If I'm sexually attracted to someone but never admit it, can he still tell?

[Anonymous]

If a woman is sexually attracted to a man but can't have him so she doesn't admit or act upon it, do you think it is still obvious to that man that she is attracted and would f*** him like nobody's business if given the chance? What body language/cues/language/anything a woman does would make a man think she is sexually attracted to him? To make a long story short, I'm really attracted to this man but he's older and married and I deal with him in a professional manner and I'm sure nothing would ever happen but we do have meetings alone sometimes and I always wonder if it is obvious that I want to f*** him (well in a parallel universe, that's how much it can't happen). What would give it away?

[Anonymous]

I've read some of the answers on this and, I have never laughed so hard.

I actually can relate to you, except, I'm the one who can't seem to work out what these signals mean.

I have studied psychology, and I understand body language and what not, but not everyone is the same. I've had someone try and tell me certain things I do, that make him think I fancy him, and I told him... that he was just seeing things because he believes that's how other girls behave, I told him I ain't like other girls, because I am a people watcher..not stalker by the way, just a watcher, and love seeing how people react and interact with others whether through body langauage or speech. So I am aware of everything I am doing...most of the time.

For instance someone who stares at you...might like you...but they might also be trying to tell you they dislike you..usually that comes with some kind of evil stance in the eyebrow, but if someone has a good poker face, then how do you know?

I rambled, sorry.

[christyk312]

Men are not very good at readingsignals... like at ALL lol

so I would say no

[PsychedelicZebra]

wow a girl that gets it how refreshing

[flatironguy]

Very true. Please spell it out for us.

[Asker]

When I'm attracted to a guy, I make a lot of eye contact and smile. I get more giggly. I can't help but stand close. I tend to stare at him. I play with my hair. I get a bit flustered and nervous and I'm usually pretty relaxed around guys that I'm not attracted to. I think sometimes you'd need to see how a girl acts around a guy she's attracted to vs a guy she isn't to be able to tell the difference because a lot of these things are subtle unless you are very observant.

[l-hedoniste]

I can't point to a single thing, and the only sensible response I can give is lame-ass "animal magnetism." When a woman is sexually attracted, it's like a scent and heat hanging around. I won't be anything in particular that she does, but the thought will pop into my head "I think she wants to f*ck me".

Note that this will be instantly distinguishable from plain sexual attraction ("I think I want to f*ck her") or optimism ("I think I can persuade her to f*ck me"). It's a *very* reliable signal, but I can't properly describe it, possibly because it has more to do with the mating animal part of my brain, rather than the thinking and writing part.

[jacquesvol]

the mating animal part of your brain must be better than mine! :-(

[l-hedoniste]

You just have to learn to tap it, think with the little head, not the big head. Note: this has lead to *plenty* a hot, foolish choice.

[jacquesvol]

The times a girl was sexually interested in me without being blunt, I usually only knew it a long time later. :-(

[l-hedoniste]

Same here till I got a little practice.

[Asker]

well what you just described is exactly the vibe I worry about giving off!

[l-hedoniste]

Why worry? He'll either ignore it, or you'll f*ck like animals. No problem, either way.

[dave216]

You females communicate totally different than men do. You observe body language , make hints, and all manner of very subtle nonverbal communication techniques. I have often read questions here about guys not getting your signals.

Well the answer is obvious. Guys talk to each other, but we only say what is needed and then we shut up. We are virtually oblivious to hints, signs, etc. About the only way this guy is likely to pick up a signal is if you holler yoohoo with both breasts hanging out. :)

[Asker]

so if I flick my hair and make a lot of eye contact/smile he won't think anything? I tend to do that around him without trying to since he makes me a little nervous.

[dave216]

Sorry, but I really doubt it. if you flick your hair a lot, the average guy won't notice, but if does, he is most likely to suggest a hair cut. If you smile, he will asume your happy.

[solitaire]

He's married so just lay off. Don't ruin a marriage just for a f***.

[Asker]

I'd never ever do anything. All I mean is that I hope he can't tell because I know it could never happen and because he's married I wouldn't really want it to happen even though I'm really attracted to him

[solitaire]

OK if so then yes you can tell sometimes by body language. Typical sign is when a girl gets distracted when you approach her or if she glances at your body when she should be focusing on something else. Or she flicks her hair or blushes when you look at her in the eyes.. You know little things, it can be pretty obvious sometimes but it depends how good he is at picking little clues up and how good a po-po-ker face you have

[DaveMicharl69]

UHH, HE LOVES HIS Girlfriend BUT THINKS YOU'RE HOT N IS LOOKING TO GET HIS ROCKS OFF! IN OTHER WORDS HE'S A GUY...

[Shaun]

Guys are oblivious.

[jacquesvol]

I wouldn't see it, that's for sure

[Anonymous]

i think he would never tell, that why its frustrating that we can't understand everything about what she wants, and if he says he knows every thing a girl desires he's wrong.

[Anonymous]

There have been a few women I've known where I could tell by the way they looked at me that they wanted me so I would say the look in your eyes is the only way to tell.

[Anonymous]

easy girl detected

[PsychedelicZebra]

lol yup Code 5