yeah...sounds like he knows you're on him, so he's kinda not impressed anymore. the fact that you texted him when you were right around the corner and he still told you no, I will not sleep with you (which is basically the message if you're texting late and he doesn't even say 'just come over') says that the thrill is gone. I had a guy explain this to me (in depth). I won't put it all here, but I'll give my synopsis.
guys like two different girls: the one they'd date and the one they'd sleep with. for both girls, the chase is what's greatest. the challenge. begging her and getting her. for the girl they'd date, getting her is another step toward something greater (relationship, love, partner, friendship, etc). for the girl they want to sleep with, the reward is what's between her legs and it ends there.
the sex is amazing, eh? sure, but most guys think most any sex is amazing, especially with a girl they don't want to date. amazing sex is nice, but meaningless. for the girl the guy wants to date, amazing sex is a huge plus and it will gain the said girl more brownie points or value. the sex may even be amazing simply because it's with that girl.
in your case, you're the girl he wants to sleep with (which is fair because you didn't establish any rules, boundaries, or expectations). so you're just the girl who he wants to sleep with whenever he feels like it, not because he has feelings, but because you gave the best head, rode well, made the loudest noises, had the longest legs, etc, etc. my friend mentioned this complex break down of categorizing sexual encounters and remembering certain girls and their *ahem* skills.
he also told me that when a guy feels a girl is showing too much interests when he just wants to bang, he is turned off. not to say he doesn't want to sleep with you (or won't sleep with you again), but to say that he doesn't want it going anywhere else. this guy isn't an asshole, darlin', he's honest. some casual sex things forge relationships, some forge one sided feelings.
regardless of what he wants, you know you want something involving feelings and he's not reciporcating, so don't waste your time and move on. there are plenty gorgeous, amazing sex having men out there who may even, dare I say it, want to share feelings with you :)0 0 0 0I think basically he is using you when he runs out of someone to have sex with and I hope you don't think I am cruel saying this ...I have a 'friend' aka *f****buddy@ and I keep believing the old spiel and I'm 43 ..These guys will always just be there for great sex ...But commitment unless he taking you out and texting you and really there for you when you AREN'T loaded with drink ! Then you will know ..Keep you panties on ! Men who want you and respect you will work hard to be with you ..
as for me I like the life I have at 43 I have been married had kids blah stuff so I am happy being the mistress ..And hell I don't have to do his laundry BUT I know where I stand with this guy!
if you just want to be a friend with benefits come right out and say it with this guy but never if you have feelings for him continue
good luck x0 0 0 0It's more than obvious you want more than just a friend with benefits with this guy but you're not admitting it. He's not ever going to be something else till he decides that's what he wants out of life.
If you get emotionally involved with this guy you're gonna get hurt. And if all you wanted was sex, well, you could have had that already and you know it.0 0 0 0
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Wow. If all you want to do is sleep with him again, it's pretty amazing you're having this much trouble. Here's what you do:
The next time he ask you to come over--where you're PRETTY sure sex (and amazing sex at that) will occur. . .
GO!
Tough, huh? ;)1 0 0 0I'm not completely sure what the question is asking. Can you explain?
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0 2Any woman can sleep with almost any man they want. That doesn't make her an Alpha.
0 1 0 0Like the stupid whore you are
1 3 0 1such an intelligent and thoughtful response, thank you. yes, because a woman wants to have sex means she must be a whore, you are absolutely correct. no wonder you are getting laid on a Friday night! oh wait.
Hahahah... zing. Doubt he will respond after that one
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