Guys - what would you consider sexual tension?

[Redredrose]

This guy and I like each other yet we've been down this bumpy road of avoiding talking about it or facing it. It felt like it to me but I would want other opinions. We were REALLY pissy with each other tonight. Not too hurtful or nasty but definitely feisty, sarcastic, and obnoxious. We were at each others throats yet it wasn't something that was going to end up w us hating each other. It FELT like se*ual tension, considering we have been flirting and being silly for awhile now *almost a year* and nothing has happened. We just kept making obnoxious comments to each other and I SWEAR he gets under my skin! I even SAID he does and he flashed a smile and then continued to be snippy. I then said I knew he Loved it. And continued being snippy myself. He then said he couldn't WAIT to leave yet continued to bicker with me *remember it wasn't nasty bickering - just the type to big each other * he then said goodbye, smiling, and said one of mt catch phrases that I LIKE to say, not him. Is it me or was that a type of se*ual tension? It's like we couldn't HELP but annoy each other . Is this a form of se*ual tension?///

[amameninas]

Sarcastic, obnoxious behavior to me expresses frustration from some sort of failure. Undoubtedly he wants to advance with you sexually. Perhaps he had failed to move on you because he is too shy(!) to do so or you have either declined him or made yourself unapproachable by your manner. If this interplay is the general character of your relationship, you do not have a healthy one and "opening up" for him is not going to fix it.

In this condition, I would suggest walking away, but if more of your time your relationship is fun and harmonious, I would stop following him into sniping sessions. There is no need to win them and you don't lose if you don't fight. The next time you are making out and there was no sniping session, it might be time to go to second base. Giving him a hand with obtaining a DNA sample on a handy towel might change the climate of your relationship in a positive way.

[Redredrose]

most of the time it's pretty happy. He does tease me and I try to beat him to it. Some nights he's super happy to talk, others, not so much. If you see from my other posts...he mumbles things to me too but will never repeat them. It drives me nuts.

[Brando]

I guess it could be sexual tension. When I think of sexual tension, I think of the feeling of "I want to f*** you, but we can't right now"...like that. Or it could be a strong attraction to someone because of what they're doing or how they act, but this could lead back to the previous point of wanting to do something to them but you can't.

But the playful fighting or "arrogance" might be getting your feelings excited, so it could be sexual tension.

[Apodyopsis]

You both sound like two sexless teenagers aching to strip off their clothes and penetrate every orifice in every way imaginable.

Just shag already.

[Redredrose]

That's the frustrating part. We're both stupid ridiculous adults. :(

[Apodyopsis]

:(

[Redredrose]

So I wasn't stupid to think that this is what it seems to be. He REALLY wanted to get under my skin! Ugh! And he liked it?! WTF?!

[Apodyopsis]

It's like he's a little boy & he likes you so he tries to p*ss you off on purpose. My friends tend to do that because apparently I'm really cute when I get pissed :P

[Redredrose]

It hurts when he does it though! And I'm not one to get mad or pissy! Did you read my update above? It could have been avoided! He's done this type of thing twice now in a week!

[Apodyopsis]

If it bothers you that much, then you should talk to him about it then. He's clearly doing this out of spite, so confronting him's the only way to end it.

[Redredrose]

I'm not sure if it's spite. I don't know what it is. Like I said before, it's not to the point where we end up hating each other, we just get obnoxious. Sometimes laugh about it, sometimes not.

[dreamishobby]

you just had a fight!...where was sex in it to create sexual tension?

[Anonymous]

I have no idea what you are talking about! What sexual tension if there is no sex? Have sex with the guy before he leaves you or you kill each other! If neither of you ever had sex before yes what you are experiencing is the childish teasing of teenagers not knowing what makes them so restles. A couple good orgasms would cure the problem.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It leads to hot angry sex. Just bone.