Hopefully he gets a lovely infection then his knob shrivels up and drops off. I'd consider any form of sex, especially if it hasn't been performed in a relationship yet, without consent little more than rape.
You should definitely talk to him about this, and find out why he did it and also what he did it for. It could be he was aiming for something else and missed, or he simply has a serious problem and you might have to leave him because of it. I don't know, you seem to have mixed feelings on him judging by your updates, so it's hard to really give you advice.
So long as you don't mind it and perhaps you tell him not to do it later on in the relationship, things could go okay. Find out if he's done it before and again, why he did it, before you make any decisions, though. You might think he's not about just sex, but it is possible that it is what he wants - and he's been biding his time until he got it, but became impatient.
There are many different possibilities. Ask him, and make sure you get the truth.0 0 0 0If he's pulling down your pants and doing this while you're asleep, he won't confess to it. It's a little out of the ordinary to be doing this sort of thing and it may be a form of sexual assault if you didn't want it. However, he may have a paraphailia known as 'Somnophilia'. See: link
~Distant2 1 0 1It's unlikely he has somnophilia. That's a cute idea but somniphiles in healthy relationships generally talk about it first rather than just do it.
That's often the case when they know they have it. This may be the first relationship he's been in or he may feel that it's not normal and he's afraid to confess? He may be horny because she's abstaining from sex from the time being and doing it because he can (in this case, he couldn't). ~Distant
This is his first relationship and mine as well. He seems to be horny a lot due to the fact that we're not having sex. But thanks for your answers. Refer to the top of the page for an update
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oh my goodness, he is a total jerk. leave him. he violated you. he had anal sex with you without your consent, that is sodomy. if he could do that what other bounderies he won't cross, like rape and abuse. the question ain't if he will confess, the question should be when are you going to confront him about it. because even if you don't leave him and you dnt tell him about this, he is going to feel like what he did is totally OK.
my x boyfriend did this to me but he knew I wasn't asleep, it hurt so bad. I left him because after that things just got worst. this action shows that he does not respect you and value you as a woman.0 1 0 0women don't really like to be valued I go home after hangin out with her the whole day and two days later I call or text her and she doesn't answer sh*t why should I value that?
i don't know, I know what this guy did is wrong and no woman deserves that no matter what she may have done.
i don't believe you let that happen and didn't move, or flinch or moan. In fact it is not possible to be f***ed in the arse and not move or make a sound unless you're bound & gagged (or maybe you're in p*rn with an arse the size of a bucket and desensitiser up there).
if, as you say you don't want sex yet, then that includes anal, so if you haven't done it before it's simply not true that you didn't make noises of discomfort - it doesn't slip in & out quite so easily.
unless he has a knob the size of a pea - who're you kidding.4 1 0 0Please check my update. Thank you
Completely agree with this!
Thats like rape, you didn't say he could do it and he didn't ask..so disrespectful. He won't say anything because he thinks he's got away with it. I'd have a talk about that if I were you, if he does that while your asleep then he might try having sex with you vaginally aswell.
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Just being honest..
Why would you have to ask I wouldn't care if some girl forcefully f***ed me who cares we were in the same place for numerous hours anyways.
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I have a question for you; Why the f*** are you still with him?!2 1 0 0@update; you'll be surprised how long guys will stay with someone purely for sex. his actions would the oposite of what you believe, don't fool yourself into thinking otherwise.
Tell him you feel like talking to a doctor because for some reason your ass is sore. Mention irritable bowel syndrome because you can't figure out what it could be. That might get him to confess.
2 1 0 0This guys a jerk. You didn't want to embarrass him? He's violating YOU & you didn't want to embarrass him?
How can you just lay there & pretend your still sleeping especially when this is your first anal? Wasn't it painful?
If you didn't want him to do it or your not ready you should have slapped his d*ck & then his face.4 0 0 0It was a bit painful and I was trying not to move, I'm surprised he didn't notice I was awake. Refer back to my update please
How should I go about that without making either of us feel uncomfortable? HE SHOULD BE MADE TO UNCOMFORTABLE! If it has been agreed that you are not ready or not going to have sex He is WRONG! Could be he "thought" he was going in the other hole which is even worse. He is thinking of his own pleasure ONLY. If you two are having sex & he was "playing" with you different story. It sounds like he tried to violate you without your consent. CONFRONT him.
I sure hope for your sake that he doesn't have any stds.
0 0 0 0The STDs are the least of our worries; if the man is sticking his penis up a butt and NOT CLEANING IT SHORTLY AFTER you have a lot more to worry about. I hope he's never done this around her rectal area and either A ) torn her, because she won't know to clean it or B ) had any form of intercourse with her, I.E. waking her with this and then getting oral sex. Oh lord this has gotten disgusting so fast.
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TROLLIN DOWN THE RIVER2 1 0 0You're a babe I would shove it in your ass anyday.
lord...
that's rape.
you are an idiot.
have a nice day!4 2 0 0yep
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Girly: He missed. He hit your ass, but he probably was aiming for your vagina. Just a pro-tip you need to know.
0 0 1 0Will he confess to raping a girl in her sleep ...
Good question.1 3 0 0:s
If your just gonna defend him then your stupid, enjoy your lies I MEAN lives together
1 1 0 0Wow it just slipped right up there? When my boyfriend and I tried it anal we had to use a heck of a lot of lube.. But yeah that's pretty sick of him, dump him.
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You guys are all tripping, she didn't stop him because D she enjoyed it.
1 4 1 0We can't and shouldn't speak for her. It is still rape, enjoyed or not, due to the lack of consent and the fact that he is hiding it, which suggests that given the chance to do it again he would or worse that he's done it before and it's habitual behavior.
I hope he hasn't done it before ! :s Please refer to my update .
Bullsh*t. It's not rape until she says no. Haven't you ever been in an exclusive relationship? I have. Several. It's always meant that we have implied consent, complete access to each other, unless one of us says "not now". That's like saying it's rape if a girl wakes you up by giving you a blowjob.
Did you like it? Did it hurt?
0 2 2 3He is so lucky :) I wish I was him ;))
0 0 0 0He was considerate. He didn't want to get your pregnant so he fucked your ass instead
0 0 0 0You must have a rather loose asshole to have still led there and pretended to be asleep!
0 1 0 0My ex loved when I'd wake her up with a hard cock in her as. She used to say that it made her purr like a kitten.
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