well usually I have it in one of two situations : relationship sex or mutually agreed upon recurring no strings sex.
to me its emotional either way but if it's relationship sex I'll pay more attention to things like kissing her, massaging her back, and the day is about more than sex. I truly care about how she feels and satisfying her fully
if it's no strings sex. I only do this if we agree that this is right for the two of us. sometimes some men will have sex with a woman if he sees no future with her while she thinks he is the future. this can be misleading so I don't do this to spare her feelings. if its no strings sex I will base how I go about it on how much I trust her ( how many guys do I think she is sleeping with and is it safe for me ), how cute she is ( if she is really cute I will go above and beyond for her pleasure ). an example of this would be I would lick her p**** for over 30 minutes before I will penetrate her. and I do feel a connection but it's more than a connection of how it typically is viewed. for instance I want her to be happy in life and may take her out etc but its just as friends. in most cases I would like to see her find love that satisfies her even if I am cut off as the solution to her sexual cravings.
i think guys think of it totally differently and it's really different from guy to guy. most guys will be fine taking you to bed and using you to get off but I'm different. I care more about seeing the gal get off and would go to town to please her.
i hope this answers your question and if you could answer my latest question id appreciate it to get a womans opinion for a friend of mine.
We need more guys like you!
Whether people intend it or not, all sex creates and/or sustains emotional involvement.
It's foolish for someone to think/believe that they can have sex without emotion, although it is true that our jails and hospitals are full of people who tried.
My answer may sound cold but I don't intend it as that, moreover what I am saying is that with sex comes love.
Their is no such thing as a f*** buddy, their is no such thing as a prostitute or client, who escapes some degree of emotional attachment.
You do not have to say *we* You are ONE person.
I find it hard to believe- or fascinating if its true. Are you pretending to not know about this, or do rally never heard guys talking about sex in a relationship, & how they will dump the girl if its not sufficient. Women complaining guys just use them for sex in the relationship. Guys saying they just want to f***. Women saying they thought the guy loved them but he just wanted sex. Women saying they can not find a boyfriend who actually cares about them, and does not just want sex. Guys saying women are only good for sex. etc etc -no? never heard this.. interesting. That if you have been on this site for any length of time- or been outside of your house for that matter. That you could possibly think guys SAY they feel like sex matters, In the way they SAY women feel like sex matters. It's all people just making stories up about other people- like you just did. BUT point being, the stories guys tell, for the most part, and very very very often, are that guys don't give a sh*t about emotions in sex- unless they 'choose' to. You know because they can just 'decide' I do not believe anyone is that disconnected from anything that involves all of themselves, but , there is something to be said for delusional thinking.
Not afraid to speak your mind are you Miss.FrenchCity :) (I gave you the up arrow, you've stil a lot to learn but you're a logical person, common sense is the 6th sense, it's essential... you've got lots of it ;) )
@you've stil a lot to learn Ok. I'm listening.. ? ^^
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Guys can have sex without love but not love without sex.
Hence sex is just an act (sex is the best feeling of emptiness) unless they care about the person.
Males aren't emotional creatures and even when emotional they can't forgo their sexual needs.
To sum up sex means nothing to guys but pleasure.
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PMSL! One of these days I am going to get a positive comment out of Udolipixie! My "angle of attack" will NOT be marriage tho. I wonder what she would be like to get drunk with? Never know...might be fun...
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Guys do not make such a physical connection between sex and love as girls. Young teenaged guys easily confuse sex with love because their raging hormones driving them to an extreme desire to f*** and being inside a vagina is the most amazing thing a teenaged guy can ever feel. As (some) guys mature they later realize that there really is a distinction between sleeping with a girl and actually caring for her. When, and if, the guy finally matures he realizes that he wants a loving relationship with one woman as opposed to just f***ing one more girl. Sometimes that realization occurs late, if not too late, for him because few women want to marry an old playboy.
Not all guys feel the same way about sex. In fact, one guy on his own probably wouldn't feel the same about sex as himself.
you can never step in the same river twice.. or even once =)
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If he's your boyfriend, he actually cares about you... then of course he should
(The violin comes out, DonMichelle starts to play sad, tearful music as he types his tale...)
I've never had intimate sex, 'made love'. I've never had sex with a girl I really cared about, a girl I'd want to be gentle to, stare at her face, kiss her, actually 'enjoy' having sex with her
Will I ever?!?! I certainly hope so!
Playing 'f*** and run' gets boring after a while, it's pleasurable... yet tasteless. I have no connection at all with the girls I play 'f*** and run' with... because I don't care about them
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U got some good responses here. But life is more slippery than that...it can be one or the other..or all points in between. I prefer more than "just sex" but it will serve if need be...
i m a guy, I feel that most guys also feel like you, but its depend on you that which type of guys, you have meet. all girls and all guys are not same. they are different to each other. we are here to choose good or bad for us. to choose good, there is a way which is not simple. The simple and fast way is going to worries, tension, and all those things which we don't think in a rest mood. Finaly, I mean to say that all are not same. if we feel that we are good, we must choose good companions. BUT IS NOT A SIMPLE WAY.
I don't know about any other guys but I do feel the say way about sex that you do. I mean I had times where I had sex with girls and not been in a relationsihop. but I think to be able to have sex you should be in a relationship at least and at least have feelings for your partner. otherwise its just SEX
no probably not the guys I met that tryed to have sex with me I was just another sex toy added to there list they didn't care about me
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