Are guys turned off if a girl won't sleep with him right away?

[Anonymous]

I recently met a guy and we hung out for the first time the other night. We both had a lot of fun and we talked for hours. He was really respectful of me and although we were lying on my couch, he didn't come on too strong. The next day he text me to tell me he had a great time and that it was hard for him not to make a move because I was so hot. We text back and forth and in a playful way asked me if I wanted to try out some of the sexual positions we were talking about. I playfully responded maybe some time soon, but not yet cause I didn't know him well enough. He text back "Perfect." I haven't heard from him since though and I think he's not talking to me anymore because I won't sleep with him right away. Is this most likely the case? I also want him to know that I'm okay with fooling around and I'd only like to spend a little more time with him before I decide to have sex with him. Is that really so bad?

[BoobMan]

No guys aren't turned off if you won't sleep with them on the first date. You're fine. In fact, from what you've written, you're a LOT more than fine. How long has it been since your last text exchange? Cause I'd be willing to bet money it's been less than a few days and I'll be even more that you'll hear from him in the next couple days.

If you want to let him know that you're okay with fooling around, then the next time he's over just make it clear that sex isn't going to happen, BUT that you're willing to do other things. You can tell him this as you reach for his pants. He'll get the idea!

Let's see. . .hot girl, talks about sex positions on the first date, fools around and gets the guy off on the second. . . I'm PRETTY sure you can count on a third date. . .

[Asker]

I'd like to think you are right. :) We last text 4 days ago, so it has been a few days. I sent him a text yesterday just seeing how his week went, but haven't heard back yet. I guess I'll have to just wait and see. Thanks for the answer.

[BoobMan]

Yeah, it's the weekend. I'll be you'll get a text early this week (Mon or Tues) asking if you're free for a Friday or Saturday night date. Have fun fooling around!

[MachineMan]

Depends on what one is looking for at the moment. If I want a sexually exciting nymph then ye I would be a bit turned off. If I'm looking for a good girl to have something serious with I wouldn't mind but actually have more respect for her. It is really about what kind of relationship I am looking for at the moment. Like for example I would be turned off because I have a lot of work to do with my studies and I feel like a commited relationship would really reduce the ammount of time I have for my studies, while something casual and maybe more on the physical/stress relief side would be great.

[Phoenix52]

No, not bad at all.

So many guys need to keep control of their hormones and just connect with the girl they're interested in. And not be so impatient about taking her to bed with him.

[Johnbe]

Why not text him asking how he's doing, and if he fancies going out some time?

If he's non-committal, then the physical thing is more important to him that it is to you, so he's probably not the one for you. If he's interested, you get to see if he takes the hint that you're not looking for sex immediately (or if he's overly pushy).

Either way, you know where you stand.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

For all mankind I should say "Yes!" but honestly, no.

[Shaun]

I'm not.

[Shaun]

I am, however, very turned off about this down arrow.

[Asker]

Not sure who did that, but it was not me.