Black women are to Arab men what p*rn stars are to men in general? They won't take them seriously...?

[Anonymous]

I'm a black woman who dated an Arabic guy and is very attracted to Middle Eastern guys. I was wondering if there's any truth to this. My experience dating an Arab guy was pretty good. The chemistsry was great and he was a total gentleman from beginning to end! Things ended because he realized he wasn't going to get in my pants and I guess unlike me, he wasn't serious about me so he figured there was no other reason to talk to me if he wasn't getting in my pants. Now usually, I would just say, "He's just another asshole. They're everywhere! Oh well...", but I've heard from friends that Arab guys are like that a lot when it comes to black women. One friend said “They like our bodies, the way our skin looks against theirs, and they think we’re freaks, but nine out of times , they won’t take us seriously. They’ll hang out with us or whatever, but at the end of the day, the usually wouldn’t bring us home to mom. It’s kind of like men with p*rn stars. They think they’re hot and f***able, but at the end of the day, they’re most likely not going to marry her, introduce her to important people in their life, or take her seriously as far as it comes to a relationship.” She didn’t say it in a bitter way or anything. A female friend of mine who’s from Palestine said that “A lot of Arabs look down on black people. “ There seems to be some truth to these statements. What do you think? I think it’s pretty f***ed up. To know that you won’t take someone seriously, but you’re just keeping her around to hang out with or like she’s some kind of ‘trophy’ to show off to your friends when you know damn well you don’t take her seriously is so selfish and inconsiderate. That’s so objectifying and offensive! So you’ll hook up with a black girl but you won’t take her seriously in a relationship!? BS! If you’re an Arab guy who does that, be happy I’m not in the room with you because surely you would get an epic slap :) Anyway, what is your opinion on this? Have you found there to be any truth to these statements?

[Anonymous]

I know this question was asked 2 months ago, but I will tell you this , I was born in Lebanon and I have been in the United states for two years now, my grandma's mother in law was African American and she still speaks with my grandma she speaks Arabic and converted to Islam, but unfortunately she lives in Virginia and we live in Michigan, anyway we don't have in our family this is black or that is white its god who choose people's color though the word " Detroit" freak us out most of the guys there are bad unfortunately they are black but it doesn't have to do with their color, every race has bad people. This Arab guy and I assume he is a Muslim just by name is a pervert, I consider going out with a girl and there is nothing official between the girl and a guy is a bitchy pervert act, of course he won't bring you to his mom, since if he is a Muslim and his mom was religious she will kick his a$$ , our values, religion, don't allow us to date, to be honest I might marry African American girl only if she converted to my religion or at least she will able to respect my values but I don't have a problem with the color, sorry this is sad it but it is hard to find an Arab guy who will take you seriously , from my personnel experience a lot of African American girls showed me they are interested in me but I never responded back since I'm not a player and I know it is almost impossible to be with each other besides my society and religion make a lot of pressure on me so I avoid getting in trouble and breaking the heart of those girls

[Asker]

Why should a woman have to convert to your religion and be forced to practice something she may not even really believe or agree in just to be with you? that's unfair!

[Opinion Owner]

hmm well this how things work in my culture, no one is forcing anybody here, there is no problem a Muslim marrying a woman from people of the book like christians and jews it still marriage, but the problem when kids will born they will be confused what religion they will embrace, that's why I won't marry a girl outside my religion.

[Opinion Owner]

actually recently I was debating with my parents about this issue, I like blond light skin and blue eyes and there is a lot of Americans have those features, when I told my parents about it my Dad was like " you better know what you are talking about" I know in my heart my parents would like to see me happy with whom I choose to marry but at the same time they will have a lot of concerns because of religion difference. yes it is unfair but we don't always get what we want !

[Asker]

well quite frankly, I think it's bullsh*t for you to pressure someone into adopting your religion down the road if she wants to be with you.

[vlo902]

If u don't like it the shut the fuck up! that's HIS choice what kind of woman he choses and what their beliefs are. Your not Muslim so move the fuck along.

[ZeniadaRosa]

I agree with you.

[Lupianwolf]

Its bad if he's just using you but you'll have to realize that it would be hard to work out a real relationship

I think it's more of the stigma attatched to it, muslim and (assuming)christianity, different race, different norms and values, people's attitude towards you, family won't approve, how would the wedding work, How would you bring up your child

It's clashing two completely different type of people who have a heritage differnt to yours and not always as accepting towards you and vice versa

[Anonymous]

According to Islam an Arabic man can marry an Christian woman. She does not have to convert. But when they have kids those kids will have to be muslims. Unless the muslim man doesn't matter if his kids are raised as muslims or as christians. Most of the time the kids will be muslims.

Most young Arabic men see women as toys this is just not only with black women. The only women they treat with respect are their mothers, sisters, cousins and grandmothers and of course their (wife). If an arabic guy is raised well he will treat all women with respect! When an arabic guy is serious about his black girlfriend. He will introduce her to his family. This will take time of course. Because he needs to be sure. And if his family doesn't agree and he loves you. He will stand on your side even if his mom disagree with it all. Because arabic moms prefer their sons to be with an arabic muslim girl. So the tradition can continue and passed on to their kids.

[lotusbud]

I am a black woman who is dating an Arab man. He is very good to me and he treats me like a lady. However, I don't go into any relationship with insecurities such as this. There is absolutely nothing about me even remotely close to a p*rnstar or some cheap woman. I guess I work on myself enough to know the caliber of woman I am and how I want to be regarded by the man of my interest. Preconceived notions are insignificant because I captain of the ship when it comes to my image and the quality of relationship I want with a man. When dating, there is more than enough to me where I don't have to rely on bedding a man in oder to have a great time, I also don't engage men who are disrespectful or who I sense aren't investment worthy for whatever reason that may be. So I don't have the same concerns as this. If you could have this approach, you wouldn't feel the need to worry about being viewed or treated any way than the way you want to be.

[l-hedoniste]

You're a smart girl, so you know that all stereotypes are, automatically, very, very wrong--mental handholds for flaling fools. Please tell me this isn't news to you.

"but I've heard from friends..." You also know, don't you, that sentences that start like this usually end in rumor at best, and more likely a bit of nonsense. This shouldn't be news to you either.

That said, you have some foolishness, some nonsense, and your experience. Which are you going to believe?

Right! Good girl. You didn't even need me for this.

[cth96190]

Black people would understand the Arab point of view if they read what the Quran had to say about negroes. It is not kind.

[CherieBlossom]

@Asker, don't be so harsh

[Anonymous]

I know that the Arab men that own a couple of small stores near my house are running through young black girls (possibly under aged) like 40 going north. I didn't think they dated and married black women but I guess it's possible.

[vlo902]

Most don't and most don't touch black. the only ones that do do becuz for 1 black are easy for 2 black are everywhere, when u work in the hood that's all u can get! for 3 black girls try soo hard to get arab they broke and try to make them their sugar daddys.

[Clayaya]

@vlo902 you’re just racist af

[Anonymous]

It takes a really strong man to date a black woman. (American) Black woman got an inner strength that is rare among women of other races. It was given to them by their mothers and grandmas. Only a really strong man can handle it and make her feel like a real woman. Usually that means its a black man because let's face it (American) black men are stronger on average than other races. Black love ain't a crime sista. Give a good brother a chance.

[peace-love-couture]

Oh we call that "strength" and attitude. This is coming from a girl who is part black haha

[peace-love-couture]

*an

[Opinion Owner]

There's a difference. If the girl is respectful and command the same it is strength. Sisters give me a little attitude on occasion but then I get her in the huckabuck and she knows what's up.

[Asker]

OMFG for the love of Jesus! I wish people, especially black people, would stop acting like the source of their INDIVIDUAL STRENGTH is being black! This is not the 50's! None of us have been slaves or a member of the Black Panthers! I'm so tired of hearing that bs! It's so foolish to say that a black man is stronger than a man of another race simply because he is black! There are Asian men that have grown up in sever poverty in Asia and have been subjected to worse treatment than any African

[Opinion Owner]

Who gives a sh*t what you think? Take it or leave it. And yeah I agree with the Asian statement. Its how a lot of them come to the US and become successful while many white people born here and having all the opportunities end up to be loser drug addicts.

[Asker]

I'm sure there are a lot of people who care about what I think! I don't date black guys...they're all usually ignorant, conform to a stereotype, are brainwashed by the media and the small ideas of Eurocentric beauty, objectify women, are whores, or all/most of the above. I hate to generalize, but no one has proved me wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever girl! I've got a master's and make well into 6 figures. I love all types of women. I love different women for different reasons. I love black woman's strength. I love latina women's sexuality. I love a white woman's confidence. I love Asian women's femininity. So just cause you can't find a good black man don't hate on the rests of us. Maybe its YOU are just not attractive to us.

[Asker]

There goes the ignorance that is once again proving my point! Look at how you just classified the qualities of a woman based on ethnicity! Black woman = strength. Latina woman = sexuality Asian woman = femininity. You know for someone with a Masters degree, you sure are idiotic! There are black men that are attracted to me, but I always end up dismissing them for some reason!

[Opinion Owner]

Hey sorry you can't handle my point of view. Have a nice life haterette.

[Asker]

I can handle your point of view and I have no reason at all none what so ever not even a little bit to hate on you :)

[Opinion Owner]

The hate is all self hate sister. It oozes from your post and is so obvious to the rest of us but you still can't see it even when I point it out to you.

[Asker]

lol there's no hate, I just disagree with you and think you're ignorant as hell

[Anonymous]

Arab people aren't the only ones who look down on black people. I wouldn't call it racism tho. It's just their way of life.

Anyway, if you don't like if, avoid Arab men. It's as simple as that

[mikesaracino]

White people got sand niggas calling black folks niggas too. Racism is so f***ing played out.

[Opinion Owner]

Ya. I don't think of racism is hate per se. It's just how it is. I'm very racist but I have friends of different Races. I don't hate them.

[ZeniadaRosa]

White people look down on Arabs as well. I wouldn't call it racism. It's just their way of life.

[Reemaa]

@ZeniadaRosa Yes ! We know that many white people look down on us so that's why we try our best to avoid them and I don't imagine myself as an Arab to date an American :) ! They always stereotype us , says that we are terrorist and the list go on. I'm not complaining , this is their problem not mine. So an African who see some racist arab men , she should feel the same