My boyfriend has never gone down on me, what can I do?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost four years, I am 18 and he is 22. We were each others first, and we started having sex around 6 months, we did it at the park, in this secret hidden area since we couldn't do it at each others home's or anything well anyway I think a girl going down on him was always his fantasy so the second day we tried sex he made me go down on him and I gagged a lot but he loved it and then I tried him going down on me but he would go down and then up and stare at it and he had this face of like confusion and kind of disgust I'm clean shaven and I have good hygiene and since then I never brought it up since I thought he was disgusted by it but recently this year I started feeling it was so selfish because I go down on him at least two times a day I just feel like its so selfish because he gets the pleasure out of it and I get nothing, that's his favorite thing to do always he doesn't go a day without it and its been four years and I started bringing it up this year and he's like "oh I will" and "okay babe I will" and one day he tried it and he stopped like after three seconds and I was asking him if I was nasty or what? and he said he didn't know what to do and felt like he didn't know what he was doing.and I dk what to tell him to do because I've never had that done to me. I don't understand how HE can't know because he watches p*rn a lot and I know in the p*rn videos the guys who down and them zoom in and crap :( (porn is disgusting to me I gag when watching it so I don't know wanna watch it) and I really want him to do that because the face he makes and the pleasure he gets when I do it to him I want to feel that too and my friends say its the most pleasurable thing ever and I can only imagine cause once he kisses me in that area even on my legs I feel so amazing and I just wish he would go down on me, its my fantasy too:( what can I do? or how can I persuade him or do I have no hope?

[Lupianwolf]

Just because you watch p*rn doesn't mean you know how to do oral, as it's not shown as often and not clear enough what to lick, I watch a lot of p*rn by the way snd the women fake moan so you don't know what's the tight spot

You search and look for one of the countless articles that explain cunnilingus and send it to him, he might not know about whuch parts are which, where your clitoris is or g-spot is, fingering, tongue f***ing

when he's doing it to you you need to tell him in which direction to go, how fast and how slow it should be

It might be mean but withold sex if he doesn't learn about it, he'll surely try and look at it

Without practice or information you can't expect him to be good at a thing which a lot of women have trouble trying to have an orgasm anyway

[Asker]

Thank you and yeah that's correct I watched a p*rn video just to see and they focus more on other things than technique because that's not even the point of the video I don't know what I was thinking, I've read articles and looked into it more like you advice and we're pushing to do it soon!

[Lupianwolf]

Congrats, I'd suggest sending him an email with links rather than telling him to read it around you He's more comfortable that way and can learn it better Also good to have links which talk about how it's a lot easier for a girl to get off during oral than in sex Thanks for BA

[woahomgwow]

Tell him what to do. Men want and need guidance. You have to tell him what feels good.

Obviously if you don't know what feels good that will be hard. Do you ever go solo? If you don't why not try a little experimenting on yourself and see what feels good. Finger is similar to tongue but tongue feels 10 times more amazing.

Whisper in his ear your dirty little fantasy of him licking you out, every guy just wants to please their girl in bed and he should be eager to assist.

[Asker]

I have tried going solo, but I get absolutely no pleasure because it's like I'm touching myself for example when I touch my legs I don't get excited? or when I see my breasts I don't get horny so I don't get sexually excited unless its a guy touching me, because to me its like exploring what I have but I feel no pleasure or anything I feel disgust because it's like wet-ish and my fingers come out like smelling like vagina its kinda disgusting to me, I'll try the whispering though;) hopefully it work

[foolycooly1001]

find a guide for him to learn how to do it.

[udolipixie]

Dump him.

He's not into pleasing you.

Four years with a bj each day & he can't even go down on you completely one time yeah he's not interested.

You're clean shaven & hygienic and his excuse is he doesn't know what he's doing? You can easily guide him or go to link

It sucks but most guys aren't into eating out but expect bjs but you can at least find a guy who'll give you 1 for each 10 you give him.

[Asker]

Thank you so much I immediatly went on that sex 101 page and its great, very detailed on tips on how to do it maybe this will give him the courage he needs. and about dumping him well we've been through hell and back together so I think he can get through this I can be selfish in other ways also, but thanks anyway!:] you were great

[Anonymous]

don't take this the wrong way, but are you clean down there? do you smell? etc

because that could be a contributing factor

[Asker]

yes I am clean that's why I put I have good hygiene I shave completely inside and out I get regular check ups from a free clinic every month so I don't have infections or an std I just don't know what he could not like or what I could do?

[Anonymous]

Just tell him that he has to lick it before he sticks it. He will come around, they all do