My boyfriend said he's gonna rape me...!?

[Anonymous]

We were talking over facebook and we WERE joking around, and I was pretending to be mad at him and he said "come here" and I said "but I don't want to." and he said "come on baby I wanna kiss you :-*" and I said, ""but I don't want to, and I don't want you to kiss me either. :D" so he said "then I'm gonna rape :D"... I mean I'm sure he was joking what with the smileys and everything, but I wasn't really sure how to react so I said ":D baby I wouldn't let you, I'd kick your ass :D" and he said, "no baby I said I'm gonna rape, that's when you do it to a girl even when they don't let you. " so I just tried to laugh it off and said well you can't if she's kicking your ass :D. I'm sure it's nothing and I''m sure its just joking but it's just that he's really pushy normally if he wants sex and I don't,and he's kind of older then me, like I'm 18 and he's 26. I mean would it be crazy paranoid to worry at all about this?

[Levin]

Why you even talking to him if he's so pushy about sex? That's not something to make a joke about either. Sure, it seems like such a joke, but why would he even mention something like that? It's not exactly funny, creepy rather, and even if there's even the smallest potential it's something that has been playing on mind, that is extremely disturbing. I'd be wary, if I were you. Also he's 26, why's he having such a stupid and immature conversation in the first place? Maybe he's trying to manipulate you because he thinks you're naive at your age. If you're creeped out, then quite simply, don't talk to him any more. These sorts of situations aren't something to be carefree over. There's a fair few nutters out there.

[Levin]

Never mind, I just realized that it's your 'boyfriend'. Forget it, I'm sure you've chosen a splendid one there...

[Asker]

was that sarcastic?

[Asker]

and your right that it's not something to joke about but like I said to the girl below :i know that it's nothing to joke about and I know we shouldn't have but I just didn't want to turn things serious cos then he might have thought that I believed he's the type of person who actually would rape me... and I didn't wanna seem paranoid or anything. but your right it's nothin to joke about...

[dryad]

He probably just wants to cyber rape you. In the event he does you can either call the cyber police or hire a cyber hitman to deal with him. The worst that can happen is that you can get cyber pregnant or a cyber virus. I know a few girls who have both --- most any good anti-virus doctor will kill the infection. As for the baby, just keep them in cyber nursery school or give them up to any cyber adoption agency (they'll give you good money for it, especially if the cyber genes are good).

[Asker]

wow how many times can you fit cyber into one sentence. cyber. :p

[dryad]

I just made a cyber copy of the word "cyber" and cyber paste it every time I type up a cyber sentense such as this :D

[Asker]

:D

[Anonymous]

I don't play about rape at all. That would be a huge red flag to me because I don't think its a joking manner. Combine that with the fact that he is a "really pushy" person in general and you have another red flag. Guys that don't respect your boundaries in a non-sexual setting are less likely to respect your boundaries in a sexual setting (aka no means no).

[Asker]

i know that it's nothing to joke about and I know we shouldn't have but I just didn't want to turn things serious cos then he might have thought that I believed he's the type of person who actually would rape me... and I didn't wanna seem paranoid or anything. but your right it's nothin to joke about...

[Anonymous]

Okay, yeah, I'm sure he's just kidding, but that's really not something to joke out :P

I would have been like, "You don't really believe that, right?" You could still bring it up and ask him that, just to ease your worrying. I'd be a bit concerned, too.

[hALLDAY]

Your paranoid.