Does he just want sex?

[SweetNthickinMD]

So I met this guy a about 2 months ago online, I am 21 and he is 26, has his own business so he works a lot and we live about 45 mins to an hour away from each other so we don't get to see each other that much. My question is does he just want sex from me or does he actually want a relationship? We had sex for the first time last night, it was great and he told me to call him when I get home to let him know I got there safe, to me that is not a common thing if he just wanted a hook up from me because he wouldn't really care because he already got what he wanted. He also always asks what's new with me, how my family is, and just seems to be interested. But I have been hurt a lot in the past and have some trust issues but I don't have any bad feelings about him. Are there any signs I can look for if he just wants sex and nothing else? Any advice or comments would be appreciated. Thanks.

[ilovelegs]

He sounds like a pretty decent guy to me. It doesn't sound to me like just wanting you for sex is what he has in mind. But how about you? Could you meet him and have fun and then have him go back and not have sex? If you say yes and he can say and do the same thing, then I'd say you're pretty evenly matched. As long as he doesn't start getting more and more into having sex and is equally interested in what you're doing and how you feel and can spend time with you without having sex. and the same for you, then I think you can't start building up your trust issues once more. But do realize, that it's YOU that controls most of that. If you appear easy he might take the hint and be after you more. But if you don't then he should naturally back off and be just as happy. If you see conflicts there then you can start being concerned. But until then, why not just have fun together and let your relationship grow gradually. mostly doing fun things together, and just sometimes doing sexual things. Just make sure to control the templ. You're in charge!

[SteveBoogie]

If he only really calls you when he does want sex then that would qualify under "signs you can look for." If he personally hasn't given you any reason to NOT trust him then for your own health you should disregard your past. If you let it dominate your mind in the relationship that you do have with the guy, negative characteristics are going to bleed out, and they're a turnoff. it's like that with everybody. don't penalize this guy for things he had nothing to do with.

[SweetNthickinMD]

Well like I said yesterday was the first time we had sex in our 2 months of knowing each other and he tells me that he wouldn't waste his time getting to know me or asking about my family and friends if he just wants sex. Should I believe that? I mean he remembers things that I told him when we first started talking and to me if you just wanted sex you could care less about those little details.

[SteveBoogie]

Just speaking from personal experience I've said that stuff too and when I said it I meant it. From what we know about this guy I think he's for real. I personally don't offer the little long-ago details like that even if I DID remember them, if I'm not into her like that. Of course it's hard to trust when you've had your ass handed to you a million times, but if you don't allow room for success to happen you fail just by not trying. He's got my vote.

[wally]

I think he's a good guy trying to get to know more about you and became closer to you.