What would you think if your girlfriend called you by another guy's name during sex?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and I were having sex. I called him a guy's name but it wasn't a moan or groan or anything. I don't know if it was because his penis was hurting (we had done two times already, one after another) and this was the third time. he made a grimace and I called him a name to which he is very close with. I knew the mistake right away. it was so weird. I have never felt anything towards that other guy; I have never been attracted to him in any way. my boyfriend is very hurt, and I keep telling him that everything that he is thinking is wrong. I know it is wrong because I love my boyfriend very much and I have never fantasized about anyone else and I have never had feelings for anyone else. it sucks even more because the other guy is very close to my boyfriend. and my boyfriend and me have had a couple of problems before because my boyfriend has been insecure and thought wrong. it sucks because it had to be that name and now he's probably tying everything together. but there is nothing to connect! I tell my boyfriend to believe me because that is the only way we can through this because I promise there was nothing behind it and it meant nothing. I wasn't thinking of that person at that moment. I have never felt anything towards him. I deserve everything that he tells me and everything that he does to me. but I hate it so much because it honestly meant nothing. I don't know why that happened. I feel that it is a cruel joke from fate. I love my boyfriend so much and I'm scared he's going to break up with me. he has tried already but I keep telling him not to and I keep telling him all of this. it is just so hard. why did this happened? I don't understand. he says he can maybe forgive but not forget, and I understand that but I just wish he would believe me. what do I do?

[Lupianwolf]

That is a hard thing to get rid of,

Think of it like this your man had a friend who is also a girl but shouted her name out when he had an orgasm(you have to realize what he could be thinkin)

Your immediate response is, why did he say her name, are they having sex, why is he thinking about her while he's having sex with me, does he want to leave me

You could cut all your ties with the guy and try to be as selfless as possible towards him, not just during sex but really go out of way for him to show that you love him, and hopefully that will get rid of his insecurities

[Asker]

the thing is I didn't shout out the name while I orgasmed. it was more of just calling him that name. I don't even remember what I was going to tell him but as soon as I called him that I forgot everything else because of the shock. it was weird and random. I wasn't thinking of anything and anyone especially some other guy. I put myself in his shoes and I understand that's why I don't blame him if he breaks up but it sucks so bad because it just doesn't make sense what happened. I'm trying so har

[Lupianwolf]

It's not as bad but if you still care for him you need to show him that and that you don't want to lose him

[Asker]

thanks. I'm trying I'm just scared he will stop loving me and then that will be the end

[Anonymous]

Wow. There is not getting past that. He will NEVER beleive that you don't want his friend or that you weren't fantasizing about his friend. That is so f***ed up. Maybe you subconcously want to f*** his friend. You can salvage it by telling him that you want to do a foursome with his friend and one of your girlfriends. That might diffuse things. Your relationship is dead now so why not.

[Asker]

this is a serious relationship. I would never do that. you don't understand I don't have ANY feelings towards the other guy, and I know for a FACT I don't subconsciously want to.

[Opinion Owner]

Well really that doesn't matter because your guy will NEVER believe you no matter what you do. If he can live with feeling that his girl wants to f*** his friend so be it. Otherwise your relationship is dead.

[TweetyMunchkyn]

It happened to me yesterday night.That was why I joined this clique. Unfortunately the name I called out was my friend's name,a male someone he felt insecured about. To make matters worse his zodiac sign is aries. He wants me out of his life. I have been crying myself to death. Yours is still redeemable,all you need do is to prove yourself worthy. Mine is hopeless

[Andrea001]

try telling him that we all call a person by the wrong name sometimes, he should understand because it happens often, and he can ask his friend if there has ever been something between you both...best luck for you

[dontknowwhattodo2]

wats done is done. jus be careful the next time...and don't talk about that frnd of his anymore..

[sikoo31]

i'd leave her. that's a bad sign, she should not be thinking of anyone but me.

glad its never happened to me. but my ex told me she almost said my name when she slept with this other guy after we broke up. and I was like, nice.

[ansnamous]

this happen to me last night. hurts so bad. as much as i want to believe her i can’t it onley means one thing she thinking of him. but then again mine said it moaning don’t know what to do. but she said the same thing you said she didn’t mean to or have feelings for this guy