It took me months to teach my guy the right things to do but nowhe can make me have a clit O with one finger, he knows the routine perfectly. At first I explained to him that I'm very gentle there. Then I asked him not to pressure. Then I started guiding his hand every now and then, he didn't mind. And after a lot of practise he is now perfect! XD At first he would get all excited and go faster and stronger, it was very cute but he wanted to please me and I knew that so I helped him. He did the same thing with me and giving him handjobs and blowjobs.
My boyfriends a little rough some times with rubbing, fingering...stuff like that. If he's being too rough I just let him know and he slows down. Sometimes I have to put my hand on his and show him how I want him to do it. Communication is definitely important if you want the pleasure you need! I use to just let him do it however he wanted because I didn't want him to think I didn't enjoy messing around with him, but my vagina was sore one too many times. I knew I had to start saying something to him lol!
So, it appears like you've had an experience or two. Can you help me? A guy started rubbing me overtop of my underwear and leggings really roughly. He did so for quite a while and after a while he went under my leggings and rubbed just over my underwear. During this everything felt really nice. But that was last night and this is this morning almost 12 hours ago. That was my very first time ever being touched by guy at all. I am noticing that my clit is still very sensitive and hurts a lot is that normal? I'm guessing it was just like rug burn since he was rubbing so hard. Thank you
My boyfriend is actually TOO gentle, haha. He'll just touch really lightly right on my clit, but I like it much better when he's got one finger on either side of my clit (not directly on it) and rubs hard. *shrug*
Anyway, there's no harm in telling guys they should ease up.
Each girl is different and a lot of them like it rubbed hard so we don't always know speaking from a guy. But I always tend to rub and massage it very slowly and just soothe and relax her at first until I start to read her moans or if she starts grinding or taking my hand and showing me exactly how she enjoys it. I love to add a nice clit stimulating gel or massage oil at times too and slowly rub it in circles and underneath or bring out her never endings more. But I generally never go fast unless she tells me or takes my hand and does it.
I've had some girls jerk me rough, so nowadays when I'm warming up I give her a show by doing it myself for a minute. Usually that works. When it doesn't, I just throw my hands in the air, say F*** IT, and go for the intercourse. Cause when you show someone how to do something, and they don't do it after being shown, they'll never get it.
So girls, play with yourselves and make the man watch, not only will we love it, if we have brains above our neck, we'll get the hint!
Showing can help teach some things, like speed, but it can be hard to tell visually how much pressure someone is using. You could at least TRY asking them to be gentler.
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Yes, I have the sam problem! I have to remind my boyfriend to be gentler like every five seconds, and even when I do sometimes it's hard to get him to listen.
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yeah you see I'll tell him to not go so hard.. he will stop for a few sec. then go hard again
Yep. I have yet to find a solution...
Sometimes he does when he gets excited :P
I just ask him to be more gentle or ask him to go slower.
The only guy to ever go down there was too gentle ! lol I was tempted to tell him...rather show him how it's done. When it's being rubbed too softly for a long period of time, it starts to feel chafed.
yea hard concept for us to know -- just guide the guy -- or give him an example of how its done :)
have you tried moving his hand for him to show how you like it
My ex rarely ever went near my clit, so just be glad he knows where it is. lol
Well, we haven't got one so we wouldn't know, for us yanking our d*** harder and faster feels better so we apply the same logic
There's no harm in telling him, as he's playing with your clit to please you anyway so just give the guy some hints
This.
ya we REALLY don't know..how would we? personal experience? jjust like you guys really don't know how hard to stroke us. I mean any guy on this site could give a better hand job than any girl, cause he knows what it feels like.
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