Practicing oral sex with....

Question

So the girl that I am dating told me that her and her brother used to practice oral sex on each other as teenagers. Now I have heard this is quite common, but is always kept under wraps due to morality and judgement. How many people have done this? You can be anonymous.

billy_young · Accepted Answer

As you can see from all the answers, it's definitely NOT common! I've never heard of this happening and agree with others that it's basically incest.

However, don't judge the girl for it. As teenagers, you hear a lot of things that people say is common but actually isn't. Presumably she doesn't think there was anything wrong with it, but that doesn't make her an incestuous freak. Maybe she has very different opinions on sex to other people or maybe she doesn't. The fact is everyone's thoughts about sex are very different, and because people don't talk about it much, there can be a lot of confusion and taboos. But if you like her personality, then just see what her opinions on other sexual things are. The best way to find this out is probably just to go with the flow a few times and see what happens - what I mean is she might have very different sexual expecations to you and that could be a problem. But probably she's perfectly normal, just did what seemed OK at the time as a teenager.

Anyway, going off on a second tangent in a completely different direction... As teenagers some people practice oral sex or even intercourse with friends. This could be as friends with benefits/f*** buddies or it could be just plain friends experiementing with each other or it could be someone 'showing their friend the ropes'. This is a lot less common than some people believe, but it does happen. What the girl you're dating did was kind of along the same lines as this, just with her brother... So the curiosity and the experimentation/practice wasn't too abnormal, just who she did it with.

Hope this helps, and seriously try not to be too freaked out by it. But it definitely isn't normal.

lefthand · Accepted Answer

it's uncommon anymore. It used to be more common before people lost their collective mind about sexuality under the age of 25. While I would not doubt the girl's experience, I would treat the information as trust and a responsibility. As you can see from the other posts, this arrangement is not well received.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I do not know where you live... but where I am from, that is NOT common!

I have never heard of that before (except when the girl is being molested, but I don't count that!)

I myself, only have a sister, so no, I have never done this.

But even if I had a brother - I would never do/have done this.

EverythingReal · Accepted Answer

My brother is about a year older than me, we never had that type of relationship and never will. I would consider this uncommon and incest, however I guess the curiosity thing would be normal I guess, just not normal to explore.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Common? Maybe you live on Mars or something? Because here it's not common at all.

timetowaste · Answer

Nope. Never done it. It's not normal, and I don't think it's very common.  Ick.

GreenTea007 · Answer

Common to practice on sibling?! Did she grow up in place where no one ever had eaten a Popsicle?

elizabeth24 · Answer

thats not common at all its gross. I've never heard of any of my close friends doing that

volleyball_bigirl · Answer

Not common and not normal but I'm sure it happens more than some will admit

tyt_2012 · Answer

No.

Brandan_Cromartie · Answer

Where did you "hear" this was common? Especially as teenagers.

dudeman · Answer

lol little kids its common to touch each other but not oral sex

MikeK · Answer

Nah.  It's just about everything but "common."

Anonymous · Answer

My sister who is a year younger performed oral sex regularly until I moved out. She was the first I had intercourse with, but she liked to swallow my ejaculate. When I was 22 she brought over a girlfriend a few times "to share"