What's wrong with the pull out method?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I see the pull method mentioned on this site or other sites, I always see a lot of negative feed back and low ratings associated with it. Personally, I have seen more people get pregnant using the pill wrong than using the pull out method correctly (or even mostly correctly). Plus there are a lot of side effects that come from certain methods of birth control that you don't get with the pull out method such as: Mood swings, nausea, headaches, increased blood pressure, IUDs getting embedded in the wall of the uterus, and bloating. I know it's not the most effective method by far but it's certainly not the worst, and it's better than nothing(and it's better than taking because wrong). What's wrong with a monogamous couple using the pull out method correctly? I know precum can get you pregnant but it is not very likely.

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[l-hedoniste]

First, Answers.com and Yahoo! answers are not nearly reliable sources; you might as well have linked to this site and our pack of fools. Don't do that.

Assuming your couple is PERFECTLY monogamous, the answer is in your Esquire link:

"A man needs to have pretty good rapport with his urethra and be able to remain levelheaded at the moment of truth."

To which I add: Every. Single. Time.

I--terribly experienced, with abundant knowledge and command over my body--don't have nearly this much control, not consistently, and certainly not flawlessly. And I'm a guy who *works* at this kind of stuff, who does his Kegels, who can see the moment of truth a mile off. Your average slammer off the street will be far less reliable.

The pull-out method, for perfect use, absolutely depends on a level of physical discipline that most men don't have, don't want, and never will. By comparison, the pill and the barrier methods merely require good habits, while IUDs, the Depo shot, and the implant are fire-and-forget, for months or years. For me, the choice between reliable contraceptive technology and Jedi mind tricks is not a close call, but as always, you do what's best for you.

(Just please, PLEASE have a backup. Please.)

[Asker]

I know that birth control is aimed at the lower spectrum of the population so that everyone can use it, but I don't think that people who do use that method correctly should be put down for it. For over the past year, I been using a combination of the patch and inbetween not being able to afford refils (which has been a year at the longest), I have used the pull out method and it has worked out just fine. I am sorry 2 links of mine are not as reliable as they should be, but unfortunatly

[Asker]

I had trouble finding information that was specific to what I was presenting, so I used the only option left. Luckily, most of my links are from reliable sources and can be trusted.

[l-hedoniste]

"Luckily, most of my links are from reliable sources and can be trusted" Actually, the only link I would trust is your Planned Parenthood link. The ABC or Esquire reporter probably doesn't know any more about birth control then you do; more likely, they're just a good speller with big contact list. *Their sources* are the ones you want to trust, IF they're reliable; you need not--and should not--assume that they are.

[l-hedoniste]

Speaking of Planned Parenthood, have you been to your local clinic? This is the sort of talk they love to have, they *exist* to have talks like this. I'm assuming you're not in one of those hellholes that have purged themselves of PP. (Hi, Mississippi!)

[l-hedoniste]

Finally, if you're on a budget, the long-term hormonal methods have a high up-front cost, but you're spreading that cost over at least six months, up to several years (IUD). Also, if you by condoms in bulk, you can get the price down to 15-20 cents each.

[Asker]

That doesn't neccaserily mean all the links have provided untrustworthy information. I started off my sex life on the patch that was originally from PP, but the problem with that is that PP is towns away and I barely have enough gas to make it to school. I have been using the pull out method since I ran out of patches (and before I knew about the links) but people are going to ask for some links when something that they don't agree with comes up. I have been using the POM for over a year

[Asker]

and it works for me and my partner personally. If something has been working for over a year, then it probably works. It has been said that if you try for a year to have a baby and you don't end up pregnant, you should see a doctor because something is wrong. Why then, wouldn't it work if you were trying a method of BC for over a year, and you haven't ended up pregnant?

[Asker]

And personally, I would never use a IUD because those are recomended more for women who have already had kids ( I have not) and I would like to still be fertile by the time I want to have kids. I know the risks are low but I would like to avoid them anyways with that particular method. I could never afford something expensive up front, even if it was a good investment (I know it is) but I just lost a job and I just can't afford something that much now.

[Shaun]

Nothing. I've used it exclusively for 20 years and no scares of any kind.

[Asker]

Me too for over a year and no pregnancy yet. people peg you as "stupid" if you use it but it actually works when done correctly.

[Shaun]

It's like everything else, education is aimed at the lowest common denominator. It's easier to make a blanket statement like wear protection always, thereby negating the risks of infidelity and basically a lack of control on the guys' part, than it is to say, if both people enter into a committed, monogamous relationship, remain faithful and exercise control, the risks of disease and pregnancy are very small. Plus, there is a basic assumption that people SHOULD be sleeping around.

[Asker]

That's true. But pretty much only condoms prevent disease as well as pregnancy, so I don't know why they advertise other things besides condoms so adamently when the sleeping around factor comes in.

[Shaun]

Sleeping around isn't my concern, having enjoyable sex with my partner is. Ergo, no condom.

[Asker]

Exactly.

[TaureanBull81]

It's such a shame that people label us as irresponsible when really we have had experience using this method over condoms so know our body well and have good ejaculation control which increases its effectiveness.

[Anonymous]

Here's why you don't see it as a big issue:

"Personally, I have seen more people get pregnant using the pill wrong than using the pull out method correctly (or even mostly correctly)."

No one can refute what you've 'seen.' Although it would be crucial to understanding why it's so risky to be able to see past what you've seen, most people don't.

Nothing is wrong with a monogamous relationship who uses the pull out method. Just don't whine about it if you do end up pregnant.

And birth control has a 5% accidental pregnancy (failure) rate.

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[Asker]

Well, that's interesting because I have been doing it for over a year and no pregnancy. I will recant whatever I said today if I do end up pregnant but it's just not going to happen if it hasn't already (as long as we continue as we have using it correctly). I have done research besides what I have seen and it seems to fit with what I have observed personally (that's why I put that along with some of my research).I couldn't help but notice that there were a lot more contraceptives that were less

[Asker]

effective than the pull-out method, including the female condom. But funny thing is, according to that list, the male condom has almost the same effectiveness of the pull out method (4% difference) and they advertise the male condom like there's not tommorow. I Know the pull out method isn't going to work for everyone because some people can't pull out in time but it certainly not far from working.

[Asker]

It's not very "crucially" different from other highly publicized contraceptives according to that list.

[Opinion Owner]

I'd still rather not be that small chance :P More so because my boyfriend is inexperienced.

[Asker]

yeah, it's def. not for everyone. It's weird like that :)

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with the pull out method. Just be aware of what the typical failure rate is, as you would be for any other form of birth control. This method relies solely on your partner's ability to know his body and pull out on time. I've used it successfully myself in the past, but was always aware of the chances of failure.

[SunflowerBabe]

My boyfriend and I exclusively use the pullout method. I agree with what you said about the side effects of other birth control methods. He even still cums inside me when I’m not ovulating because I track my cycles so I know when I won’t get pregnant. We’re in a committed relationship so there isn’t a risk of STDs either.

[likelyOK]

Tracking your cycle is actually really reliable on its own if done right but pull out alone is not.

[pdaluga14]

The pull-out method is risky as heck dude... use condoms or get your girlfriend to go on the pill asap. And you should use an antibacterial penis care product called Man1 Man Oil for improved hygiene down there... you definitely do not want to transfer nastiness to her during oral and other condomless sex acts. You can get this lotion online.. good stuff.

[liketopullout]

Nothing at all. Username checks out. :-)

Some of us males actually prefer doing this.

[usbiv223]

Seriously?

Look, nothing's 100% (while still having sex) and everybody's a snowflake or whatever, but there's a reason why catholics have big families: to get married in the church they teach the "rhythum method"

And before you go Boyer on me, yes, I get that coitus interruptus is different, but DON'T BE TARDED WE DON'T NEED ANY MORE PEOPLE LIKE YOU RUNNING AROUND.

Interesting that I make a snap judgment through the anonymity of the internet...I may have to kick my own ass...

[Asker]

OK, you are obiviously misinformed. The "rhythm method" (That's how "rhythm" is spelt, btw."rhythum" is not a word) and "pull out" method are COMPLETELY different. Since you didn't do the research yourself, I will explain each one to you. The Rhythm method-find out when parts of your cycle go on and avoid the days that you are ovulating. The Pull-out method-When a man pulls out before climax thus, sperm from the climax does not enter the vagina. It's really cute how hypocritical and ignorant

[Asker]

You are. LOL the one who is educated and has done the research is the "tarded" one? WOW. I guess we don't need more educated people running around, do we? I believe there is a place for people like you, it's called trailor parks. You will find PLENTY of your kind there. Please read and educate yo' self (I had to dumb down the language a bit so that you could understand it) before leaving "tarded" comments on a subject you obiviously know nothing about.

[usbiv223]

Dear spelling Nazi: please read paragraph 3 of my original answer, where I stated "I get that coitus interruptus is different..." I truly apologize if you are offended by the word "tarded" and hope that you are able to generate an appropriate sense of just how weighty the value of opinions are on an anonymous internet comment site. Enjoy.

[Asker]

Yes, so if they are different why are you saying there effectiveness is the same? That has no relevance to the question. This site really doesn't effect me what-so-ever in real life and never will, but I will point out when someone is being hypocritical. Check out the new link that another person on this provided me with, it shows that Pull out is way more effective than rhythm method. I admit, the pull-out method is not for everyone, but just because a couple uses it they shouldn't be put down

[Asker]

If it works. People are so quick to jump on something that may not work for everyone and say that it doesn't work for anyone, which is just not true.

[thisGUYknows]

i don't know what to believe. 2% sounds awfully low according to what I've heard from teachers and sex drs. like dr drew. although I have employed the pull out method a couple times. in the heat of the moment, after using one condom without a reserve one on hand, I've gone back in for seconds and pulled out at the last moment. I've only done this with my last girlfriend though. I would never trust the pull out on a one night stand or a girl whom I've just started to know. regardless, with a clear head, I don't trust that method and I'm lucky I don't have a kid or two...or three or four.

[sikoo31]

well it doesn't always work, it always works for me, but that's cause I know when to pull out.

some guys think they're strong enough to pull out in time, but once that intense feeling of orgasm comes over them, it becomes really hard to pull out cause the feeling is just overwhelming.

besides that, there's precum to worry about. sometimes when we get close but not quite there, we do come a bit, and some sperm comes out. sometimes just a few drops have been enough to get the girl pregnant.

the best thing is to finish with your hand or the girl's mouth if she's OK with it.

pulling out always worked for me, but my ex was on the pill as well.

[Asker]

I stated that precum can get you pregnant BUT it is very unlikely. It's like a guy with low sperm count:He can barely get a girl pregnant and sometimes, not at all (an ejaculaton with low sperm count usually has more sperm than in regular precum, so what does that say about precum?).

[sikoo31]

i didn't know that... but it has happened nonetheless.

[pooper89]

On the planned parenthood website, it states that if he didn't urinate after the last time he came, then it's possible that sperm could be present in the precum

[nate18]

do you believe everything you read on the internet? are you willing to take the chance of getting preggo for no reason, or a not very good reason?

[Asker]

Well gee, the guy below me has been using it for over 20 years and no pregnancy and I have been using it over a year (when I have been tested fertile by doctors) and yet no pregnancy here either. Do you believe in everything you read on the internet? I (and others I know) Have been using the pull out method for over a year and it HAS been proven to work. As I stated before, I know more people who have gotten pregnant using the pill wrong than using the pull out method right.

[nate18]

i hope you get pregnant. then I can say I told you so.

[Asker]

LOL but it's not going to happen. Then you're just going to be one of those people out there touting how it doesn't work when it is working perfectly for some people .Sorry you are sour about being proven wrong.

[nate18]

you young kids think your so smart. then bam, your f***ed. why not juts be safe?

[Asker]

Um buddy, we are the same age. You can't just assume someones age based on what they believe in. I never said the pull-out method was my favorite method of BC, and I am currently out sourcing it for a new BC for a more relaxing experience. I think sometimes it makes things less enjoyable for the male to have think about it when he just wants to climax and enjoy it. It's not a perfect method, but it is certainly not far from working. The new I have provided from another answer on this page

[Asker]

*link. The new link I provided shows that there is a 4% difference between the effectiness of the Pull-out method and male condom (if used correctly, of coarse).

[nate18]

i used to think I was invincible too. unfortunately I was wrong.

[Asker]

I don't think I am "invincible" I have used a method for over a year, I have tested it, it has worked. Simple as that. Anybody can agree if you have been doing a certain BC for over a year and you haven't gotten pregnant yet then it probably works. The main point of BC is to prevent pregnancy, which it has in my case. This method of BC is not for everyone, and it does take a lot of control, but that doesn't mean that it absoultly doesn't work. It really depends on the person using the BC.

[XhannahXclarX]

I don't use pull out because I love creampies.

[Rosie27]

umm mayb because you might get pregnant I don't know I'm just sayin that could probably by why its not really safe... is this lik a real serious q's right now?

[Asker]

Um, did you read the question and see the links? Better yet, did you read of others accounts of using it effectively or see any first hand accounts of it? I know more people who have gotten pregnant on the pill than the pull out method. If someone can do the pull out method correctly (and I am going to have to state it for you, because you didn't read the links and obiviously didn't do any research yourself) it's over 70% at the least and some argue that it's even more effective.

[Asker]

Btw, "maybe", "saying" and "like" are spelt like this, the spelling errors in your question highly annoyed me.

[Rosie27]

no because I don't need to educate myself about it, I know its not a good thing to do the pullout method, but hey mayb you should try it and see if you don't get pregnant since you know so much and the internet helped you and its always right...please

[Asker]

That's why I (and others I know) have been doing it for over a year and yet no one has turned up pregnant. Hmmmm maybe you need to do some research, because research says otherwise about the pull out method. You sure need a lot more education to be better informed on this topic, I don't know why you think you don't, because you are gravely misinformed. LOL please read up and get some more education, pleeeeaaasseeee.

[Asker]

Oh, and while you're at it can you please educate yourself on how to spell things correctly? Your grammer skills makes you look ignorant and you lose credability that way.

[Rosie27]

i can spell sweetie I don't need to type every single word correctly, and I really care what people think especially the ones who don't know me ohh god what will I do with myself, but how about you educate and try the pullout method since you know everything

[Asker]

Um, as I have stated before (not sure you can read at this moment) I HAVE been doing the method, OVER a year and it has WORKED. I never said I know everything but personally, I have PROVEN that it works for some people. If you could get your head out of your ass and read the WHOLE response before you answer, you would realize I have already stated that.

[Rosie27]

watever this is stupid arguing with u, well I hope you get pregnant and you see that it doesn't work!

[Asker]

LOL, good luck being one of those people who always talks about how it doesn't work when it does. Have fun being wrong, since you seem to think you know everything about BC and no amount of education or studies can change you. haha

[Rosie27]

umm you must b a stupid bitch because I never said I knew everything, if your gonna talk all that sh*t at least don't do it anonymously lik what most pussy's would do, if you think I'm wrong go talk to a doctor and they will tell you that your wrong dumb ass!

[Asker]

LOL right. Please go back to the ghetto where you belong. In case you haven't noticed (which you haven't) the whole internet is anonymous. Hypocrite.

[Rosie27]

im actually not from the ghetto and your real stupid that you assume things just because I'm typing things to make them shorter and if that's all you got then that's really sad and how am I being a hypocrite? actually don't answer that because its probably gonna b stupid anyways

[Asker]

LOL, you are so funny.

[Rosie27]

says the girl who asked this stupid q's

[Asker]

LOL GOOD ONE.please come across with at least half a brain, then maybe you will be taken seriously,lol.

[TaureanBull81]

Pulling out should be recognized as a legitimate birth control method because it is an extra option plus it's worked for me with exes in the past without any hiccups! Pulling out actually rivals condoms and shouldn't be panned. I'd much rather use the pullout method any day over using condoms!

Open lines of communication are also important before your partner cums plus the guy does need to have good ejaculation control and know his body well using this contraceptive method

The more couples rely on this method the more effective it is.

[Lexknowsall]

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[Asker]

The "Rhythm method" and "Pull out" method are completely different, so this link has no relevance to my question what-so-ever.

[Anonymous]

Its really none of my business if you're in a committed monagamous relationship doing that. Of course the chance of pregnancy will not be as high as a full on creampie, but the chance is still there. All it takes is one intrepid little sperm. Sometimes I wonder how many people use the "pull and pray" method and are in line at the clinic a few weeks later.