Guys what do you feel about the unrealistic ideals of beauty women create for themselves?

[Anonymous]

A lot of girls are obsessed with their weight, measurements, and clothing sizes. How many of you guys actually know what those numbers mean? Or even if you do have an idea do you really care? What type of body do you actually like? Do you get tired of your girlfriends dieting excessively and asking constantly if they look fat? If you had to pick between your girlfriend gaining a little extra weight and perhaps gaining some nice curves or losing too much and losing curves what would you pick? Would you rather a chubby girl totally confident in her body that didn't constantly harass you about her weight? Or a magazine ready body on a shallow, insecure sort of girl? Do you like pear shape (small waist, small bust, but with very generous booty), hourglass (narrow waist with almost even measurement between bust and hips), athletic (toned, low body fat, usually means minimal curves), apple shaped (large around the middle with thin arms and legs), ultra thin (not much muscles, not much fat, low on curves the shape women seem to be striving for)? Do you spent a lot of time looking at magazines and p*rn with unrealistic female forms or do you prefer the more natural bodies of women? And lastly what do you feel about the unrealistic ideals of beauty women are placing on themselves? Yes I know ladies you feel its the media but you buy the magazines you feed the machine and the image. And yes I know guys sometimes do have unrealistic expectations of a females body and yes I know they can make hurtful comments but its not exclusively men that have created this, we all have.

[MrOracle]

While all guys may prefer one thing or another, only a small few are attracted only to that "fantasy ideal" in their head. Most men have a wide range of "types" they find attractive.

Most men groan and roll their eyes when women obsess over one minor "flaw" (mostly in their head) and can't let it go. Most men just won't care about that issue, whatever it is, as long as you are fun to be around and make the guy feel desired. Insecurity is NOT attractive, girls!

It's *fine* to want to improve your body, and to be aware of the areas you need to work on, if any. But it's better if you just do what you can, and forget about what you can't, and quit stressing. That will make you more attractive than losing a couple of pounds or going up a cup size.

[c7777]

Listen I couldn't give two sh*ts about what exactly my girl qualifies as in terms of body type as long as she's not overweight (I expect in shape because I'm a fitness freak) if she has a decently pretty face and wife potential she's gold with me.

And by the way I think today males have equally just as much pressure to have an athletic ripped body. Fitness magazines targeted for men are everywhere! And the gyms around where you live are packed with muscle craving males. don't think males don't have equal pressure nowadays we do and I feel it too. I workout everyday for at least 2 hours because I feel I'm obligated too. I shouldn't feel that way but I do.

[Asker]

Where I live the guys aren't big on hitting the gym they are going more for the pretty boy look very thin, overly styled hair, clothes that though in fashion look quite a lot like ladies clothes, even makeup sometimes. The guys are so pretty I can't tell they are men so I know they feel extreme pressure to look in a way they think girls desire. I don't mind a guy going for that look if its his personal style but I think people should be true to themselves and just healthy.

[c7777]

well you must live in a downtown area.. where I live all the guys are juice heads

[Asker]

I do live downtown but I also live in Sweden

[peace-love-couture]

I like this question, alot, especially your last paragraph.

However, I do feel that women think way too drastically and that was my first thought in your first paragraph. Women should aim to be in shape and healthy, stop thinking it's thin vs fat. Sorry but being a toothpick is not attractive being chubby isn't and being fat isn't, being in shape and in good health is.

I really do like your last paragraph. I feel as though too many girls try to blame it on the media, when at the end of the day, it's girls being hard on each other. You won't hear a dude comment on pants or dress sizes saying a particular number is too big, but you'll hear girls.

[Asker]

Girls are really hard on each other, I have to say in my life its been girl's that have been the most judgmental and negative about my body.. I am not even fat so its just craziness but I admit fully I get obsessed & caught up sometimes too. Its sad though the female body in its natural, healthy state is beautiful I can appreciate others bodies but my own I take for granted

[Eugene]

I find it hilarious to see how girls go through hell, fire and brimstone and crawl out of their skin just to look like a girl from some fashion magazine, who's been corrected in a photoshop by professionals.

[Asker]

I know right it cracks me up too