Why do so many women like to be spanked during sex?

If you spanked a girl in public she would be screaming sexual harrassment but that same girl turns into a wicked little slut asking to be spanked and have her hair pulled in bed.
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  • There is a huge difference between being spanked by a stranger and by your partner asking you for a consensual situation that obviously involves a lot of trust. DO NOT grab a girl's butt if she is a stranger, it's disrespectful and you wouldn't want some random stranger grabbing your junk. However, if you are in a relationship, everyone has different sexual tastes and turn-ons. There are plenty of women who don't like being spanked and some that do, much like every individual man has a different style and interests sexually. From what I've read about S&M, girls that generally enjoy such behavior do so because it makes women feel desired (i.e. when they are being dominated, the partner is focused on them and is using a little sexual assertiveness and control). Spankings in and of themselves aren't very painful, it's more of a light sting so it's erotic. Hair pulling is also a sign of dominance (women are biologically attracted to dominance, it's a cavewoman throwback), so some women enjoy it. These aren't necessarily painful experiences, they involve trust and a mutual decision to have some light fun that is a bit naughty, no harm done.

  • If she's screaming sexual harassment then that would be implying you're a stranger. I don't really like random dudes slapping my ass.

    Anyway, personally, I like to get rough in bed. But I feel uncomfortable with my boyfriend slapping or grabbing my ass in public because I feel it brings attention to my butt, and is making people stare at my butt.

    • And that's wrong because...? They shouldn't let us look at art, either.

    • Lol. It's not wrong. Just makes me feel uncomfortable.

    • It really makes you uncomfortable the fact that we're looking at something we like?

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  • Oh yeah, a little spanking during sex,can sure do it!That goes right along with grabbing my hair/head during oral,and the guy on top during sex,pinning me down,and making me feel totally dominated.Whew,anyone else starting to feel a little warm?

    • I am, sounds like your that bad girl type

    • I guess we all have a little bit of an evil side to us.

Most Helpful Guys

  • The most common reason women like to be "dominated" in bed (spanking is a common way, other ways are putting her in submissive possitions, pulling hair, wrapping your hand around her throat, etc.) is because they feel guilty about having sex. Usually, it's because their upbringing had them very uptight and guilty about sex, and even though they have gotten past that physically, they still have that guilt mentally.

    For many women, being dominated and surrendering control of their body to their man, in a very primal way, allows them to feel like they can't be "to blame" for their sexual pleasure, because they weren't controlling it. And since they weren't in control, they get a free pass to enjoy it without having to feel guilty.

    I've talked to lots of women about this, many of them GFs who have requested rough, dominating sex, and this was more or less the answer that all of them gave.

  • I like to be bitten, scratched but if a girl bit or scratched me in public I'd bite her back, leave a mark, teach the crack'ed a lesson

    • What do you tell a girl with two black eyes? Nothing, you already told her twice! What do you call a girl with one black eye? A quick learner!

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  • Some girls like to look prim, proper, and classy out in public. They don't want anyone smacking their ass for everyone to see, but being in the bedroom alone can be a way different story! People are almost always different behind closed doors.

  • Giving permission and asking to be spanked in bed is quite a different thing from having some random guy spank you in public without your consent.

    • Well yeah I get that, but what's the appeal? Just that they can act "slutty" in te safety of their own home, or they like the pain, or is it a humiliation thing

    • It could be any number of things. There's no one reason why. And how is liking to be spanked "slutty?"

  • personally I hate being spanked...but I think its the allure of being the "bad girl"

  • God damnit, where do you meet these girls?

    • It's like every girl I've ever been with! You haven't had one?

    • no, lights on is considered risque

    • You poor poor son of a bitch. Next time you mount up behind her give her a little love tap and see what she does

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  • Cause it's hot. It's a type of domination thing which I love along with a little hair pulling.

  • LOL! Where did you find this out? O.o

    well, I imagine that it might be engraved in our genetics.

  • That's not true for all women I don't like to be so abided during sex

  • I actually prefer it to be squeezed. I think its something to do with physial sensation. Same with running your nails down a guy's back .. when you are aroused, you actually feel less sensation (except in your genitals) so it takes more touch to make an impact in your brain.

    • Like getting scratched before sex hurts but during, you can get gouged and cry for more