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Does this make me gay?

when I was in grade 7, just hitting puberty, my friends and I would have sleep overs and stuff. we used to show each other our penises and compare sizes. eventually we became so open with each other that we started masturbating in front of each other every time we had a sleep over. this all happened over a span of 2 months. we were young and confused and horny, but had no girls because at that age, no girl is going to be sexual. anyways, I was having a sleep over with of my guy friends on Halloween night after we went out trick or treating. they all noticed that my penis was substantially larger than their penis, I was about 12, it was about 6 inches long, while theirs would only be like 4 erect. my friend asked me if he could touch it, I was hesitant for like an hour, they were like "come on man, we're not going to tell anyone", so I let him jerk me off, about half way through he asked me if he could suck it.. I told him NO, but he started sucking it against my will, but it was my first blowjob and I couldn't resist the feeling. by that time my other friend wanted to join in, so he started sucking it instead I eventually came in his mouth and we were all kind of weirded out. we went to sleep and stopped talking about it, we kind of (took it to our graves) .. the first friend who started doing things and I were closer. he slept over on the weekends all of the time. something came over me for 2 months where when we would go to sleep I take my pants off and tell him to suck my d*** and he would do it whenever I asked. I would always feel disgusted with myself after I came in his mouth. it was never sexual. we didn't turn each other on and we never kissed or anything. it was more so, he was doing a service for me. one night I was really horny and asked him if I could stick my d*** in his ass. he let me, we did it for 30 minutes or so before I came in his ass. after that I got so disgusted with myself that I stopped all together. we never told anyone and that was 8 years ago. I have had girlfriends, I'm only attracted to girls but what was that, why did I do all that? what was wrong with me
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Are you gay? No.

    Except for this one guy...

    Why did you do it? Because you had someone available for sex when you were horny, which, once you think about it, is pretty reasonable. Just so happens that this "someone" was

    a guy.

    What would I label you? I wouldn't; situations like this are *precisely* the reason I think that labels are mostly idiotic--because they paint over the important details of a person's life and relationships. Put a gun to my head, I would call you heteroflexible, but that makes a lot of people queasy.

    By the way, some of queasy disgust is useless guilt; it's not your job to conform your sexuality to anything, so let yourself off the hook.

    Also, when someone blows you to a finish, that's sexual; You don't come when you're not turned on. Another part of your queasy disgust is that you're telling yourselves very complicated lies to make the blowjob work. The sane mind knows that people telling themselves very complicated lies have begun to go crazy, and going crazy is queasy and disgusting.

    So again, let yourself off the hook and rethink this, SANELY: you got your blowjobs and your anal sex with a dude. You haven't done it since, you haven't been hot for a dude since (?) You've moved on, and it's NO BIG DEAL.

    Right? Good. Peace, man.

  • How old were you during the anal? I'm 13. Is it normal to do that kind of stuff with good friends (besides the blow jobs and anal sex)? Would it be weird if I were to compare sizes and jerk off with friends?

Most Helpful Girls

  • First of all, you seem to be thinking of homosexuality as a bad thing. I suggest you try to be more open and change it.

    Secondly, you're most likely not gay.

    I've heard that in the Middle East, it was a regular practice for boys and men to do what you used to do. Doing favours for each other, that is. The main reason for that in the Middle East is because the women are all hidden entirely from the male population and men will never be able to have one to themselves until they are married.

    What you and your friends have done is probably not unheard of in first world countries at all. It's simply friends doing favours for each other.

    You're the only one who would know if you're gay or not. If you know that you never got off to the thought of men and that you are only attracted to girls, then I would have to say that you wouldn't be "classified" as a homosexual.

  • It's just experimentation. I don't even think it necessarily counts as "curious," like other people are saying.

    My first sexual encounters were with a girl when I was about 12 years old. I wasn't attracted to her or turned on (unless I pretended she was a guy). I don't even know why we did it. I guess we were bored :P

    Anyway, your experience is pretty extreme, but you said it yourself: "I'm only attracted to girls." As long as you're being honest with yourself about that, there's nothing to worry about. Not that being bisexual would be awful, but you know what I mean.

  • no it doesn't make you gay, hormones can be very overwelming and you needed release wich is completly understandable. the fact that you were desgusted with yourself after wards just proves that point. Beleive it or not a lot of girls do some thing similar when they hit pubeerty as well so it is 100% normal. don't be hard on yourself over it

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  • There is nothing wrong with being gay.

  • It's experimentation... it's normal, fairly common... and you shouldn't feel guilty.

  • Its called a bi curious experience it doesn't exactly make you gay.

  • you are bi. no straight guy would f*** another guy in the ass

  • I don't know if that makes you gay, but it's pretty close.

  • what was wrong with you? Nothing really 'wrong': just curious and experimenting. Happens to other guys (If I'd to pay hem a Coke each I'd be broke!)

  • Its not gay if its not the only way you get excited! I did it too! Many times! I even miss doing so lol

  • you were just very horny and you needed girls but that was tottaly gayyy

  • 6 inches at the age of 12? no wonder your friends bowed down to you ;) .. I wonder what you're packing now. and no that doesn't make you gay, you didn't give anything in return you were just horny and wanted some at an age when it's almost impossible to find a girl who would do those things at the age of 12... Kind of twisted, but kinda sexy.

  • You’re gay, like all men.

  • No offense but that does make you gay. You are sexually attracted to guys if you let a friend do that. Having sex with a man to way too much. Sorry

    • if the situation were reversed (the guy believed he was gay but remembers experimenting sexually with a girl when he was young) would you tell him that he was actually straight? In reality, sexuality is very fluid and no one is really 100% gay or straight.

  • You were just a horny teenager! Haven't you noticed that middle school boys will stick their penis in pretty much ANYTHING? It's all hormones, and perfectly normal (:

  • You say you are only attracted to girls, so I say you are not gay. I have heard that this is common with very young straight males and females since there isn't much an outlet for the raging hormones. I admit that I was chronic masterbater from a very young age.

    On the other hand are you being totally honest with yourself about being only attracted to girls.

  • oh my god...if you are serious...you are AWESOME! I would totally be your friend haha

    i would say that you were young and curious...but there's a line you shouldn't be crossing lol

    you got hard! you told him to suck it! you asked to stick it up! you were gay as a kid I guess. but who knows maybe you were so afraid of the past that you don't wanna do it again even though you might like it :/

    • you would totally be my friend now, or you wish you were that friend, I don't understand lol

    • i would totally want you as a friend! your past sounds very interesting :D

    • i've got a pretty screwed up past lol probably why all of this happened, I'm pretty normal now though, I'd definitely say I'm straight now, I'd be your friend, but I'm kind of embarrassed to give out my profile name, so if you could give me your profile link I could add you

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