Women: How many abortions have you had?

[Anonymous]

Pro-Lifers please don't answer. I've had 3 not from lack of use of contraception. I've done the pill, condoms,and IUD's but still manage to get pregnant. I'm just very fertile, I've never wanted children and I probably never will. I started having sex when I was 11, and I loved it. It was with an older man who was married. I didn't love him, I loved the money he was giving me for sex. $200 bucks a f***. I was 13 When I found out I was pregnant. I didn't even tell him I was, I just asked him for some money and he just gave it to me. I knew a person who could do relatively good back alleys, so I went to them and got it done. The second time I got pregnant was while working as a stripper. I was 16 and working illegally, but I was making a good $500 a night. A guy asked me to have sex with him for $100 and I said yes. He didn't use a condom, but I was on the pill so I figured I'd be OK. Well a month later I found out I was pregnant again. Again I went to the same back alley and got the abortion done. The third time I got pregnant I was 18, and actually had a boyfriend. He was a nice guy, but I didn't care for him. When I found out I was pregnant, he surprisingly wanted the baby, but I didn't. I told him I didn't want to be tied down with a kid. I asked him for the money to get one, but he told me shove it and that if I killed his kid we were over. I was fine with that, I didn't care about him anyway. So I went to an abortion clinic and got the procedure done and I don't regret anyone of them.

[TroubleIsHrMdleNm]

I think abortion is wrong and evil and the people who are for them and get them are the worst horrible disgusting putrid scum of the Earth. I hate when people try to make it about the baby, unless the child has a decease like Ta sacks or ADL where they will die a slow painful death there is no reason to consider an abortion, even then it would be something to really think about. To the woman who say they have a right to their body and reproductive freedom, what about the babies right to live. The baby should not have to die just because you slept around and did not know how to use a condom. Even if the case of rape, the baby did not rape you and should therefore not have to suffer. Adoption is always an option. To the men who say they would want and make their girlfriend have an abortion because you don't want to have a kid, or your not ready for a kid, then you should do something to make sure she is not in a position to get pregnant. Adoption is always an option, because their are so many families out there who would want and love a wonderful gift of a baby and be able to treat it right, that their is never a need for an abortion other than being evil cruel and selfish. If you do not want a kid close your legs, and tie your tubes. And yes a fetus is a living thing, it can cry kick move have hair and finger nails, and even hear sounds. Even when it is just a little tiny cell by definition of living things it is alive, and thereby by making it not alive you are committing an horrible act of murder on an innocent baby. Why do you think they have special doctors and pills and precautions that to you have to take when you are pregnant? To protect the baby, because it is a fragile but living none the less being. It is a person, but not just a person, your child, you have a duty as it mother to protect it for 9 months and then keep it or give it up for adoption to a loving family. So even if you home life and situation would not provide for a safe and happy environment for a baby, you can give it up, and give it to a stable loving an caring family that you can meet and interview and choose prior to having the baby to ensure that it will have the best possible start, an then you could never hear from the baby again. Or your could have an open adoption and still be apart of your child's life even if you can't be the mother in the most common sense. You mother chose to allow you to live and grow, even if she was a horrible mother, she did that much, so you owe it to her, to pass on the gift of life. Say all of this to say there is never EVER a reason to have an abortion. Oh, if someone kills a pregnant woman they get charged with double homicide , why? Because the baby is alive, and so if you have an abortion you have no excuse, no reason, and your are just horrible, evil, vile, cruel, sadistic, monstrous being who dose not deserve to walk this earth because if you can kill not only a baby but a child you do not deserve to go on your merry way slut!

[Anonymous]

I have had one. and I also used contraception too, bloody thing split.. Now I want children, but at the time I had only been with my boyfriend for a few months and neither of us would have been able to support it. I did want the child, but in this day and age I think it is irresponsible to bring a child into the world if you cannot provide for it in every way..AND although this sounds a bit odd, children do come with a price tag.

I had a good lot of people around me who gave me all the facts, and they gave me the two sided dice, they didn't just tell me to get rid, nor did they tell me that if I went through with the abortion I would regret it..blah blah. I had the best advice and I was allowed to make the decision, of course I talked to my boyfriend, because he was an equal part in the making of it. But we both agreed that while we both want children, we knew it wasn't the right time or situation.

Luckly for me, because I had all the facts and advice possible, I realized that if I didn't want to go through the agony of having to actually give birth to the dead child, I instead made the decision promptly and had the medical (pill) version. Still not a pleasant thing to go through, but I think it made the process a lot easier in a way. I also remember when I was in the hospital the nurse and midwife kept asking me if I wanted pain killers, and I told them no, and they thought I was abit weird, but I didn't want them, cause I wanted to know what it felt like, I wanted to experience it, so I could make sure it never happened again.

[suztu]

I have had six over the pas10 years. Three of them we done legally at a clinic and three I had to do privately. The first two were because I was too young and stupid but the last four I just did not know who the father was. I also worked at a stripclub and massage parlor so between broken condoms and guys that just would not use a condom I got pregnant.

[38rakia38]

You both need to go get sterilized...

[Jesterface195]

Haha that's dirty as f*** man Lmao

[jacquesvol]

-My wife: none

-My ex: one (after she cheated on me, before we were having sex) I paid for it.

-My best friend (girl): one. I helped paying for it.

Thus sh*t happens indeed , I know that.

And I don't judge you.

I judge the men you're writing about. A married man paying 200$ to rape an 11 year old girl! :-P

Yes, even if you consented it's still RAPE since an 11 year old can NOT consent legally to sex .

I hope he's in jail where he belongs.

[Asker]

i wouldn't know where he is now. he's a good guy though. he was nice. I was the one who approached him actually.

[jacquesvol]

Good huy, bad guy, you approaching him, it makes no difference: it's rape: he should have refused.

[Asker]

technically yes, but if anyone ever asked me to testify against him I wouldn't.

[jacquesvol]

Yeah, this way: link link

[jacquesvol]

and it would give him the possibility to drawn other gils into prostitution.

[Anonymous]

u know if you don't stop, one day you're going to have sex with a man that beats your ass and leaves you bleeding to death on the curb... will you stop when that happens?

[Asker]

? what?

[38rakia38]

I think yer trollin.

Or your incredibly proud of being irresponsible and downright retarded.

You know, if you don't want kids...

Maybe you should invest in a hysterectomy.

Might save ya abortion money, that's money you can spend on heroin or cocaine.

[Asker]

i don't like children, never done drugs, my only crime is liking sex.

[38rakia38]

I've heard worse sob stories from Rich kids in High school. For example, "I had a baby but it died because my ex boyfriend went to test drive motorcycles and he left Rogger in the car. Rogger died." "Really, so where's the birth cert or death cert?" "Um...we hid them,." "Dude...it's public record, you can't hide that sh*t" "YEAH I CAN! I DID! IT WAS IN THE NEWSPAPER!" "Get me the article" "We...burned all the papers that day." Yeah...uh-huh.

[38rakia38]

I'm sorry but your story is dubious. I might believe it if you were homeless, dressed like a hooka, and out on the street. So I'm pretty sure your trollin for pity or just to rile people up. If for any reason I'm wrong, you should get a hysterectomy anyway. Think of it like Spaying yourself. So you don't have to keep aborting litters of children.

[Asker]

multiple abortions are actually pretty common.

[38rakia38]

Yeah, if you're an irresponsible retard. I know plenty of drug addicts who have had 1 abortion, and trust me, they may only have half a brain but they're a hell of a lot more responsible than this cockamamie story.

[Asker]

there's nothing wrong with getting multiple abortions. mistakes happen. the difference between me and you is that you think there is something wrong with abortion and I see nothing wrong with it at all.

[saphirasilverwings]

It's not a mistake if you know you're extremely fertile and never want children and still refuse to get a hysterectomy or stop having sex. You're aware that regular birth control isn't working for you. SO there is no mistake involved.

[38rakia38]

Thank you Sarah. Do you have any idea the kind of havoc you wreak on your body by getting these back alley abortions? Wait...why am I saying that, your story is bullsh*t anyway.

[Asker]

i see nothing wrong with getting multiple abortions. it only damages your ability to have more children.

[38rakia38]

Either you are incredibly retarded. Or your very good at trolling. I almost got irritated there, but then I remembered... You're just looking for attention. Because you're an attention whore.

[Asker]

just because you see it as bad doesn't mean I have to

[38rakia38]

I see as Bad because... I'm sure there's cracked out hookers who have more sense than you.

[saphirasilverwings]

It's okay to like sex, but seriously, take just a BIT of responsibility. Your story, if true, is utterly ridiculous. You can't possibly be a mentally healthy person. Or physically healthy, for that matter. What's done is done, but be more careful in the future, for your own sake if not for the people you'd hurt.

[Asker]

what people I'd hurt? I'm fine the abortions I got done were well done, and I knew someone who had them done there before

[saphirasilverwings]

For one, people who care about you who don't want to see you making a complete and utter mess of your life. For another, the fathers of the babies you aborted. It's not something you should take so lightly. You seem to be acting very selfish and careless about the whole thing.

[Asker]

i'm happy with my life, and for the first two I ididn't tell the fathers. abortion is no big deal to me.

[saphirasilverwings]

Look, even if you are pro choice, abortion SHOULD be a big deal. It is no intended to be used as birth control. It's dangerous and also, it's selfish of you not to even consider the father's feelings on the subject. Are you even a human being? Do you have NO conscience whatsoever?

[Asker]

why shouldn't I be selfish. I only live once

[saphirasilverwings]

Other people only live once too. And they are human beings who deserve respect and consideration, not toys to be used for sex and then discarded. You've hurt people- one person, anyway. The least you could do is discuss the guy's views about abortion BEFORE being impregnated by him. I'm not pro life, but I do believe that abortion should be taken seriously. It is a sad and unhealthy thing. It is NOT intended to be used as birth control. There is a difference between making a genuine mistake,

[saphirasilverwings]

or getting unlucky when your birth control fails no matter how careful you are, and simply being careless. You are doing the latter. The one benefit of mistakes is that you can learn from them. And you, my dear, are not learning.

[Asker]

there's really nothing to learn from it. at least not me. to me it's just another simple procedure.

[saphirasilverwings]

Are you really telling me that having an abortion is the time of your life? If you really don't want to have kids, WHY wouldn't it be worthwhile for you to have a tubal ligation or something?

[Asker]

it has a lot of side affects, Anxiety,Depression, mood swings Dizziness and nervousness,Fatigue,Hair loss,Headaches Heart palpitations,Insomnia,Irritability,Joint pain,Low sex drive, painful sexual intercourse,Memory lapses,Unexplained weight gain, Urinary incontinence, etc.. My side affects after each abortion aren't as bad as these. Vaginal dryness

[saphirasilverwings]

Well, whether or not you want to do that, you DO have a certain responsibility not to keep hurting people and just blundering through life as though you're invincible. I hope you will at least be more open with the men you sleep with about your feelings on abortion. They deserve to know that you might get an abortion BEFORE they risk having sex with you. (Of course, some guys wouldn't care. But the ones who would have the right to make that choice.)

[Asker]

I've learned my mistake. I know now not to tell the father anything. I would just go get it.

[saphirasilverwings]

You've entirely missed the point. How can you be so casual about hurting others? Some people really care about this.

[Asker]

it won't hurt them if they don't know. besides most guys wouldn't be upset about the abortion, they'd just be mad I didn't tell them. it's a power thing with them

[saphirasilverwings]

Not necessarily. You don't know how they'll feel about it or why until you discuss it with them. Would it really kill you to be a little bit responsible, a little bit respectful, a LITTLE bit kind, and just TALK to the guy? If you feel comfortable putting his penis inside you, you should feel comfortable clearing the abortion thing with him beforehand. If he chooses not to have sex with you because of it, you can always find another guy who doesn't care.

[Asker]

i just don't see the point in telling him. it's not like he has a limited supply of sperm. he can have as many as he wants.

[saphirasilverwings]

To some people, it's not just a matter of sperm. The issue is not whether or not he'll run out of sperm. Some people feel strongly that once conception occurs, it is an actual baby that is precious to them. I'm not saying I personally feel any which way about it. Just that because, whether or not you agree with someone, it's important to give them respect and consideration. Which in this case means giving the guy a fair chance to make his own decision. You may say "What he doesn't know won't

[Asker]

his own decision? that's just it, it's not his decision it's mine. so it makes no sense to inform him of something he has no control over

[saphirasilverwings]

hurt him", but that attitude is sneaky and selfish. The POINT of telling him is that you are being honest and considerate. You will never be able to have true, healthy, positive relationships with other people if you can't do your part to behave with integrity and take responsibility. Since you know that if you get pregnant you'll get an abortion, you should be proactive and talk to men before sleeping with them in order to help prevent hurtful situations.

[saphirasilverwings]

I believe that abortion is ultimately a woman's decision, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to prevent your choice from hurting people.

[saphirasilverwings]

Do you see what I'm saying? I'm not necessarily telling you to stop getting abortions (although I do think you've had about two too many). I'm saying that if you're going to continue to have abortions, it's important that you do it in a responsible and considerate way. It's not okay to go around hurting others when you could easily prevent it.

[Asker]

what he doesn't know won't hurt him. so I won't tell him

[saphirasilverwings]

That is not an ethical outlook on life.

[trinababy_x]

1, PEOPLE WILL JUDGE, but I didn't do it to be selfish I did it because at the time I wasn't in the right state of mind and I will give anything to have my baby back.

You really should be put on contraception if you are getting pregnant and aborting, you can f*ck up your system and end up not getting pregnant at all.

[Asker]

i never want kids so I'm OK with that

[slipslender]

none.

your life could be made into a movie though. it might win an Oscar in the Best Drama category.

[38rakia38]

Pffft, it'd make a great horror film.

[slipslender]

sigh. probably.

[hALLDAY]

obvious troll is obvious.

[Asker]

go away

[hALLDAY]

mmmkay.

[lolwhyme]

Im glad you had gotten all those abortions...because honestly...no offense, but you don't seem like you would be a good mother and the kid wouldn't have the life it deserves. I believe that if you don't think you'd be able to take of the child...have an abortion. I don't believe the Bull about "killing the baby" I'm no expert but I'm pretty sure the first week or two the baby doesn't understand much at all...

[Jesterface195]

If I pay you $100, will you delete your account? And stay away from the internet forever?

[Asker]

what's wrong with you? and you're not a woman why are you answering.

[Jesterface195]

you suck at trolling, this story doesn't even sound believable.

[Asker]

well it's true. believe it or not, I really don't care

[jacquesvol]

Those things (and worse) do happen, in your town too.

[nymets35]

close your legs. you're disgusting. freak!

[slipslender]

don't be rude.

[Asker]

are you pro-life?

[nymets35]

this person is living a very irresponsible lifestyle,getting pregnant and then aborting the fetus in alleys. um,in this case,yes I am...this is such a disgusting story that it doesn't seem real.

[Asker]

i only aborted them in alleys because I was too young to go to a clinic.

[nymets35]

an abortion in alley? abortions aren't like getting a tooth pulled,kid. it's a very delicate procedure that requires medical equipment. The risks of disease and complications from getting an abortion in alley are endless. I've never heard of such a thing.

[Asker]

it doesn't happen in alley.lol that's just the term used. all the equipment was sterilized before hand

[jacquesvol]

@nymets35, I can not know if this question is true but I know those things happen and happen often, way more than I'd like them to happen. In an ideal world those things wouldn't happen, indeed. Come down to reality please.

[nymets35]

this individual needs intensive counseling. this is shameful behavior. an abortion might be the only option or a decision that one made with much thought. But I bet they don't continue to have sex and even gloat at the fact that they "love sex" everyone love's sex. I'm very careful of who I have sex with. I use proper judgement. These sort of things can cause pyschological complications later in life. Sometimes even mental illness. This person clearly needs counseling.

[38rakia38]

What, did you dump the coat hanger in Denatured Alcohol first? Or just some bum spit?

[Anonymous]

If you never want kids, then just get fixed. You'd only have to do that once.

[Anonymous]

Your seriously disgusting, I hope your just a stupid attention seeking troll

[Anonymous]

This really sounds like the sort of made up story a pro-lifer would come up with, to show how horrible the pro-choice crowd are.

[Asker]

i'm not a bad person.

[Opinion Owner]

So you're not denying the accusation then...

[Asker]

i'm not a pro-lifer either

[saphirasilverwings]

Well thanks for calling the pro choice crowd horrible. Not everyone is so extreme.

[Opinion Owner]

should have been more clear... "how horrible they think the pro-choice crowd are"

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R4bdqF5gwVw

[Anonymous]

i've had one when I was 17. I was on birthcontrol and it was with a serious boyfriend but I wasn't ready and I really didn't see myself with that guy for much longer so I did it. back then I hated myself for it but now that I'm older, I wouldn't change what I did and I'm happy with my decision.

[Anonymous]

I can't help but wonder whether this is a true story or not. It sounds like every possible questionable thing there is associated with sex.

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like YOU'VE DONE every possible questionable thing... sorry garbled sentence... but seriously. Prostitution, statutory rape, under the table abortions? Sheesh, do you even have parents? be grateful you're still alive, and be MUCH more careful in the future.

[Asker]

i ran away when I was 12, and moved to New York.

[Opinion Owner]

Boy oh boy.

[kgrrl2323]

if you ran away at 12, how did you take care of yourself? and how did you learn about sex at such a young age?

[38rakia38]

She's full of sh*t, that's why.

[Asker]

i actually lived on the streets for a while, but with the money from prostituting I was able to afford food and clothes.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, that's just great. Weren't you an intelligent little whipper snapper.

[Asker]

i was just trying to survive, that's not wrong. girls gotta eat

[Opinion Owner]

Here is an excellent way to survive: Live with your parents. Be a good kid. Go to school. Get an actual LEGAL job in order to support yourself. Why did you run away when you were 12? Even if you were being abused, just disappearing off into the street was NOT the way to do it. There are organizations that would have helped you.

[Asker]

i actually liked my life and my job. not all prostitutes are sad little girls who have low self esteem. I guess I've always liked sex and I enjoyed getting paid for it. now it wasn't always perfect, but it beats being a waitress and its way more money.

[Opinion Owner]

Don't you ever want to share your life with a man who will love you? How can you do that if you keep this up? And if you don't want that, I simply feel sorry for you. Someone must have forgotten to include the capacity for emotions while you were being made.