hating is 50/50, but I wonder if there are many little girls who say the equivalent of what you nephew said. I really f***ing hate this society (and most women. So far I think I can save my mother and my aunts, but new generations..mmm, maybe one girl out of all I know)

    • yea its pretty sad

  • I see what you're saying and it makes sense. I think to a certain degree people are oppressing boys and young men because they are afraid of general aspects of society being further dominated by men. When I say that, I mean men make more money, they typically are the ones who initiate dating, the bread winners in marriages etc. Also, I think it's a counter-intuitive encouragement to little girls that they can succeed just like men because they are not only just as smart, they are smarter. Certain members of society are trying to put women where men usually were or are now. It's not new either, apparently guys excel when given crappy encouragement because they feel like they need to do better. This article has some good insights into the last point made: link

    • I think initiating dating is abd side..for shy guys like me...we never get approached and were too afraid to do it...shy girls usually do get approached eventually. Also, men were hit harder by the economy lately..male domianted jobs are usually tied in with the economy more closley and more women graduate college...so how are men outearning women? and will that last even another few years?

    • Men make more per hour than women in the same fields. Take an average males earnings. For every dollar he makes, a woman of the same status only makes 77 cents of that dollar. For minorities, even less. A black women makes only 55 cents per dollar of what a man makes. And what proof do you have that male jobs are more invovled with the economy? When an economy fails, everyone suffers and ALL jobs are tied in the economy, not just certain ones, so, I am not quite sure where you got

    • that theory from. Well gee, the disparities in wages have only been fought againest for the last 40 years+ so I wouldn't doubt that it could last a couple more years or even decades. As for shyness, it effects everything you do, not just dating. People who are shy need to try harder or they are going to end up in sh*tty jobs with whoever happens to approach them as a mate. They have to take what they get because without taking initiative, they will end up withever comes their ways and not

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  • When will guys realize that domestic violence and rape (which are both mainly perpetrated towards women), will harm girls' confidence?

    • I'm pretty sure that men don't publicly support other mens decision to rape.

    • You'd be surprised.

    • so two wrongs make a right then huh? geez...this is typical I can tbring up one thing woithotu women jumpimg to say "O we have it so much worse"...honestly it makes me less ymapthetic towards women issues...why should I care about your issues if you want to turn a blind eye to ours? if its every sex for itself then you all can forget any of my sympathy...ill make all the comments and sexist jokes and want and not care from now on..

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  • i think most women who say they hate men are either lesbian, bitter, hideously ugly, or psyco-feminists.

    • maybe..but many just have issues they cope with by throwing their hatred into a feminist ideaology...plus I know lesbians that are not man-haters...just because you don't want a man in the bedroom doesn't mean you hate them.

    • I never said that all lesbians hate men. and by "throwing their hatred into a feminist idelogy" I think that implies that the woman is bitter, which I mentioned as a possibility.

    • def true I think

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  • I agree with you wholeheartedly. I love women, but for gods sake, men are being put down like the slow kid in elementary school. Men and women both have flaws. Often they're VERY different, but men and women are equally flawed nonetheless.

    You know what the real problem is?

    Gender Stereotypes.

    They're disgusting above all else.

  • I think the shirts are kind way stupid. Why would a girl where a shirt like that? There's no point. Well if they do, it probably means they had a bad experience, or that the only guys they know act like that. I mean yeah guys may rape, and abuse and what not, but I know nice guys. So I personally don't find a point in those shirts. At all.

    Guys don't take it personally, if you see a girl wearing that kind of shirt, then forget about her. She's a bitch.

    • off topic,but your profile pic is adorable.

    • Thank you, haha, I love it too

  • Lol@These answers.

    ONE guy you hear from a friend vs an estimated 43BILLION population of males in the world.

    That's one HELL of a generalization girls.

  • You're absolutely right man. Women who attempt to emasculate young boys are just as bad (or even worse, in my opinion) as child molesters.

    • dude..c'mon even you know that is an extreme analogy...but yes...sexism and put downs for boys at a young age does make my blood boil...no child should ever be treated the way I've seen boys treated.

    • It's worse in the sense that it's systematic. A child molester molests to satisfy his (or her) own sexual needs. It's not a personal attack (it is, but harm is not the intent). A woman who tries to belittle a boy is evil incarnate. I've known a handful of them.

    • How can they be worse than child molesters? Um, molesters MOLEST little boys too, you know. And that can really a hurt a boy in many more ways than just crazy talk by a neurotic woman who doesn't know any better.

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  • I walk around with a Yorkie mug and point the "Not for Girls" sign towards people when I'm bored :P

  • Why do you keep updating it?

    Your question wax answered your question THE RAPEMAN

    it portrays all women negatively and they cause harm by sexually denying a man thus evil

    the man is a gun for hire who gets revenge on women for other men

    he was such a hero fans created in a rape club at a university and were arrests for committing rapes but got off on a media influence defense

    There won't be genital mutilation because guys don't get sexual gratification from it. They want sex or humiliation. men don't fear vaginas.

    men (who hate women) go for sexual gratification (rape)/humiliation (torture/beating).

    Women who hate men go for power gratification using them as wallets (status power) or cutting their d*cks off because of penis envy (sexual power)

    Women who hate men want men sexless. Women transform their fear of d*cks to hatred = cut it off.

    Different goals same hate.

    You won't find genital mutilation because men & women react different to hate.

    Women = fear = cut it off

    Men = power = put her in her place

    • Sorry Crissy he wasn't being stubborn the site was just wonky. Love ya

    • idunno why it keeps updating its been doing that and I ahvent been re entering it.

    • "men don't fear vagina's" u never heard or seen of rosie o donald I guess

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