How to tell if a guy wants more than casual sex?

[kim2011]

So I was seeing a guy for 2 months and made it clear from the start that it was just casual sex (I was not ready for a relationship) , he was happy with this, it has always been on my terms as in I would call him when I wanted him to come over and he would come whenever I wanted him to. After 2 months I started developing proper feelings for him that I couldn't ignore so I made the decision to end it as I still didn't want a relationship and couldn't just sleep with him anymore as it was too complicated with the feelings I had. I told him that I was ending it as I was developing feelings for him and that I didn't want to develop feelings like that for him. he was just like 'oh sh*t realy'. then a few weeks later he texted me and asked me to meet again for sex, I told him no and he told me he had feelings for me too. I didn't believe him as I thought he was just saying that to get sex from me so I didn't meet him. 4 months passed and I decided to start seeing him again (was over him by this stage, I thought) BUT I'm not. and he's acting different this time. after sex he used to just leave like within 5 minutes. now he stays and cuddles and kisses me for ages and talks to me like really trying to get know me, and sharing a lot about himself. im not over him and REALLY like him. please help does he want more? what should I do? I'm scared to ask him in case he doesn't...

[ryanrhino]

Maybe watch 'No Strings Attached' alone, then watch it with him, but mostly watch his reactions as he watches the movie.

Don't be scared to be honest with him. You weren't too scared to ask us! You took a chance to get to know him. Someone has to initiate the conversation, why not you?

[kim2011]

Thanks, Lol I've never watched a movie with him that'd be so funny - 'hey come around please I've got a film for us to watch' and then put that on, OMG lol! I guess I'm scared in case he doesn't feel the same, no one likes rejection and if he didn't feel the same then I would really have to end things for good as I couldn't continue sleeping with him after that :(

[darlanoy0510]

Well he sounds like he likes you and I think you should give me him chance too. If he doesn't want to get to know you he would leave right after the deed. To test him maybe you should not have sex with him but just spend time with him.

[kim2011]

Thanks, I hope so!

[darlanoy0510]

When you guy had FWB relationship does he ever stay over night with you? Do you ever stay over his place before?

[kim2011]

He has never stayed overnight but that is because he works 7 days a week and starts work at 5am (yes it is true lol), and lives an hour drive away so he couldn't really sleep over. and in the 2 months he didn't have any time off so he didn't get to stay over but said he would on his time off. and I haven't been to his place as he lives with parents at the moment, but is getting his own place soon

[darlanoy0510]

Oh OK after he get his own place maybe he'll ask you to go over and hang out with no sex involve.

[Shaun]

Female logic at it's finest. I like you, so I better end this. lol

[kim2011]

Lol I was not in a space to deal with it at the time I was not ready for a relationship having come out of one where I was cheated on, that's why I made it clear that it was casual sex from the beginning, I knew if I developed feelings I would have to end it as I just simply couldn't deal with that at the time it would have driven me insane to keep sleeping with him lol. And yeah now like you always hear that guys would never actually properly date a girl they have been with casually...