Don't panic and don't label yourself. Also, don't treat high school like it means anything. It means di*k.
My advice is to just start talking to people in public. Men, women, older people, cute girls, etc... It just gets you comfortable talking to anyone, anytime. It also teaches you to ignore when people act like di*ks for no reason.
Rejection is something we all face. Ultimately it says nothing about you, it is only about the girl who rejects you because her reasons are in her head and may not have anything to do with you or who you really are.
Also, read a bit about how to successfully approach women. There are a lot of books about dating out there. Basically, you need to exude confidence whether or not you feel it. They love a show of strength. What you have to do is give them the impression that you don't care one way or another if they like you. Then they feel like they have something to prove to you. Take it from a guy who tried being nice to women for about ten years - they don't want it. No matter how much they say they do, they do not respond romantically to kindness or sweetness. They will eat you alive if you are nice.
Let me know if you have any specific questions, and ignore a lot of what women write on this subject. They will seem like they're helping you, but what women say seems to have very little to do with how they actually think and behave.
I don't know... Seems like the girls on this board like confident but nice guys. I don't think I would have it in me to be mean to a girl just so I can "get her". I hope this doesn't mean I'll be forever alone lol.
That's what I'm saying. They say they like nice guys (and confident). They say a lot of things. I'm guessing the women I've gone out with in my life are a fair sampling of the women out there, as are the women on this site. Women do want a nice guy, but only after they're in the relationship. Being nice does not build attraction with women. It doesn't get them excited about being with you. That's the point.
I've met girls who respond to being nice, but they are very, very rare. And the ones I ended up in relationships with kind of had other problems too, like a lack of experience or a certain amount of immaturity. Experienced women just seem to get off on a guy that doesn't care what they think.
You literally just described me. I can't tell if a girl is interested or not. According to my mom the girl that rang me up when buying a mothers day gift was hitting on me. All she said was "Aw I wish I had a son that would be me gifts". I think my mom is crazy lol. I don't pursue girls either but that is not the same thing as not being interested. I've tried to ask a girl out once in high school and was rejected and that was... ouch. I'll tell you that going about your daily life like you normally would will not land you a girlfriend. You have to get out their and meet them. My friends keep trying to get me to bars but I don't like the taste of alcohol and I'd imagine I'd get drunk after 2 beers lol. I've read on here to get into some sort of club and try to meet girls with the same interests. Doesn't work well for me as girls think what I'm into is either weird or insane and is dominantly a male sport.
Ugh... So confusing... When my girl friends tell me I'm a good looking guy and that they don't understand why I don't have a girlfriend yet I feel like a champion of the universe. So you're saying that I should NOT compliment them on ANYTHING when getting to know her? I'd imagine that would give her the impression that you're not into her. That also sounds really mean lol.
Find a girl who thinks you're attractive, doesn't care about looks, or likes your personality enough to overlook your appearance.
#3 is more likely
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