Yes, give him a bj. Try this: First, get your mind straight. Just because it’s called a “blow job” doesn’t mean you should view it as a job. He can see it on your face if you don’t enjoy sucking on his “friend” – and that’s NOT the attitude you want to convey. You have to love his cock.
It’s all about preparation. Make every blowjob one of a kind, unique, memorable. How do you prepare? Candles, good lights, music, some wine, fix up the atmosphere, spice it up. Look good. Make it special.
Throw him in the couch. Seductively, naughtily, with a sexy smile on your face. Look at him with fascination. You slowly get on your knees in front of him, unzip and take his pants off. Make a happy, surprised look – as if you just saw your favorite ice cream, and you are starving to death.
Men are visual. Pull your hair back, so that he can see you completely and enjoy the view. Massage his legs seductively, get closer to his cock. Before it grows large, put the entire thing in your warm, wet mouth – moan with pleasure. Slowly suck on his **** as it grows large in your dripping wet mouth.
A few “aaahs” and “mmms” are essential. There’s nothing better than the magic words when giving a blow job. No BJ is perfect without the right words entering his ear. Compliment him, tell him how much you love His **** in your mouth. Use your hands. Combine fast and slow strokes. Be his p*rn star, not a nun.
When you get tired, rest your mouth, stroke him. Be his “slut”, be dirty, sexual – free. Do whatever you want to do. He won’t think you’re a slut if you swallow, on the contrary – he’ll love you for it. So get dirty and slut it up.
Speed it up as you come to the finish. Involve his balls in the game. A perfect blowjob isn’t just with your mouth. Use your whole body. Let him see your sexy ass, thongs, a sexy necklace. The way to turn him on is by being turned on by yourself. You have to feel sexy in your body. It’s all about positioning.
Tickle his balls, lick them and suck on them gently. Use your sexy nails to drive him wild. Hold his shaft, lick it up and down sexily while looking him deep in the eyes.
Now you start pumping his **** faster. Fast, and short strokes. Pump, pump and pump some more. Moan louder, suck harder, stroke faster. And then – he starts shooting, and screaming, and popping his eyes out of his brain. Pull his **** out and pump it out gently. Open your mouth, show him what he gave you. Giggle. Then swallow all of it. Smile happily, give his **** a few more kisses and sucks – clean it up. ;) Of course – you can always get even better. I recommend you read Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, probably the best book ever written about satisfying your guy sexually, by clicking on the link
You both should read a book about having sex, foreplay, and other biological info about boht of your bodies. The Joy of Sex by Alex comfort ( link ) would be a great place to start.
As for your questions, yes a man gets flaccid after each ejaculation. Sometimes, like when it has been a long time, a man can continue engaging in sexual activity without losing his erection until the next orgasm. You shouldn't expect this to happen though. If you want sex after a blowjob, you should consider having sex first and letting him finish during the BJ.
Different things turn on different guys, but try running your fingers up the curve of his spine, kissing and licking in his ear, or backing your butt up to him and rubbing it against his man parts.
In general if you're not happy with how an encounter is going (like having sex without foreplay) it is best to just tell him at the time. You are entitled to say what you're thinking to your sexual partner and it will help him satisfy you more and vice versa.
Thank you! What about having a bj then stopping before he cums so that you can continue by having vaginal sex? but then this kind of feels like your starting something off but not finishing it the way he wants :S much appreciate your comment!
Well, my guess is that you two will have plenty of opportunities, so sometimes he can finish during sex and other times oral. I had a girlfriend a few years ago who almost always wanted to finish sex by having me come in her mouth, like, 90% of the time. There's no harm in mixing things up. Variety is the spice of life.
Have a bj first then let him go down on you, it's different for all guys but I usually get hard within 8-9 min some people are less some more(that's just from masturbating though I don't have a hot girl to turn me on like he does so it coukd be quicker)
If he's going to do a good job then the oral should last quite a while to make him hard again, just after kiss him and play with his thing to get it up faster, play with his balls aswell
Even though I'm a virgin I was thinking leave out my blowjob and just do her oral then sex, as the first orgasm feels the best, 2nd still feels good but not as good
So I would want my best orgasm with her during sex
But the 2nd erection lasts longer and less come so that's good
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What works 'best' will depend on:
- how fast he ejaculates
- how fast he can get had again.
The good and bad news is that young guys tend to be fast on both those.
If he recovers fast, one option would be: blowjob to completion, then he gives you oral, then you have sex when he's ready again. For a lot of young guys, this would probably be ideal. If he needs 20 minutes between, you could even cuddle a bit after the bj before starting oral on you. But he'll be calmer and last longer during sex on round 2.
If he lasts a long time before ejaculating, then doing bj leading to sex works well. If not, don't overdo it on the bj if its a 'lead in'. Getting a bj as foreplay, then having sex, does not feel like being cheated ;) You can go back and forth. Most guys will get really excited if you pull it out during sex, do a bj for a bit, then return to sex. Although exciting, it breaks the rhythm so may help him last. Similarly, if he's going to come too fast, he could stop, give you oral for a couple minutes, then resume.
When my wife and I started having sex, most often I'd pull out after her orgasm, but maybe a minute or so before mine, and she'd finish me with oral, and I'd finish in her mouth.
Have fun. When you've been together longer, a lot of couples find a pattern of moves that 'works best' i.e. everyone reliably orgasms. But they tend to overuse that pattern. Just because a meal is your favorite doesn't mean you should eat it every meal. There's an advantage to mixing things up, even if sometimes it means he cums 5 seconds after penetration and you have to switch back to oral or wait. These days where you explore each other are really some of the most fun.
Tell him and be honest... Tell him you want to get oral first
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