Should I tell him I'm Pregnant?

[Anonymous]

My man and I haven't been together all that long, just going on 2 months this sunday. I am on birth control and we have been sleeping together a lot laitly. We normally don't use a condom due to an allergy. Well I just found out my pharmacy messed up my birth control and there's a chance I might be pregnant because of it. I haven't told him yet but I just got the blood work done. If I am I'm thinking of an early abortion because he already has a little boy whos only a little over a year old and were not ready for another baby any time soon. He and I have talked about it he agrees no more kids for a while we want to get a place together and probably get married before even thinking of a baby and he wan't to wait until his son is older too. I know deep down he really wants another child he misses the old days but were not ready. If I am should I tell him I'm pregnant and go from there? Or should I just do the early abortion and forget about it? We really can't afford another baby right now, I'm starting a new job we really just aren't ready for this right now. what should I do?

[ggazelles]

If I were in your shoes I would have an abortion and never ever tell him, but that's just me.

If you tell him that you're pregnant, he'll probably want you to go through with the full nine months and have the child. If you know that you're not ready to handle this responsibility, then you need to terminate the pregnancy and not let him know. I'm not generally a believer in lying for the good of the relationship, but when it comes to situations like this and cheating, it tends to be what's best for both parties. Good luck.

[23momof3]

I think you should tell him tell him who you feel and what you want to do. You can still do what you want no matter what he can't stop you but if you don't tell him and years go by and you do have kids the doctors need to know about the abortion and when it was and how many weeks you where ex. If he has to here it then you may end up hating yourself for keeping it and he may hate you for not telling him. So I think tell him and have him help after you get it because you'll feel crappy

[Shlei3]

You should sit him down and talk this one through. You need to know that no matter what decision you make it will be difficult. If you keep the baby it will be difficult. If you give it up for adoption it will be difficult. Even an abortion will be difficult. Down the road you will be thinking about that little baby and what it might have been. At any point you may not be pregnant. When will you know?

[DrHouseButALawyer]

1. If you're going to get an abortion, then you don't have to tell him if you don't want to.

2. Whatever you decide to do.there is another person you need to talk to. A LAWYER! Obviously I can't give free legal advice in public over the internet and I'm probably not in your jurisdiction anyway. You should have a cause of action against the pharmacy. At the least I'm sure they'll agree to pay for your abortion if that's what you want. Talk to a lawyer ASAP.

[dave216]

I won't lecture you on abortion, that is a personal choice. What I will lecture on is why you think it is a unilateral decision. If a man is financially responsible for a child he creates, why does he not have the right to refuse you permission to abort that life? Women need to either accept responsibility for their bodies or stop demanding monetary assistance from the men that make them pregnant. That is not a fair or equitable situation and the law must be changed.

[Starlett]

He has a right to know, if you guys are not ready to have a baby then you are not. However he needs to participate in the decision. if you have only been going out for two months I'm sure he will be reasonable about the situation, he should hear it from you now rather than down the line(because he ultimatly find out somehow) and lose trust in you.

[AJtogo]

Well, if you are pregnant then you need to let this guy in on any decision that you make, whether it's abortion or keeping the child. Talk it out together and reach a mutual decision.

Hey, if the pharmacy messed up, then maybe you can sue them for child support.

[DagoFlip]

Well, you should definitely tell him. There is no justification for you not to tell him. Also, if you have an allergy to latex condoms, they sell sheepskin condoms for exactly that reason. Although, I do not recommend abortion in anyway at all, because I believe it is murdering an innocent baby, it's your choice. Just don't make quick, irrational decisions. Think every step through. This is a completely opinionated matter. But yes, tell him so you BOTH can come to a mutual decision.

[Anonymous]

i thinku should definitly tell him bcoz you might regretit and if he finds that out someday what do you think he will say that you keep this secret from him!

[Anonymous]

Well, yeah you should tell him. If its his baby, he has every right to know, because in the long run, you'll probably tell him sooner or later anyway, and that might cause some bad feelings.