Sex after 1 month of dating???!!!

[Mahtaazh]

So I've been seeing this guy for about a month,He's really a great guy, he respects me in the best way and has kind of all I want from a guy, He's a footbalist, he's so reach(I don't care about him being reach,just saying so you know) and Has a really great family. We had a date today and ended up having sex in his room. I'm not a virgin and I don't believe in sex after marriage, but It wasn't really good,cause I Haven't had sex for a really long time. But all I really wanna know is : Is it too soon to have sex with him? does he think of me as a slut now? He didn't say any thing but I'm really worried Cause I really Like this guy. Wondering if he thinks of me as a whore?! (I live in Iran)

[Slugworth99]

After only one month and with your future plans, this may not have been the best thing. If neither of you have regrets, I would say that you should not worry about it. I hope that you used protection to protect yourself and not get pregnant.

I am slightly familiar with the ways of Iran. There is much of the "western influence" in Iran despite what the leadership of Iran wants people to believe. However, I am not sure how accepted this would be if it became known. Do you know of other friends who are also not virgins and unmarried? You just want to protect yourself.

As for what he thinks now, I think his actions over the next week or so will be very 'telling'. If he continues to see you, treats you nice, etc., I would say that you two are okay. If he ignores you or (worst of all) is mean to you, he is not a very good guy and obviously got what he wanted. If you two do continue, I would highly recommend the protection to keep from getting pregnant. I don't think that would be accepted, or could you two possibly be forced to marry if he got you pregnant?

[Mahtaazh]

Well the way he treats me haven't really changed. And ofcourse we used a protection,I'm not an idiot who can't control her self. I know Thousands of girls who have had sex before marrige,Not being a virgin is not a big deal

[Slugworth99]

Glad to hear that it is not that strict. Do you plan on having sex again? If you have questions about the two of you, you may want to wait. If you have sex again, I would continue to see how your relationship is after each time. Does it grow or get better? Or does it stay the same? Glad to read you had protection between the two of you.

[Mahtaazh]

I'm not sure about having sex again.First I wanna know him better,He's finally showing what he has inside and I wanna make sure I like it,but I also know that having sex with him makes the relationship better

[Slugworth99]

You are thinking correctly about wanting to know him better. I have a question, does sex make the relationship better for you, him or both of you? It should be mutual - my opinion.

[MachineMan]

different guys think differently, I wouldn't lose respect because I enjoy sex and like a women that does aswel, others usually more conservative guys think if she sleeps with me this quickly she is a whore. you have to judge for your self based on how he treats you now.

[Mahtaazh]

He treats me as well as he did before, But Shouldn't we be closer now? I think we should be closer but we're not. By the way he's always a little cold And A little proud of him self

[Slugworth99]

If he hasn't changed much, I think everything is okay. Yes, I agree with you that I think you two should be closer. If he has always been a bit cold, I am guessing there is something else about him that you really like?

[MachineMan]

ok you shouldn't worry, keep doing what you are doing and treat him nicely if his feelings change for you towards the negative it is not your fault for sleeping with him too soon but his fault for being a chauvinist.

[Mahtaazh]

I like many things about him,Like he always treats me in the best way, He's a total gentelman, He's funny, He"s just always cold about sex stuff which actually botters me a little

[Konpachi]

1st: What is Reach?

2nd: I wouldn't worry to much about your situation. I don't think he thinks you're loose, I'm sure he's happy that your relationship has come to this point and you should really just wait to see where things go from here.

[Mahtaazh]

Oops,sorry. I ment rich. Thank you for your comment

[Brandan_Cromartie]

The real question is "Who went there first?"

[Mahtaazh]

He came to me first, but I was willing 2

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Well he has no reason to think you a whoreslut. What is concerning is the culture though; I don't know anything about Iranian views.

[Mahtaazh]

Iranian views are really old and different, but Thanks for the answer honey, It made me a little more relax

[Anonymous]

Are you Muslim?

[Mahtaazh]

No,I'm not a muslim, I have my own views about bad and good,And I don't think of sex as a bad thing