I 've realised that there is some kind of an instict that make us, men, want to protect our loved ones and more "vulnerable" people when needed. When my best friend had some difficult times I felt so much rage and some kind of responsibility to protect him and help him. My stress got on a peak level and I was very alerted. I was thinking very bad and cruel things for the people that made him suffer so much. But I 've got another simpler example, when I was at the college there was this girl in our group. One day we were a group of 4 people (2 men and 2 women) walking while in front of us was a cruel fight of a couple that were moving towards us, this girl was in front of me. I instictively grabbed this girl and moved her towards me and then almost behind me. I didn't realise what I did and why I did it. Then she playfully said as a joke "ohh you tried to protect me" and I said "no I didn't, there was no actual danger. I don't know why I did this". But I think it's a survival and altruistic instict that men might have got evolutionary. Maybe a testosterone and adrenaline boost to protect a female from danger.
Yep, friends, family, girlfriends, total strangers, girls I don't particularly like. We're hard wired from birth to save the damsel in distress whether she likes it or not.
I don't think every guy has this. In all honesty, I can't picture my boyfriend or brothers actually standing up for me. I know my brothers wouldn't, when I have gone to them for help they say oh well, not their problem. Even though my boyfriend is a tough guy who was in the military and like hunting and knives and guns I can't actually picture him standing up for me. We have been dating 5 months and known each other for 9 I don't think he cares enough about me to stand up for me.
hm.. that sounds weird... they probably care and are doing a good job of hiding it!
Doubt it. I really don't think they care.
It sounds like you need a new boyfriend.
All of the guys in my family are very protective of me and other other women...even if they don't know the women. They feel that women should be protected. My boyfriends have been the same way. Even after we've broken up, they look out for me. I'm surrounded by good men. :)
from my experience with my four older brothers, YES! sometimes it really sucks the fun out of everything but it's also nice because they can spot the bad guys easily, although every guy is a bad guy to them them so...
the same with every dad uncle grandad and male realitives on the side lol
its not to ruin your chances. its that whole "we want you to stay a kid" type thing. not grow so fast, ya know? so we decide that every guy is a "bad guy". lol
it's just a little ironic because they weren't exactly the nicest boys when they were my age
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I think guys know how full of sh*t most guys are so they know that the odds of someone messing with someone they care about can be pretty high.
I'm protective until I've decided I don't like them. Then it turns into a homicidal instinct. I can literally relate to every serial killer ever when I encounter the wrong girls.
woah lol so what would you consider "wrong girls"?
Well I'm a veteran of online dating. So I've seen the worst of the worst. Usually if a girl is stuck up or acts entitled. Or she just has annoying habits. She's manipulative of the people around her. Like if she cries to try and get her way... I'm very sensitive to genuine distress, but manipulative crying and I have to leave, my blood boils.
I think men are just naturally protective of women, it doesn't have to be their girlfriend or sister
i think many modern men these days are not protective over women at all and this is very disappointing since I find this to be a turn off i wish more guys these days would still maintain some of the really important old fashioned vaues i actually find it to be attractive
Yes, definintely. It's just instinctual to protect the ladies- we don't really try to, it just happens. We don't like other men treading into our territory because we know how they think and what they're after. We don't feel comfortable with other men coming around to "use" the females in our lives for anything. As guys, we feel (in our own heads) that we are the ones that truly treat the ladies in our lives the best, and that another guy won't treat her as well as we do.
So just like how women seem to have a motherly or nurturing instinct...men have the protective, fatherly instinct. Though ours is less pronounced and sometimes takes a connection to really bring it out, it still exists.
Ok, so women are some kind of territory? some products that need to be protected? What about women who don't have a man to protect them? it gets more messed up when you dive deep into it. Just as you are trying to protect your female extensions from other men, other men are trying to protect their from yours. "We are the ones that truly treat ladies in our lives the best" yeah explains why majority of women are raped by a man they already knew or thousands of women who get killed in the name of honor by their male relatives who felt that other men barged into their property and ruined it. Last but not least, if men are truly this way, then men shouldn't get mad when women say #yesallmen because they take every man as a predator, just like their male "protectors. "
@moimaris @elements why you two as women reacted with "😍" to this opinion. He literally wrote, "We don't like other men treading into our territory." You two fully understand what that means right?
@obital It's one of those life things. Men only care about and love what they consider theirs. If the community is theirs they'll protect it, if the woman is theirs they'll protect her. Everything outside of that is a threat an opportunity or to be ignored. Men love things more than people in many instances because they can control things, utilise things and things are theirs. Think of the undying bond between a man and his car/motorbike/dog. Women are things in their minds and the more women try not to be things, the less she fits into a male paradigm and become 'to be ignored'. Many men stand by while women that don't register in some way to them are abused physically, sexually, emotionally etc. Men who are more female identified can see the humanity in people a bit more and respect people as individuals first and tools second but that's a small number and takes a lot of nurture to produce. I say all of this as a woman.
Every "grown up" guy I personally have, one way or another, displayed a protective instinct for anyone they care about, including women.
I meant: "Every "grown up" guy I personally KNOW..."
I think I do for women I care about. I don't think they need me to protect them, though.
for physical harm yes, however for verbal harm I wish more women were independent for that
Yes I am extremely protective of girls I know. Like one time I punched a guy because he was being an ass to one of my female friends and I'm just always looking out for them, no matter if it's my girlfriend or just a friend I care about.
im protective of woman who deserve it and who I care for, as for someone trying to get with someone I'm protective over as long as there happy ill bite my toung even if I hate them but the minute they hurt her then well it won't be pretty, but yes I think most good guys are instinctively protective
depends on how close I am to them, I don't have any sisters and have never had any sisters, have never really had any close female friends in my life-time
Protective, yes, even to girls I don't know if I feel they're in some kind of danger. And no on the jealous part.
I'm not
you've never been protective or concerned about any woman in your life? do you have a mom or sisters?
yes, mom and sister
Honestly when it comes to being protective I have to say yes. Even when just out roaming around, when I see something happening especially towards women there is a switch that is flicked in your subconscious that honestly makes you very protective and sometimes you don't even realize it. I'm personally protective of both the people I love (girlfriends and such) as well as my family such as my siblings. I don't really get jealous of other guys hanging out with my female friends, just because they can do what they want. But, if the guys are making them feel uncomfortable and I pick up on it, then the switch is flicked and I become more protective.
Only if I care about the girl. If not, I couldn't care less.
a few months ago I was with some of my guy friends and there was about to be a fight between them and another group...the first thing they did was make sure I was in a car so no one could get to me...now me and the guy who decided I needed to be safe are more then friends :)
guys' answers are so cute!
from all of my experiences all guys are pretty much protective of any girl. my best friend is a guy and when ever I'm around him or talking to him he is always trying to look out for me, and like even his friends who I don't know nearly as well are just as protective of me as he is. its just how guys are they are naturally protective over girls.
Um, hell yes. Once I was seeing this girl, and she pointed out this other guy at school and confessed to me that she'd made out with him a week before we started seeing each other.
Honestly, she didn't really even do anything wrong, I can recognize that. Yet for some reason, even though I understand the logic, I was still pissed at the guy. Even now, months later when me and that girl aren't even seeing each other anymore, I STILL have a small grudge against him. It's nothing I would ever act upon nor would I ever be uncivil with the guy, but there's still that little part of me that wants to punch him in the face sometimes.
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