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Why won't she let me eat it?

I am in a brand new relationship with an older woman. She's 36 (and absolutely gorgeous by the way, haha) and I'm 26. We've officially been a couple now for 3 weeks, but have only been intimate for about a week now. We have an AMAZING sex life! She loves to suck my d*** and she'll even let me come in her mouth. BUT, every time I try to go down on her, she just gives me this "don't do that" look and she will get really quiet and start acting weird. It wouldn't bother me if I didn't like doing it so much. Eating p**** is something I LOOK FORWARD TO! At first I thought she may be self conscience about the way her vagina looks/ smells, but I told her it was beautiful and smelled great, she said, it's not that. SHE WILL NOT TELL ME WHAT'S GOING ON. Why is she like this? Do not all women like their pussy's licked, sucked, teased?
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  • Try talking to her about it and tell her that you like giving oral, She may not care for it but if she is allowed to that right then why wouldn't you be able to enjoy the same? I also love oral more so than sex as I tongue her to each response I make. So maybe asking her to allow you 5 min of doing so as a start off may not be to much for her to handle and try it right after a shower together.

    You may want to prompt her to take one with you? and use slow jester of hands while soaping and washing her then when she is peaking from all the arousal from bathing together you can position her on the counter top full spread eagle after wards and lightly first stroke her lips in full motion with your tongue and try to get her to verbally motion the way she likes it !

    remember (communication)! is key in response or intense situations you want it right the first time! or maybe won't get a second chance. she may have a hygiene complex that's on the ADD side so try to determine that ahead of time. does she shave? that may help give you signs that she very skid-dish about who is at her pleasure door? So try asking if she'll let you shave her there? it'll help build relation of trust and could be a breaking point into a whole new sexuality exploration? I know I didn't commit to intercourse for 5 weeks but we enjoyed oral and petting each other for the difference as It definitely helped me find what she enjoys allot first before I went for my likes. and like you spent a great deal in oral mapping of her reactions and particulars. update us ? keep informed on what changed or didn't? good luck

  • I had the same problem... It's my fav past time as well. One girl just did not like it. I knew it had nothing to do with me. One word of caution in all of this. if you need to find out why be very general in asking. You may be making her relive a tragic story and kill any chance of getting some that night lol

    I asked along the lines of something bad happen in the past, your worried about things, it's not something you enjoy, ect. As soon as she said it was a past thing I dropped it and never asked her again. People will talk about things when and if they want to.

    Fact is in time she might be fine with it and enjoy it again... But you have to just let things happen, if it never does be cool with it

Most Helpful Girls

  • Well I can't speak for all women but I love for a man to go down on me...idk how women can say no ;D

    Well since it's not an insecurity about taste or smell that's why most women say no tp it has to be something more. Has she recieved oral sex before? it could be why she's so heistant about it. You could be the first person who offered it and it makes her nervous. I know I was so nervous to have a guy down there for the first time but once he started my nervousness turned to excitement.

    Maybe it has something to do with the relationship being new and she's not comfortable enough yet.

    A guy could have went down on her before and he might not have done it rightor hurt her leaving her with a bad history of recieving oral sex causing her not to like it

    She might just be one of those women who just flat out just doesn't like it no matter who's down there.

    Talk to her about it...Tell her you'd like to return the favor. Since you like to eat pussy.

    whatever the reason good luck :)

  • Not all girls like it and many are self-conscious. It can also be linked to an abusive past I actually have trouble with it myself do to abuse (but not trouble with sex or blow jobs). You can let her know that you enjoy it and that you find her very desirable and hopefully she will open up to you about why in time. Could just be preference or general insecurity in which case its likely that eventually she will let you go for it =) But I agree respect her wishes.

    • This is also a great reply to consider as abuse is in 67% of US homes to date. just a terrible figure to consider. So communication is going to be every bit helpful.

    • Ok, that sounds like the best way to go about this. I don't want her to do something she's not comfortable doing, so I'm just going to leave it alone and whenever she wants to tell me why, that's when I'll know. Thanks for your input, I was worried that it was something to do with me.

  • She may be afraid of herpes and/or other STD. She may also have some psicological trauma or she may just not like it. I know I love it. But you must be attentive to her, that is the hottest and sweetest you can be - see it as an opportunity.

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  • Obviously not every girl likes it. Or she's saving that for someone special (not that you're not special). Or regardless of what you say she is insecure for one reason or another.

    She calls the shots, it's her vagina.

  • i don't know ha ha maybe she's just never been able to get off that way

  • I don't like having my **** sucked. Girls find that just as difficult to understand.

    It makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't enjoy it. I don't know why exactly, but you have to respect each others preferences. How about she really giving golden showers, would you be up for that?

  • She might not like the way it looks, thinks it smells/tastes weird and is self-concious

    But she is an older woman and I would have though she had dealt with that, she could justnot like it and had past partners who were terrible at it

    Try talking to her and say that you only want to do it to please her, that you love her p**** and all it's imperfections

    Say you want to do it only one time then stop, dhe might listen and go along just to get you to shutup, if you bring out your A game licking, sucking, fingering, clit and her g-spot she might enjoy it and maybe want to try it more

  • Some girls are very sensitive. I enjoy it when he goes down there. But if she doesn't enjoy it, find other ways to please her AND yourself. Some women just don't like it. Understand that women will not always like what men have to offer sexually.

  • I never liked it...it does make me uncomfortable and I don't really know why. I'm not worried about the way it looks or smells. Its just akward. I was in a relationship for 6 years until a few months ago and of course I let him do it eventually but not that often. She will probably let you do it eventually too...its probably just going to take some time for her to feel comfotable enough with you.

  • It's totally possible that she's had bad experiences in the past that make her uncomfortable with someone's face up close like that. Or maybe you have facial hair and it'll feel scratchy to her, but at the same time she doesn't want to tell you to shave it off. Or maybe she doesn't like the sensations of oral sex! But if she does like the sensations but just doesn't want the skin-to-skin contact (or the visual), I make a sexy panty product called Lorals that you can have oral sex through. Check out our website at mylorals com, and feel free to send us a message (or message me here) if you have any questions. :)

  • she said no to that...no way!

  • I love it. I can't believe someone would say no to that!

    • i would have yours like a hungry child eats his lunch :P :P :D

    • Yeah, I've never came across a woman that didn't like it either, until now. But, she is very special to me and I'm just gonna respect her wishes until she's comfortable with it.

  • Because a real man can make a woman come without having to eat her out. She wants to train you to be a real man maybe.

    • I didn't say that I can't make her cum. I said she don't like me to eat her pussy. Ain't got nothing to do with being a real man. lol

    • I know. Just f***ing with you.

  • i hate when guys go down on me. I don't know why but I hate it. And when my boyfriend tries I do the same thing. Some women just don't like that.

    • but do you enjoy going down on him? or oral gratification in any way to him?

    • yes I love going down on my boyfriend but I just don't like it.

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